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gtvin...@webtv.net

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Jan 2, 2007, 4:05:47 PM1/2/07
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I quit smoking on May 15-04. Today the Doctors told me I have lung
cancer, and only have 6 to 9 months to live. I'm sooo scared. The world
needs to stop smoking.
Jerry, the expuffer

DutchVan2007

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Jan 2, 2007, 5:01:01 PM1/2/07
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(((Jerry))) Don't know what to say Jerry. Can so imagine you're scared.
Forgive me for not knowing what to say. I will be thinking of you and
sending good thoughts and vibes your way. So sorry to hear this. Stick
around will ya? For a hug, a rant or prayer or distraction. Hang tough,
Robin.

<> schreef in bericht ...

CuckooCat

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Jan 2, 2007, 5:08:04 PM1/2/07
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((((((Jerry)))))

Sending a hug and lots of prayers your way, my friend.
I am sooooo sorry.
If you need to vent, you have my email.
xoxo,
Catpig

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Rosemarie Shiver

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Jan 2, 2007, 5:16:04 PM1/2/07
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{{{Jerry}}}

Doing a lotta virtual handholding with you and sending the best vibes
possible your way. Hold on tight.

Extra Gentle Hugs from Rosie

--
"If you wanna get it done, you gotta fight for yourself." -- Meat Loaf, Bat
Outta Hell II


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Lynn

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Jan 2, 2007, 5:42:36 PM1/2/07
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Getting the news of cancer is very scary and shocking and not knowing where
to turn to from here. Is there anything medication or surguries that can
help?
check out alt support cancer
they might be able to point you to respite or some places that help you
deal with your cancer.

--
:) Lynn <---DOF Leaper
Smokers are a dying breed

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jacks

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Jan 2, 2007, 6:28:51 PM1/2/07
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Jerry,

That is very scary for sure. Horrile news.
Find out about treatment options and get a
second opinion. New treatments come out all the time and your dr might
not be aware.
Where do you live? You might have to travel a
ways to see a specialist, like M.D Anderson in
Texas.
My best thoughts and prayers are with you.

jacks


Linda

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Jan 2, 2007, 7:09:05 PM1/2/07
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Oh Jerry... I am so sorry. I wish I could help. How I feel for you
right now is beyond words.

You may have already done this, but please contact Cancer Treatment
Centers of America. http://www.cancercenter.com/ or 800-268-0786
anytime.

Its never too late for a second opinion.

I wish you well.

Linda

Andy

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Jan 2, 2007, 8:35:47 PM1/2/07
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Hey Jerry,
I'm sorry and I know you are scared.
I wish more than anything that I might be able to say something to you to
make things easier, but wouldnt know where to start. But I will share
this. I got it in an email today. I hope you can get something from it.

Andy

The Hospital Window


Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was
allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the
fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window. The
other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. The men talked for
hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their
jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on
vacation.

Every afternoon when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he
would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could
see outside the window. The man in the other bed began to live for those
one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all
the activity and color of the world outside.

The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on
the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm
in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline
could be seen in the distance.

As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man
on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the
picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by.
Although the other man couldn't hear the band - he could see it. In his
mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive
words.

Days and weeks passed.

One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to
find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully
in his sleep. She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take
the body away. As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he
could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch,
and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.

Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first
look at the real world outside. He strained to slowly turn to look out the
window beside the bed. It faced a blank wall. The man asked the nurse what
could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such
wonderful things outside this window.

The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the
wall. She said, "Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you."


Epilogue:

There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own
situations.

Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled.

If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money
can't buy.

"Today is a gift, that's why it is called the present."

Mark Earnest

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Jan 2, 2007, 9:14:11 PM1/2/07
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<gtvin...@webtv.net> wrote in message
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You'll be O.K.
To die is to wonder why...
...you were so afraid of death to begin with.


Jbeth

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Jan 3, 2007, 4:00:12 AM1/3/07
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Awwww...shoot, so incredibly sorry, you are in my thoughts and will be for
a long time...

Jbeth

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Kathleen

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Jan 3, 2007, 5:35:18 AM1/3/07
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I'm so sorry Jerry. I hope you surround yourself with friends and family,
and get to spend time with the people you love.
With hope and heart,
Kathleen
--
He Himself is the fuel our spirits were designed to burn,
or the food our spirits were designed to feed on. There is no other.
~ C.S.Lewis

evolutie

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Jan 3, 2007, 9:26:33 AM1/3/07
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Jerry,
like everybody else I don't know what to say, except to wish you and
yours all the strength and love to deal with everything coming your
way...

evo

Nullman

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Jan 3, 2007, 9:46:12 AM1/3/07
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Hi Jerry,

I am so so sorry to read this. I do want to thank you for sharing this
with us. It helps to reinforce for new quitters like me why we must
quit and stay quit.

Stephanie

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Jan 3, 2007, 10:47:34 AM1/3/07
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Jerry, your post has haunted me since I first read it. I think for a
longtime I kept smoking figuring that there was no way to repair the
damage done to myself, and if I kept smoking I could push away the
fears raised by smoking (like looking it square in the face). Please
contact the Texas doctor recommended here. Know that prayers are being
said for you. Stephanie

Kathleen

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Jan 3, 2007, 12:50:28 PM1/3/07
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MD Anderson is a famous cancer center - just to clarify.
Hugs, Kathleen


> Jerry, your post has haunted me since I first read it. I think for a
> longtime I kept smoking figuring that there was no way to repair the
> damage done to myself, and if I kept smoking I could push away the
> fears raised by smoking (like looking it square in the face). Please
> contact the Texas doctor recommended here. Know that prayers are being
> said for you. Stephanie
>

>> I quit smoking on May 15-04. Today the Doctors told me I have lung

TonyK

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Jan 3, 2007, 2:36:24 PM1/3/07
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<gtvin...@webtv.net> wrote in message
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Don't know what to say. What do you say to a "stranger" who suddenly tells
the world they're going to die?

All I can say is I hope you enjoy and make use of what time is left. Go
enjoy yourself, do whatever you want, spend time with friends and family and
do all the things you wish.

Being scared is only natural, speak with people who can help you overcome
this fear. If you are religious then your religion may help. Or, you may
just want to look at things philosophically and resign yourself to the fact
that no-one lives forever and we shoud live our lives to the full.

Most of all enjoy what time you (or anyone else) has left. FWIW my Mum is in
exactly the same situation except we've known for nearly 2 years. She's
worried, she's scared but no longer for herself. She's worried about those
she's leaving behind.

I hope you find time for yourself, my thoughts are with you.


Jsteam

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Jan 3, 2007, 3:16:05 PM1/3/07
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Here is the link with phone numbers

http://www.mdanderson.org/diseases/lung/


Kathleen <lovebi...@hotmail.com> penned.wrote.stated:
: MD Anderson is a famous cancer center - just to clarify.
: Hugs, Kathleen

:>


over50chick

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Jan 4, 2007, 8:34:28 PM1/4/07
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hugging you from afar Jerry.
That is something I have thought of many times, did I quit soon enough,
time will tell. I cannot even begin to think how I would feel knowing what
you do now.
Be strong Jerry, more hugs for ya.
Am I squeezing too tight?

Anita


chefmcc

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Jan 5, 2007, 10:28:01 AM1/5/07
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Jerry-
I read your post the day you wrote it and have been afraid to reply due
to not knowing what to say. That is no excuse. I am so sorry for your
diagnosis, you must be more frightened than I can imagine. I hope
somehow, you are able to find some peace and comfort somewhere. I will
keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

have fun be brave
Paul

Johnny B

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Jan 5, 2007, 12:17:05 PM1/5/07
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In article <1168010881.4...@42g2000cwt.googlegroups.com>,
che...@frontiernet.net says...
I agree wholeheartedly with Paul. And, I felt the same way. I just
didn't know what to say. Sorry seems to be inadequate, but I am so
sorry. Take care and fight the good fight. Johnny B

Barbara-eve done it @ last!!!

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Jan 5, 2007, 4:52:25 PM1/5/07
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((((((((((Jerry))))))))))

Our thoughts are with you,
Hope you can find a little comfort from some of these replies.
Please know plenty of caring vibes are being sent your way.

If you need an ear there are lots here:)
Looks an interesting link that Jsteam posted.


Hugs
Barbara

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