Poetic language makes nations accountable. One of the aims of literature, in my humble opinion, is to reveal and call out nuances and abuses of power. Democracy is presumed benign and egalitarian, however, in practice, inequities in society reveal themselves: unequal public education, unfair housing practices, gender discrimination at work, and lack of quality healthcare are but a few examples.
Poets like Airea D. Matthews, Muriel Rukeyser, Langston Hughes, C.D. Wright, and Aja Monet have made literature a place where we closely examine economic disparities and social injustices. We protest all manner of unfairness. Right now, as I speak, someone is penning a poem against war. This is what makes literature in a free society vibrant and vital. Where principles of fairness are absent, or reigning attitudes do not acknowledge the humanity of others, poetry serves as a platform for valid discontent. This is true across the globe.
I am a 67-year-old gay man and am seriously flummoxed by a situation that I never expected to experience. After the shattering breakup of a long-term relationship fifteen years ago, I entered a period of apathy about romance and sex that lasted until very recently. I was not celibate during that time, but I believed that the possibility of emotional and sexual intimacy with a partner was over for me.
A couple of months ago, after being a full-time caregiver for my father for two years and then settling him into assisted living, I suddenly felt like that part of me was reawakening. My desire for sexual contact increased dramatically, as did the yearning for an emotional and intellectual connection with a man. Obviously, the world of gay dating and hooking up had changed enormously during my dormant period, and, for the first time, I began using apps.
What is gong on? I'm on a roller coaster, careening between excitement and horror. Am I a creep? A fool? Is my judgment impaired? I started out by rationalizing it as just a bit of fun, but it is clearly more than that. Should I just end it? Nothing in my life, be it upbringing, education, training, or personal experience has prepared me for this baffling situation and I am, for once, truly without bearings. I have never before sought third-party advice on matters of the heart and loins, but I badly need it now.
All that said, DAD, if the affections of a consenting adult 40+ years your junior is your particular perk of aging, I say enjoy it. Just keep your expectations realistic (a successful STR is likelier than a successful LTR), don't do anything stupid (see Father Clements, below), and take a moment to reacquaint yourself with the Campsite Rule:
Campsite Rule: For older-younger pairings, the idea is simple: Leave the younger partner better off than you found them. Don't get them pregnant (or get pregnant by them); don't give them a sexually transmitted infection; don't lead them to believe it's likely to be a forever thing (but who knows?); and do support them in their sexual exploration by helping with their knowledge and confidence, and treating them well.
While the age difference will creep some out, DAD, that doesn't mean you're a creep. Don't want to be a fool?
Don't do anything foolish (see Father Clements, below). Worried about love-impaired judgment leading you to do something foolish? Confide in a few trusted friends about your relationship and ask them to smack you upside the head if you start paying his rent or lending him your credit cards. And just as you don't want to take advantage of this young man's youth and/or inexperience, DAD, you don't want to be taken advantage of either. We associate age with power, but youth and beauty confer their own kinds of power and that power can lead to seemingly sensible 79 year olds signing their life savings over to 24-year-old Romanian "models":
* I sloppily cited CMBYN as an example of intergenerational love, which it didn't portray. It leapt to mind because it of the significant age difference between the two characters who fall in love. Seven years isn't that significant when you're, say, 23 and 30 (Terry was 23 and I was 30 when we met), but it's pretty significant when you're talking about 17 and 24.
I recently started up a Plant/Savage Dominator, and I'm kind of in love with it. I let public opinion push me away, initially, but I'm now pushing level 20 after only a couple hours of play and finding myself having a blast.
The Savage Melee/Assault powers have a mechanic called Blood Frenzy, which slightly buff your global recharge and endurance reduction. You can stack up to five Frenzies at once, and you can spend them to increase the damage of either your PBAoE attack or your most damaging ranged ST attack. Handy at lower levels, but mostly used to pump the damage to your frenzy-spending powers at higher levels in my experience.
Call Hawk: You literally sic a hawk on someone. Highest ranged ST damage in the set, with added Lethal DoT. It consumes your Blood Frenzy, and at 5 stacks is increases the power's Damage/DoT Duration further.
Feral Charge: An attack which teleports you into melee and deals lethal damage as well as Lethal DoT. The further away you use it, the more damage it deals and the more bloos stacks it can give you. By the time Hasten is perma, this power recharges in under 3 seconds, allowing you to spam it as a way to bounce into and out of melee.
In terms of actual damage, it's probably middle of the pack due Lethal damage being heavily resisted. In terms of fun factor, I'm having a blast with its feral aesthetic and the piles and piles of tiny numbers floating around at all times from both Roots and my Savage Assault Powers.
I got my plant/savage rogue dom up to level 27 yesterday. I'm having a lot of fun with her, apart from when she gets overwhelmed by (what often feels like) hordes of +1 lieutenants that must surely bathe two or three times a day in Roundup. I gotta say, though, I don't fully understand the thinking behind 'savage assault'. The melee attacks are savage enough, sure, but I'm not sure how that correlates to the summoning of birds and (oh, no, not the) bees (ahh) like a mindless masterpet. It's kinda odd. Which, oddly enough, is why I went with it in the first place. Also went with that new Force of Will pool, which is also kinda savage, in a forcefully willful way.
Got a dark/savage dom to 50. I enjoyed the ride but having a hard time with the right chain for attacks and such. Not the highest damage and slotting was a challenge to get where I wanted her to be......will probably respec again and experiment one more time with her build
I enjoy playing savage. I have a 50 dark/savage. I tend to open with a posses on an annoying mob type or on a buffer, if we have a good tank I then crow followed by fear, immediately use the TP strike to get in middle hit flurry then stun. Then either fly out of middle and crows again or just stay in the fray with the few mobs that are left. My umbra beast usually meets me in the middle doing pretty decent damage on the way.
I am perma dom and hasten, no purples yet and my defenses aren't capped yet, though I am working on it. The play style is fun and fast. I don't use the hard controls unless the team gets into trouble. YMMV.
Savage Melee had a few issues going on with it for a while. I think a power wasn't dealing any damage and MIDS displayed the wrong damage numbers. I've seen far more /Savage Assault players than I ever had once the changes finally hit. Hopefully the trend will continue :D.
I've been having a ton of fun with my dark/savage. With permadom and softcap S/L I can stay in melee and crunch up mobs with repeated feral charges and rending flurries. The target cap for those two powers is pretty low, however.
Frosticus, did you take Flurry and/or Call Hawk on your savage?
I'm trying to figure out whether taking and using those 'spender' powers is ideal for DPS or if proccing out the other attacks and having 5 stacks of blood frenzy constantly for the end redux and recharge bonus would be better.
I don't love rending flurry, but I do have it on my fire/sav cause i'm in the mix most of the time. In truth I feral charge a lot around the fight, so I'm not often surrounded enough to make good use of rending flurry.
I do love rending flurry on my sav stalker, but that is because savage leap+AS puts you at 5 stacks and usually rehides you, so rending flurry is 15ft of aoe crit action with the beauty of buildup backing it up.
Call Hawk does a lot of dmg even before procs, with procs its really strong indeed. I think i'll keep it, Flurry i'm still on the fence about.
I'm really enjoying Unkindness w/ 5 piece posi blast and Ragnarok KD proc. Feels like it knocks the whole mob down consistently. It's really nice for soft control.
Feral charge is one of the most fun powers, it's almost pretty fun to put Kinetic combat KD proc in as well.
I think the thing with a few sets are that they have very limited things they pair well with. And savage and Stone both having a good supply of melee attacks do pair really well with Plant control. Plant control allows for spammable AOE control with Seeds of confusion, has a really nice "patch" with carion creepers, and a moderately useful pet. But it also has many skippable powers that leaves enough space to fit in the fighting pool, some leadership and with the right epic can not only get perma dom but soft cap smashing lethal defense.
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