Yael Clark, Psychologist
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Hi.I don't really know how I became a member of your list. Would you please remove me from this list as it is extremely annoying to continually receive irrelevant emails such as these.Thankyou
Sent: Thursday, April 12, 2007 11:21 AMSubject: [ANZJFT: 190] Re: "irrelevant emails"
I agree Grevis. I think one of the reasons men sometimes don’t feel listened to is that for the therapist to acknowledge the perspective of others in the relationship seems like a slight in itself, as you say a challenge to the “benefits” of being male, or just a challenge to acknowledge the validity of emotion instead of seeking practical solutions. Tricky.
In the vein of not declaring war on men, I sometimes think we’re a bit quick to expect men to be scared of the touchy feely. Surely enough many are, but some pretty rugged blokes can respond quickly to the opportunity to express themselves emotionally. But maybe it is linked to motivation; what’s in it for me to let my guard down?
Craig
Date: Wed, 11 Apr 2007 21:55:49 +1000
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Thomas W. Blume, Ph.D., LPC, LMFT, NCC Associate Professor Department of Counseling Oakland University Rochester, MI 48309-4401 (248) 370-3069 www.ircounseling.com
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----- Original Message -----From: Tom BlumeSent: Thursday, April 12, 2007 12:25 AMSubject: [Norton AntiSpam] [ANZJFT: 197] Re: [ANZJFT: 195]I've been silent through all this discussion, which is not my normal style. I think it's because I find it so hard to generalize about men (even though I have been known to do so occasionally). I consider gender to be a powerful organizer of our experiences, and I see many social forces operating to turn men into a separate species, but I continue to see amazing exceptions. (I love to watch people's faces as I tell my story of going from army sergeant in Vietnam to nursery school and daycare teacher). I worry that we are likely to walk into a room with an individual, a couple, or a family and only perceive what we are prepared for.
In the end, I don't think that trying to make sense of them (us) as a group is very helpful. Becoming more flexible and better able to engage with others--unique, surprising, and sometimes frustrating others--is something that continues to challenge me.
Tom Blume
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