Jewish Processional questions
Melissa
of thought about the processional. My mother thinks that she and my father
walk down the aisle, I walk down the aisle with them waiting and then we
walk together toward the chuppah (which will be up a few stairs under a
gazebo). I don't remember seeing this, but I'm not sure. I thought that my
parents would escort me the entire way from the start of the aisle to the
chuppay.
Has anyone seen it done my mother's way? I don't think I want to do it that
way, but it's something that she's brought up over and over again so I
wanted to check with you guys to see if I'm being more obstinate than usual.
--
Melissa (who's feeling somewhat bridezilla-ish today due to spending too
much time with various family members who have strong feelings about what
must be done at our wedding)
[The big day is March 18, 2001]
Noe Spaemme
wrote:
>We're having a traditional Jewish wedding but there seem to be two schools
>of thought about the processional. My mother thinks that she and my father
>walk down the aisle, I walk down the aisle with them waiting and then we
>walk together toward the chuppah (which will be up a few stairs under a
>gazebo). I don't remember seeing this, but I'm not sure. I thought that my
>parents would escort me the entire way from the start of the aisle to the
>chuppay.
>
>Has anyone seen it done my mother's way?
That's a new one on me. I've never heard of the parents proceeding the
bride even part way. In a traditional Jewish ceremony, it's always the
parents escorting the bride (and the parents escorting the groom).
Perhaps she just wants to see you walk down the aisle in all your
bridal radiance.
Hope this helps,
Noe
Rachel Lipson
talked to my rabbi, and I've never heard of or seen the processional
done your mom's way. But that being said, there's nothing
really wrong about doing it her way either.
From what I've read, to have a Jewish wedding you really
only need a bride, groom, rabbi, ketubah, chuppah, one ring,
and the blessings. All the rest is up to you. Do you have
strong feelings about doing the processional your way?
I think I'd go nuts if I argued all the small details of
my wedding. Most of it, I think you have to let slide
so you can hold out for what's really important to you.
And I can relate to the family thing. I don't know if it's
universal or pecular to Jewish culture, but on so many
points the discussion with my family seems to come
down to what's the most 'Jewish' way to do something.
I don't mind other people having strong feelings about
what they'd like at the wedding, but it reaches a whole
different level of annoyance when they are adamant
about what /should/ be done.
Can you talk to your rabbi about this one? Ours
has been a great sounding board about what's
really important at the wedding, what's Jewish law,
what's Jewish tradition, etc. And your mom
can hardly argue with him or her about what's usually done!
Rachel
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Hitman Jr
stand on the aisle, even with the chairs furthest back and await the
bride. So the bride has about 10 or 20 feet to walk by herself,
depending on the length of the hall. Then when she reaches the "main"
aisle were the chairs start her parents join her, same with the groom.
However, I have only seen this twice in all the weddings I've done.
Hitman Jr.
n Tue, 26 Dec 2000 12:57:50 -0800, "Melissa" <msa...@hostpro.com>
wrote:
>We're having a traditional Jewish wedding but there seem to be two schools
Leah Adezio
Melissa wrote in message ...
>We're having a traditional Jewish wedding but there seem to be two schools
>of thought about the processional. My mother thinks that she and my father
>walk down the aisle, I walk down the aisle with them waiting and then we
>walk together toward the chuppah (which will be up a few stairs under a
>gazebo). I don't remember seeing this, but I'm not sure. I thought that
my
>parents would escort me the entire way from the start of the aisle to the
>chuppay.
>
>Has anyone seen it done my mother's way? I don't think I want to do it
that
>way, but it's something that she's brought up over and over again so I
>wanted to check with you guys to see if I'm being more obstinate than
usual.
I've never heard of it being done the way your mother suggests. Both my
parents walked me down the aisle to the chuppah.
Now, it is tradition, but it's not Judaic law, so you wouldn't be violating
halachic practices to do it her way, but it's certainly not traditional.
Given the physical make up of your walk (the aisle, then the steps to the
gazebo and chuppah), I can see where it would work if your parents preceeded
you, then turned and waited for you to join them and then turn back and let
them escort you to the chuppah proper.
The end result is still the same -- your parents will escort you to the
chuppah, just not the entire way....so it's kind of 'half traditional'. :)
I think I'd spend a little time trying to visualize it in the manner your
mother suggests and then if it still really doesn't appeal to you, let her
know that it's just not working for you and that you want to be escorted in
the traditional manner.
Leah