reception kisses
Sarah Jean Hartnell
I'm trying to come up with ideas for the reception kisses. Things I've
heard of others doing are the clanking of glasses, ringing bells, and
singing Disney tunes to the bride and groom.
One friend who is volunteer oriented suggested money for kisses with the
money going to a favorite charity. The more money donated to the
charity, the longer/more passionate the kiss. Another jokingly likes "tie
a cherry stem in a knot with your tounge"! We'd end up with a pile of
knoted cherry stems. As far as I know, I'm the only person in our group
who knows how to do this trick.
What other ideas can any of you come up with for the reception kisses? I
know that there are many ideas but I'd like to hear some opinions. What
did you do/are going to do at your wedding?
SJ
dti
a tradition of "reception kisses." What exactly do you mean by that? I'm
interested in seeing the responses.
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"Sarah Jean Hartnell" <sar...@csd.uwm.edu> wrote in message
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Aprill
glasses or something like that. Personally, I dont enjoy the idea of
being made to kiss every 5 mins or so at the guests whim.
JMH
Sarah Jean Hartnell wrote:
> Hello all,
>
> I'm trying to come up with ideas for the reception kisses. Things I've
> heard of others doing are the clanking of glasses, ringing bells, and
> singing Disney tunes to the bride and groom.
Don't you have something more important to plan than how guests will get you
to perform at your reception?
>
>
> One friend who is volunteer oriented suggested money for kisses with the
> money going to a favorite charity. The more money donated to the
> charity, the longer/more passionate the kiss.
And if someone gave $5,000.00, will the guests be entertained with some heavy
petting and foreplay too? It's just too tacky to solicit money from wedding
guests regardless of the worthiness of the recipient.
>
>
> What other ideas can any of you come up with for the reception kisses? I
> know that there are many ideas but I'd like to hear some opinions. What
> did you do/are going to do at your wedding?
Most people don't want to be bothered with performing at their guests' whims
and seek advice from this newsgroup for how to avoid the inevitable glass
clinking, etc.
>
>
> SJ
Puester
>
> There was a thread recently about the HC kissing when people tap their
> glasses or something like that. Personally, I dont enjoy the idea of
> being made to kiss every 5 mins or so at the guests whim.
Your guests aren't in control of what you do in this situation. Let them
tap away and ignore it--they won't try it more than once or twice.
Just smile and shake your head, and kiss when you feel like it.
I'm not sure when or why kissing became a spectator sport at some
weddings, but it's not that hard to put an end to the clinking.
gloria p
Shanihn
Jean Hartnell says...
wedding. Kissing is not a spectator sport.
shanihn
Trystan L. Bass
> I'm trying to come up with ideas for the reception kisses. Things I've
> heard of others doing are the clanking of glasses, ringing bells, and
> singing Disney tunes to the bride and groom.
Before I started reading this newsgroup several years ago, I'd never been at
a wedding where the guests actively try to get the couples to kiss by
performing some action like clinking glasses. At the weddings I've been to,
the couples usually kiss (a) when the officiant says so, (b) for photos, and
(c) when they feel like it. Which is what we did at our wedding & it worked
out quite nicely.
I'm not completely opposed to the "get them to kiss" thing, but I tend to
agree w/a friend of mine who said it made the couple seem like a trained
seal act.
--T.
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aMAZon
Are you suggesting it ought to be considered a participant sport? :-)
(run, duck and cover!)
Personally, I like those little Hershey's chocolate things for
reception kisses.
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"It's never too late to have a happy childhood."
dti
of this custom at any of the weddings I've been to (in the northeast). It's
always been my understanding that clinking on glasses was a request for a
speech or a toast.
"Trystan L. Bass" <trys...@NOTtoreadors.com> wrote in message
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DeeCSU
>a wedding where the guests actively try to get the couples to kiss by
>performing some action like clinking glasses.
Every wedding that I have ever been to has had this. I live in Milwaukee, WI.
I think the class clinking is annoying. We found a poem that is really cute.
I can send it to you if you'd like. In the poem it says that glass clinking
will be ignored, but if they want to get you to kiss, the table has to stand
and sing a song in which the word "love" appears. Then we'll set the poems at
the tables during the reception. Heidi
Alison and Randy Simpson
up, and try not too make it too time consuming, from the other side of
catering the dinners and seeing the fallout of some really time consuming
games (dinner dragged out, bride and groom not getting to sit and eat there
meal), I recommend thought about who is attending your wedding and how
intoxicated they may end up.
On a more positive note, I recommend putting a trivia question on each table
for the guests to read out and answer, again as long as you are confident
that this won't go sour, at my brothers wedding the guests ended up making
up their own questions and reading them out (like the brides bra size and
grooms underwear, real classy)
Randy
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dti
well received if the couple doesn't want to play the game? I find it
fascinating that you have to think up some kind of scheme to get away with
not kissing when the clinking starts! I think more couples should just
stand their ground and not do it - maybe that will deter people from
expecting it in future weddings.
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Just Me
I don't think so... I've seen at all the weddings I've been to, and I live in
New Jersey.
I actually encouraged it at my own wedding by attaching little bells to the
wedding favors - my wedding was fairly small, so I figured it wouldn't get out
of hand.
Of course, it was a little strange when I wasn't quite close enough to my hubby
one time when the bells started ringing, and my friend Rich grabbed him instead
and pretended to kiss him... :-D
Maryann
Donna
dti wrote in message ...
>Wow, that's interesting. So, it must be a midwestern thing
No, it's not, unfortunately. It's been done at the majority of the weddings
I've attended on the east coast. But the older I get, the less common it's
becoming. It *might* be that the younger the bride and groom (and
attendants and common-age guests) are, the more likely it is that games
(like glass clinking) are incorporated into the reception.
Just a theory, though.
Donna
FoxTerror
I am forever amazed at the rudeness displayed
in this NG. Sometimes it just makes me
laugh, but this really ticked me off.
I'd like to pose a question to those of you
who responded so negatively. Why did you
find it necessary to humiliate this poster?
She did not ask for your opinion (in which case
I think the responses would have been appropriate).
She obviously wants to do it. Why do you find
it necessary to tell her what a rotten idea this is?
If she wants to do it, why can't you simply let her?
Why can you not resist the urge to be hurtful? Do
you enjoy putting people down? Does it make you
all feel powerful?
There, I've broken my own rule.
SJ -
I thought Alison and Randy Simpson made some
good points.
JMH
FoxTerror wrote:
She did not ask for your opinion (in which case
> I think the responses would have been appropriate).
> She obviously wants to do it. Why do you find
> it necessary to tell her what a rotten idea this is?
>
1. It is bordering on bridezillaism to actually plan every detail even
down to how guests will make you kiss.
2. Any idea which has the consequence of dictating how others will
behave has to be approached with a viewpoint which considers the effect
on one's guests. This isn't some personal "want" which does not affect
anyone else, like choice of wedding dress or whether one wears a blue or
green garter, but rather a manipulation of how guests will focus their
attention on the bride and groom.
>
> If she wants to do it, why can't you simply let her?
See Item 2 above. Also, the question she asked, "What did you do/are
going to do at your wedding?", certainly opens the floor for discussion
of why other people did not encourage "reception kissing" at their own
weddings.
>
> Why can you not resist the urge to be hurtful? Do
> you enjoy putting people down? Does it make you
> all feel powerful?
It would be erroneous to project emotions and motives on posters based
solely on content since many people will intrepret one posts different
ways to conclude half a dozen different emotions/motives/attitudes,
etc. Personally I think it is far better to suffer the slings and
arrows of a newsgroup of strangers than to discover later that your
guests have been secretly harboring thoughts of you being an idiot for
some nutsy or bridezillaish behavior. Ultimately, it is a kindness to
inform people of ideas and decisions which have the potential of
offending or hurting people or lowering their esteem in their
friends/family's eyes.
Joe Pucillo
> FoxTerror wrote:
> > Why can you not resist the urge to be hurtful? Do
> > you enjoy putting people down? Does it make you
> > all feel powerful?
>
> It would be erroneous to project emotions and motives on posters based
> solely on content since many people will intrepret one posts different
> ways to conclude half a dozen different emotions/motives/attitudes,
> etc.
See, Jeanne? I *told* you you have to use smileys. There are a *lot* of
AOLers out there. :-^)8-<-----<
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JMH
Joe Pucillo wrote:
> JMH wrote...
> > FoxTerror wrote:
>
> > > Why can you not resist the urge to be hurtful? Do
> > > you enjoy putting people down? Does it make you
> > > all feel powerful?
> >
> > It would be erroneous to project emotions and motives on posters based
> > solely on content since many people will intrepret one posts different
> > ways to conclude half a dozen different emotions/motives/attitudes,
> > etc.
>
> See, Jeanne? I *told* you you have to use smileys. There are a *lot* of
> AOLers out there.
Absolutely not! I refuse to cater to the lowest common denominator in my
online speech. No AOLbonics for me. Besides, it's kinda fun to read all the
personality traits I am alleged to have based on someone else's
interpretation of my posts. It's almost like getting your palm read by a
traveling gypsy!
> :-^)8-<-----<
OK, what is this supposed to mean? That you are smiling, you have a big
nose, you wear a bow tie and are skinny? Nope, I've seen your photos. You
are not skinny.
Joe Pucillo
> Joe Pucillo wrote:
> > :-^)8-<-----<
> OK, what is this supposed to mean? That you are smiling,
> you have a big nose, you wear a bow tie and are skinny?
> Nope, I've seen your photos. You are not skinny.
You've seen my photos??? Uh-oh....
Smiling? Yeah, yeah, yeah....
Big nose? Yeah, yeah, yeah....
Bow tie? Yeah, yeah, yeah....
Skinny? Okay, ya gots me there.
Well, you didn't comment on my short, stubby legs.
JMH
Joe Pucillo wrote:
> JMH wrote...
> > Joe Pucillo wrote:
>
> > > :-^)8-<-----<
>
> > OK, what is this supposed to mean? That you are smiling,
> > you have a big nose, you wear a bow tie and are skinny?
> > Nope, I've seen your photos. You are not skinny.
>
> You've seen my photos??? Uh-oh....
Yeah, in fact you look very familiar....as if I've met you somewhere
else.
>
>
> Smiling? Yeah, yeah, yeah....
> Big nose? Yeah, yeah, yeah....
> Bow tie? Yeah, yeah, yeah....
> Skinny? Okay, ya gots me there.
>
> Well, you didn't comment on my short, stubby legs.
I woudn't dream of insulting people who look like Thalidomide babies.