Wedding Cake

[Mel C]

Hello Everyone,

I wanted to know if a wedding cake is necessary? We really don't want a cake
and all the responses I have gotten from friends etc have said 'But you need
a picture cutting the cake!' My fiance and I don't care about a cake cutting
picture. We are having dessert provided by the hall after the meal and a
sweet table at 11:00 pm. Is this enough? We people really miss the wedding
cake? I barely even remember the wedding cakes at previous weddings I've
been to and I'd much rather put the money toward the reception or flowers. I
have the attitude that if we get a wedding cake I want it to be a really
nice cake or nothing at all. I don't want to have a small cake there just so
we have a cake.

Any thoughts are really appreciated!
Mel C

[Ron Ng]

>I wanted to know if a wedding cake is necessary?

No.

Ron Ng Knows!

[Mark]

Hi Mel.

I DJed a wedding a few weeks ago where the wedding 'cake'. They had a
three-tier cake stand with a collection over nicely-decorated cupcakes on
it.

I've seen other weddings with no cake... which makes more sens than spending
hundreds on a cardboard look-alike.

Mark...

[Joe Pucillo]

In a previous article, Mel C said...

> I wanted to know if a wedding cake is necessary?

Well, let's see:

NECESSARY:
Bride
Groom
Officiant
Witness

Hmmm..."a wedding cake" doesn't seem to show up on the list. :-)

Seriously, only those four listed items are necessary, no matter
what parent/relative, future parent-/relative-in-law, vendor or
website may tell you.

Other than that, you should take care to provide hospitality to your
guests, and stay within your means. Good luck.

--
Joe Pucillo
Baltimore, Maryland USA

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[Amy and David Tutschek]

If everyone wants you to have a cake, how about compromising and seeing if
your hall can put some of the deserts in the shape of a cake. I have seen
this done quite a bit and I think it is really nice.

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[Mel C]

Thanks for your posts.

I know it's not NECESSARY but I've gotten some comments about it and wanted
to know how it would go over. My future MIL seemed a little disappointed,
but we didn't really understand why?

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[Ace399]

>I know it's not NECESSARY but I've gotten some comments about it and wanted
>to know how it would go over. My future MIL seemed a little disappointed,
>but we didn't really understand why?

Aside from asking your MIL and hoping for an honest answer...I'm not sure any
of us could help you with that. My best guess is that people tend to hold
certain traditions dear in their own minds. I know that we ran into this when
people found out we weren't doing a bouquet toss. I had very strong feelings
about that so I was adamant, stood my ground and..lo and behold...no one even
noticed it was missing at the reception. I guess what you have to decide is;
How important is it to you NOT to have ANY cake? While I happen to agree with
you that a cake would be overkill given that your venue is providing dessert
and a sweets table, perhaps a compromise in the interest of family harmony and
tradition might be in order. Why not order an exquisite little cake, the
smallest that can be found, to cut, have the requisite pictures, make your MIL
happy...then freeze the remainder of the cake for your anniversary rather than
serving any of it to anyone.

Coleen :`)

"If I could reach up and hold a star for every time you've made me smile,
the entire evening sky would be in the palm of my hand."
-Unknown

[Donna J. Charlevoix]

Actually, in Illinois witnesses are not necessary, so you could cut that
list down to three!

[JMH]

Mel C wrote:

One of the most creative alternatives to a wedding cake I ever saw (and I swear
I'm going to do it at some wedding eventually) was they created a tiered dessert
server of plywood circles in decreasing sizes (like cake tiers) , painted them
white and trimmed them in lace, etc. Each tier was separated by crystal
glasses. The plates of desserts were then placed on the tiers so guests could
choose. It had the shape and implied appearance of a wedding cake but was for
serving desserts like pie slices, etc.

People magazine had photos of a famous model's "cake" which consisted of dozens
of cupcakes with little bride and groom picks in each. Basically all the guests
got a miniature wedding cake but you could simply put the same inexpensive bride
and groom cupcake pick (available at craft stores like Michaels) in your guests'
desserts.

[Melissa (Muhlyssa)]

Don't worry about it, no one is going to say, "well, it was a nice wedding
and everything, but I can't believe they didn't have a cake!".

I've been to plenty of weddings where there was no cake. Usually the
dessert that you select with your caterer is much better than any wedding
cake.

Include the traditions you feel strongly about and don't let anyone pressure
you into including things you don't feel strongly about.

We had a cake (lemon cake with rasberry creme filling), but skipped the
boquet toss.

Muhlyssa

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[Melissa]

We don't have a picture of us cutting the cake and we're married. The only
reason we had a cake at all was because the cake was included in the wedding
package. As we planned the wedding, we realized that we should have asked to
have the cost of the cake credited to the cost of a different dessert. If a
cake is important to you, do it. If not, don't worry about it.

--
Melissa (03/18/01)

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