On Wed, 15 Nov 2017 16:51:57 +0100, Paul Carmichael
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wibble...@gmail.com> wrote:
>El 15/11/17 a las 13:02, Mack A. Damia escribió:
>> On Wed, 15 Nov 2017 10:57:39 +0100, Paul Carmichael
>> <
wibble...@gmail.com> wrote:
>
>>> Where I live, anyone I know well can call me "hijoputa" or "cabrón", but if a stranger
>>> called me either, I'd punch his nose.
>>
>> I don't think you would like it if your friends called you that all of
>> the time, but then you don't have much choice if you want to keep your
>> friends: grin and bear it - and then rationalize.
>>
>
>I don't give a stuff. If it bothered me I'd ask them not to call me that. I would be
>thought very strange to make such a request though. Anyway, I'm just as likely to call
>them the same things...
I may have told this story before, but we had the son of our own's
police chief in our class all the way through grade and high school.
In second grade, because of his looks ((he wasn't black) he got
nicknamed, "Buckwheat". He despised the name, and the more he
complained, the more the name was used until it was permanent.
He wasn't a fighter, either, poor guy, and when he would retaliate by
calling others names, he would get punched out.
His dad was the coach of Midget football, and the story goes that some
of the guys rubbed analgesic on his jock strap one day. Tears came to
his eyes. I heard some of the players got him crouched in a corner
and pissed on him one day.
In senior high, his name had become so commonplace that some teachers
even called him "Buckwheat". It is listed as his nickname in our high
school yearbook. He could never escape it.
>I have asked them not to refer to me as a "guiri" because it is so often used
>"offensively" that it always sounds so to me. My choice. My problem.
>
>There's a local bloke known as "El Chino" because he has slanty eyes. I asked him if he
>felt offended by the nick and he just said "why would I be?"
>
>A very vertically challenged friend of mine is ok with being called "chiquitín" or
>"bajito" but objects to "enano" (grunt).
>
>Horses for courses.
So we can talk about ourselves or people we knew (or know) but we are
but tiny pieces in a jigsaw puzzle trying to fit in. We sometimes
have to shave off a corner of ourselves in order to relate to the
mosaic.
Words and names can hurt. We know this.