Hi Debbie,
We have a few folks who have dealt with modded ebikes before, so hopefully we can get you going. If it's really as simple as replacing the connector I'd be happy to help you with it next Tuesday! Just come on by, there should be a sign on the front door with a number to text or you can go to the doorbell at the side door.
Do you have the replacement connector that you need or do you need help picking that out as well? If you have the connector then it should really take about 5 minutes to swap it.
A quick google for "xt90 to deans connector" also turned up some converter cables/dongles for a few bucks... but I wouldn't consider this for a permanent solution. With the types of currents you'll be pulling out of this battery, the last thing you want to do is introduce more resistance into the system, essentially adding failure points where wires or connectors might get fried.
Zak