Welcome to Max's World
This article was really sad but eye opening to bipolar disorder. It
was horrifying to read that Max first tried committing suicide when he
was 7 by jumping out the window. I can't even imagine how that
affected his parents and what I would do if someone I knew tried that.
In the article it said that bipolar kids "flit rapidly between
emotions," and Max displayed this when he went home one day and he
went through anger at first for getting in trouble, then shame at
disappointing his parents, fear that everyone was out to get him, and
finally happy and playing with the dog. His parents have to have so
much strength and patience to get through each day, because everyday
could hold a completely different mix of emotional outbursts.
Before Max's diagnosis, he was volatile and always throwing tantrums.
His daycare threatened to throw him out, and his parents finally had
to seek medical answers. This disorder, if the onset is at a young
age, makes it so hard for parents to raise their kids. Max wouldn't
respond to his father's strict discipline or his mother's bargaining.
It not only affected Max, but his parents as well. They fought about
how to raise him and once medicine became involved, what medicines and
hospitalization they would have to deal with. Because Max is so
uncontrollable, normal parenting doesn't really work.
Joseph Jankowski was the first to tell Amy and Richie that their son
might have bipolar disorder, but told them little else. Max was
started on medicine, first on Depakote. Although Amy was more open to
medicine, it must be hard to put a toddler on strong psychoactive
drugs, not knowing if it will help or hurt him. It would be such a
hard decision to make for such a young person, that may not even work.
This medicine didn't work, so they tried another. There wasn't a
definitive answer, which makes the disease even more hard to handle
because nothing truly helped.
Max was kicked out of his daycare soon after. He had to be moved to a
public school special education program, but the workers were unable
to handle or control him. Amy would have to pick him up and bring him
home, and he was suspended for months. This puts a strain on the
family, because they have to be able to financially support him, but
can't if they can't find a place that can take care of him and get him
help. They then brought Max to Jean Frazier, a child psychiatrist, who
used behavioral therapies as well as drugs. He began going to Manville
School, a special education school. Now Max was getting more of the
support he needed and was in a better setting to learn not only
academics but also social skills and controlling his anger. The
article says that in one year Max tried 8 different psychoactive
drugs. That's so crazy to think about because they're probably very
strong but didn't help him which is also sad.
Amy and Ritchie were still so affected by everything. They fought,
lost friends, and bipolar disorder began to consume their lives. They
had always wanted another child, but with Max it would be extremely
difficult, and they questioned the genes they would be passing on.
Although they considered adopting, this is so sad because they can't
even really have another child, because of the calculated risk. They
clearly love Max, but know how up and down he can be. When he was 7
and a half he was on so many drugs that no one knew if they were
helping or hurting him. He had so many side effects that the question
becomes whether it is really necessary. This is when the took him off
all drugs. I can see why they would, nothing was helping and it was
their next best shot. But he was only worse, and was extremely
suicidal. I don't know how the Blake's dealt with all this and it must
have been extremely difficult. They then put him in a children's
psychiatric hospital, which no parent wants to do. I can't imagine
what it would be like to put a child in, or a sibling, but it must
have been devastating. The amount of drugs he's been on, 38, is a
depressing amount, and the Blake's are so strong to be able to keep
hope that something will work.
The best part about the article is when it talks about Max's best
friend from school, and how he helps kids who need help calming down
after an outburst. He's not a bad kid, but the disorder makes him
unmanageable. Instead of talking about his feelings, he draws them and
acts them out. This definitely would make it easier to communicate,
and it's better than trying to force him to talk. He also rides
horses, which is therapeutic for him, and does karate. These
activities help get out his anger in a controlled setting.
Although Richie loves his son, it's clear from the article that he
wishes his son could be a "typical" boy that rides bicycles and plays
sports. I feel bad for him, because it's obviously hard for him to
connect with his son. He also doesn't seem like a fan of therapy. Him
and Amy tried it a few times, and stopped. I think they should have
continued, because even though it could be uncomfortable at first, it
could help them solve issues and deal with problems in a better way.
The saddest part of the article was when it talked about Max's fits of
mania. To outsiders, and his parents a bit, he looks like an overly
excited child. But it's really a symptom of bipolar disorder. It ended
on a positive note by talking about good moments with Max, and showed
that there is always hope.