A
psychiatrist was consulted by a man whose marriage and career were
both in serious trouble. His problem was his constant irritability and
bad temper. He was concerned about this himself, but if any one tried
to discuss it with him, he exploded in anger. He constantly told
himself that everyone was picking on him and that he had to defend
himself against them.
To counter the negative auto
suggestion, he advised him to use positive auto suggestion. Several
times a day in the morning, noon, and at night prior to sleep he was to
repeat to himself.
From now on,
I shall grow more humor, joy, happiness,and cheerfulness are now becoming my natural states of mind.
Every day I am becoming more and more lovable and understanding.
I will be center of cheer and goodwill to all those around me, infecting them with my good spirits.
This happy, joyous, and cheerful mood is now becoming my normal, natural state of mind. I am grateful.
After a month, his wife and his coworkers remarked on how much easier he was to get along with.
The
things that drive you crazy are actually giant opportunities. The
people who press your buttons are actually your greatest teachers. The
issues that make you angry are actually your biggest gifts. Be grateful
to them. Love them.
The people or circumstances that take
you out of your power have extraordinary value: they reveal your
limiting beliefs, fears and false assumptions. The celebrated
psychologist Carl Jung once said: "Everything that irritates us about
others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves." Powerful point.
The things that irritate, annoy and anger you are entry points into
your evolution and elevation as a human being. They are signposts for
what you need to work on and the fears you need to face. They are gifts
of growth. You can blame the people who trigger you and make it all
about them. Or you can do the wise thing and look deeply into yourself
to discover the reason for your negative reaction. Use the challenges
to grow self-awareness. Because how can you overcome a fear you are not
even aware of? And how can you transcend an insecurity you don't even
know you have?
As you begin to shed light on your personal
weaknesses and take responsibility for them, you actually begin the
very process of shedding them. You become stronger. More powerful. You
begin to see the world through a different set of eyes.