Could I get married in a church or cathedral even though I am a Budhist?
Gil & Sue - 2NLuv2C
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> Could I get married in a church or cathedral even though I am a Budhist?
Depends on who owns the church or cathedral.
There are lots of interdenominational groups that now own formerly Roman
Catholic properties that were huge, beautiful churches, and lots of other
denominations are out there that also have a variety of restrictions on
building usage.
Even Catholic parish usage rules vary by parish and diocese. Call the
place to find out.
KrisG
person must be Catholic, but they need not both be. It does differ from
church to church, though.
Hope that helps,
Kris
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MNEELY932
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Tania C
I have to wonder the same thing; why would you want to? I am only
asking out of curiosity, and I don't mean to offend.
Unknown
they are ruled by the Archdiocese, and therefor do not make their own rules.
Here are some of the rules:
One of you must be Catholic, and in good standing with the church. This
means either you or your fiancee must complete the sacraments of Baptism,
Holy Communion, and Confirmation. If your fiancee is Catholic, and has
fallen away from the church, he may have to be reaffirmed. This process
starts in September, and ends Easter Sunday. ( RCIA, or "catechism")
If either of you has been married before, even with a civil divorce decree,
the Catholic Church does not recognize your divorce. You have to go through
a process called Annulment. It normally takes 8 -12 months. If the Priest is
not satisfied that your former marriage is psychologically dead, your
dispensation may not be granted. Annulment has to be done for anyone, of any
religion, marrying in the Catholic Church, regardless of where you were
married.
Ditto with Episcopalian Cathedrals.
Roman Catholic Churches have rules regarding dress code. The most common one
is that you must cover your shoulders. Episcopalian Cathedrals will not
allow you to play the Wedding March ( here comes the bride...)
The Catholic Church doesn't have these rules so to close people out. The
whole premise is that marriage is a sacrament, ordained by God, for the
entire life of the Couple. I guess maybe the Archdiocese is upholding this
standard so people that don't have any interest in the Catholic faith won't
walk in off the street to"rent out" their beautiful Cathedral.
For more rules, you might want to ask Theresa Griffin...she's Catholic too.
Hope this helps.
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Wende A. Feller
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> The Catholic Church has very strict rules... (I'm Catholic). First of all,
> they are ruled by the Archdiocese, and therefor do not make their own rules.
> Here are some of the rules:
>
> One of you must be Catholic, and in good standing with the church. This
> means either you or your fiancee must complete the sacraments of Baptism,
> Holy Communion, and Confirmation. If your fiancee is Catholic, and has
> fallen away from the church, he may have to be reaffirmed. This process
> starts in September, and ends Easter Sunday. ( RCIA, or "catechism")
Actually, confirmation is optional in most dioceses in the U.S. A
"lapsed" Catholic should not be re-confirmed. While it might be wise to
update that person's understanding and faith commitment with
participation in RCIA, that's fairly unusual (RCIA stands for Rite of
Christian Initiation in Adults, so people who have already been
initiated usually don't go through the full process when they're in need
of more support or information). "Reaffirmation" is not an official rite
of the Catholic Church and doesn't make theological sense. And RCIA
traditionally reaches its culmination at the Easter Vigil (Saturday
night), not Easter Sunday; if your parish does otherwise, they're not
following the rules laid down by the Vatican. Nor does RCIA always start
in September; although many parishes follow the "school year" model,
there are parishes that run it year-round with starting points at the
Sunday after Pentecost, the beginning of September, and the feast of
Christ the King. There are also, unfortunately, parishes that don't get
serious about RCIA until after Christmas.
> If either of you has been married before, even with a civil divorce decree,
> the Catholic Church does not recognize your divorce. You have to go through
> a process called Annulment. It normally takes 8 -12 months. If the Priest is
> not satisfied that your former marriage is psychologically dead, your
> dispensation may not be granted. Annulment has to be done for anyone, of any
> religion, marrying in the Catholic Church, regardless of where you were
> married.
The Catholic Church recognizes the fact of "your" civil divorce
(hypothetical "you"). It does not, however, see you as free to marry
again. Your parish priest does not rule on the validity of your prior
marriage (though he may help you or discourage you in submitting the
paperwork for the annulment procedure); that responsibility belongs to
the Marriage Tribunal, which is a panel that may also include laity.
Being "psychologically dead" has nothing -- zero, zip, none -- to do
with the ruling of nullity. A ruling of nullity means that the marriage
did not meet the Roman Catholic requirements for a valid Christian
marriage *from the outset*. Psychological willingness and ability to
make a full, lifelong commitment is an element considered, but again,
the ruling is on whether this existed *when* the wedding took place, not
whether you got over it later.
> Roman Catholic Churches have rules regarding dress code. The most common one
> is that you must cover your shoulders.
This rule hasn't been widespread in the U.S. since Vatican II. Many
Catholic parishes have no dress code at all for weddings.
In any case, the original poster's question was about getting married in
a church or cathedral, and those come in flavors other than Catholic.
Wende
Wende A. Feller
>
> Could I get married in a church or cathedral even though I am a Budhist?
If your fiance practices a religion that uses churches or cathedrals,
you can probably have the wedding in the one he/she attends. If you
can't, it will be because there's a larger problem with the validity of
the marriage, in that church's eyes... for instance, some of the
Orthodox churches will only perform marriages between two baptized
Christians. There aren't *that* many denominations left that ban
interfaith marriages, but there are a few so it's something you'd want
to check.
Scheduling a wedding for one church when the Christian partner attends
another church is usually a much stickier wicket and requires some
string pulling. So if one of you attends a small church and you want to
be married in the downtown cathedral, you may want the pastor of the
small church to put in a good word for you.
If neither of you are Christians, you would be better off going one of
two routes. (1) Unitarian Universalist, which is often not limited to
Christians, and which has churches but no cathedrals. They are often
glad to perform weddings for non-members. (2) Deconsecrated church now
available for rent as a wedding chapel. Both of these exist in many
regions. Either of these will probably be a happier option for you, as
the really major cathedrals tend to have Jesus on the Cross displayed
large and prominent, front and center -- all the statues and paintings
can seem a bit macabre and oppressive if you don't believe in what they
stand for.
Wende
Jasmine
Unitarian Universalists are NOT Christians. Individual UUs may believe in
Jesus as a savior, and therefore qualify as Christian, but the UU church is
open to ALL forms and ways of belief as its founding principle, and would be
happy to marry people of any faiths (or no faith at all) in its churches.
Jasmine
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