Spanking for smoking- It worked for me!
jennif...@my-deja.com
I know this may seem like a strange, or a little
off the wall approach, but it worked for me, and
may work for others who have tried other methods
and failed.
A few years back, I desperately wanted to quite
smoking and tried various methods: books, gizmos,
the patch. All seem to accomplish the same thing.
I would quit, and even think "this was it!", and
I would never smoke again, but would always end up
having "just one" after a month or so.
One day I remember thinking to myself: What
stopped me from smoking when I was younger?
Having started smoking when I was 20, tracing
back my footsteps to when I didn't smoke seemed
like the answer, and it was!
When I was younger and living at home and had
the urge to try smoking, the one thing that had
always stopped me was the fear my parants would
find out...and also the fear of a belt across my
backside!
They were very clear about their views on
smoking. And although they had stopped spanking
us when we were 10-11, our parents wouldn't
hesitate to dust off the strap if a situation
like smoking, or stealing came up.
I can remember a time when my sister, who was 16
at the time, was caught smoking at the mall by my
mother. Talk about being scared straight! Hearing
the sounds of the strap striking my sisters bare
fanny over and over again was enough to keep me
from smoking. At least until I grew up and was
living on my own.
The problem of course, as many will agree, is
that you can only control, or try to control your
children while they are living under your roof.
While I was living on my own it was only a matter
of time before I became lazy...no one to tell me
to clean up my room, or pick up my clothes, and
then when I was around 20 I started smoking. Not
much at first. Usually 1 or 2 if I went to a bar
with my friends, but the habit kept growing.
Later on in life my habit had grown to a pack or
so a day, and I desperately wanted to quit. For
some reason I thought it would be easy, and did
manage to quit for months at a time. However,
sooner or later I would have "just one", and
start the ball rolling again.
Thats when I went to my husband for help. I told
him the only way I would ever quit, and quit for
good was if I had the fear of being punished if I
was ever caught smoking again. At first my idea
didn't go over very well, as he thought my plan
was cruel and unusual punishment. But after trying
to quit again, and falling miseribly and even
quicker than before, he agreed, and the plan was
put in motion.
I was given 2 weeks to finish smoking in whatever
way I wanted. I chose to cut back each day, and
by the end of the 2 weeks I was down to only 3-4
a day. After this time period, the rest of the
plan was very simple. If I smoked again, I would
be spanked over his knee, on my bare behind, with
an old leather belt! And were not talking about a
playful birthday spanking here, but like a
birthday spanking I would recieve one stroke for
each year of my age (26) That number I will never
forget!
Anyways, to make a long story short, after a few
months of being clean, I thought I could sneak
one. Big mistake! When are smokers going to learn
that non smokers can smell it in an instant!. I
had even gone through steps to smoke ouside, and
to have a breath mint after. At first he asked
me, like he usually did, if I had smoked that
day, and I tried to lie and say I didn't, but I
could see in his eyes he knew. Needless to say in
a few minutes I was draped over his knee crying
like a baby as I recieved my 26 strokes across my
bare bottom!
That year I slipped up three times, and the
following year only twice. So far this year, I've
managed to avoid the temptations, and haven't had
to take that dreadful trip over the knee. And in
my bedroom closet, which I open every day, hangs
the belt as a reminder of what I can expect if I
should trasgress again.
Now, is this approach for everyone?
No.
If you haven't tried to "seriously" quit using
other methods first, try them. They didn't work
for me, but they may work for you.
How harsh should the punishment be?
If you are going to try this plan it must be
painfull to provide a proper deterent, and should
be taken very seriously. If it isn't don't bother.
If you find yourself over a knee everyday, then
obviously your not being properly punished.
For me, the humiliation was just as bad as the
strapping I recieved.
What instrument should be used?
Although the belt worked wonders for me, I know
of others who have used a flat backed hairbrush,
and another couple who uses a cane.
Keep in mind the number of strokes should be in
check with the instrument.
For example with the strap, we used my age as a
guidline, but with the cane only a max of 6-10
strokes will get the message across.
I know this plan may seem barbaric to some,
especially if you think its easy to quit. But for
me it was just what was needed. I would much
rather feel the sting for a few days, compared to
my life before as a smoker. I won't go into all
the negatives with smoking, but I will say I don't
ever want to go back.
Goodluck to all in whatever approach you take to
quit. Its worth it in the end, trust me!
Jennifer
Sent via Deja.com http://www.deja.com/
Share what you know. Learn what you don't.
Jill Bruce
You know, the method I used and really prefer is the Alien Overloard
brain implant. Yep, got it installed about a month ago, up on Quavitron
12. Cost me nearly $2000 Martian ducrons, but was well worth it. Now if
I even come within 6 inches of a pack of cigarettes, our benevolent
overlord (who sees and knows all) simply pushes a button, and ZAPPO -
10volts straight into the ol' gray matter. Oh, sure, it's a little
inconvenient to walk past a vending machine (zap, ouch) and yeah, I
sometimes pick up strange radio transmissions (so that's where those
voices in my head are coming from), but on the upside, it's kept me from
smoking and I can pick up private cell phone calls within a 2-mile
radius. Gee I wonder if the FBI knows about this...
-jill
Who has kept the alien overlord at bay for: one month, five days, 14
hours, 59 minutes and 50 seconds. 732 cigarettes not smoked, saving
$164.81 (that's $718.57 in Martian ducrons, at today's exchange rate).
Life saved: 2 days, 13 hours, 0 minutes.
Phil Seybold
would have worked for me - but -and I hate myself for saying this-
Different strokes for different folks.
Phil "please don't hit me" S
Frank Charmley
Marcie M
Phil Seybold <sy...@home.com> wrote in message
news:377BE962...@home.com...
> I hate myself for saying this-
> Different strokes for different folks.
>
> Phil "please don't hit me" S
ROFL, Phil...I busted out laughing out loud at that one! Gee its nice to
laugh with no wheeze or <cough cough cough> at the end!
I was waiting for the 'spank me I've been bad' contingency to join this
thread, we know you're out there!<g>
/v\arcie
Mhairi
a little extreme, but I can see it working for some people
who are truly serious about quiting.
But as you mentioned though, this is the scared straight approach!
Hey, if someone is serious about quitting, they have nothing
to worry about, right?
Ouch!
(what would I say to the gals at work ,when I stand
by my desk all day instead of sitting!)
jennif...@my-deja.com wrote in message <7lglm1$p2h$1...@nnrp1.deja.com>...
JOYHTON
>Different strokes for different folks.
>
ROFLing all over the place.!!!!
Joyce OF
JOYHTON
>Goodluck to all in whatever approach you take to
>quit. Its worth it in the end, trust me!
Surely this is a masochistic fantasy. If not, how long, Jennifer, are you
going to stay married to that sadist.
And when are you going to stop being a troll?
Joyce OF
LorraineDP
THAT kind of spanking. Shoot.
I was getting ready to make a fortune...
Mistress Lorraine
Jen
Oh, crap I still do...
--
Jennifer
**To reply, remove the
NOSPAM from the address**
Sewing enthusiast
and nonsmoker
Shakes
the hell is wrong with my newsreader or news server or whatever???)
Anyway... what if you get to *liking* spankings?
Jen P.
10 Months 3 Weeks 4 Days 6 Hours 26 Minutes 26 Seconds
$1,481.71 saved
13170 ciggies not smoked
Getting better every second, brothers and sisters
jennif...@my-deja.com wrote in message <7lglm1$p2h$1...@nnrp1.deja.com>...
>
>
Creeze
you to find...
Creeze - really wanted to leave this one alone, so I cut it short - W
<jennif...@my-deja.com> wrote in message
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Drake
> You know, the method I used and really prefer is the Alien Overlord
> brain implant....Cost me nearly $2000 Martian ducrons
Jill, thanks for the tip. That's what I shoulda done but--stupid me!--
I thought $2000 ducrons was way too much to spend so I had my implant
done cheap, over at Murray's Discount Barn. Instead of getting that
deluxe Alien jobbie you went for I had Murray install his $9.98
special-- the "Eileen Overload Ear Implant". They stick these hearing
aid gizmos down in your ears, see, and they go off if you smell
cigarette smoke and a recording of Murray's wife Eileen (she taught
Ethel Merman to sing) shouts "GET AWAY FROM THAT CIGARETTE BUSTER AND I
MEAN RIGHT NOW!!" followed by the loudest rendition of "God Bless
America" you've ever heard in your life until you run screaming away
from the smoke. I've gotta say it works great, but I haven't been
able to get anywhere near a barbeque ever since.
Drake
DOF
slackr*
Charmley) wrote:
>some are sicker than others.
and some are more judgmental than others...
slackr*
Kaptnken
In article <377BFE1F...@home.com>, Jen <jensew...@home.com> wrote:
> ROFL. Me too Marcie! Except I never wheezed after I laughed. I snorted.
> Oh, crap I still do...
--
KaptnKen
"Remember, wherever you go...there you are"--Buckaroo Banzai
anne
jennif...@my-deja.com wrote<7lglm1$p2h$1...@nnrp1.deja.com>...
>
If I smoked again, I would
> be spanked over his knee, on my bare behind, with
> an old leather belt! And were not talking about a
> playful birthday spanking here, but like a
> birthday spanking I would recieve one stroke for
> each year of my age (26) That number I will never
> forget!
I think there are other newsgroups for this Jennifer.
Anne
anne
Shakes <jenpatte...@hotmail.com>
wrote<ViWe3.119$t_3....@typ22b.nn.bcandid.com>...
> Yet again, I'm posting and hoping that this one reaches the board...(What
> the hell is wrong with my newsreader or news server or whatever???)
>
> Anyway... what if you get to *liking* spankings?
Well you don't get your daily spanking if you smoke???
Anne ( my god they're crawling out of the keyboards again ( not for you Jen
but for Jennifer))
Bonnie
Gerry
jennif...@my-deja.com wrote:
>
>
> I know this may seem like a strange, or a little
> off the wall approach, but it worked for me, and
> may work for others who have tried other methods
> and failed.
<SNIP..SNIP..SNIP>
> Goodluck to all in whatever approach you take to
> quit. Its worth it in the end, trust me!
>
> Jennifer
>
> Sent via Deja.com http://www.deja.com/
> Share what you know. Learn what you don't.
>
>
Okay Jennifer, I'm going to take you at your word on this one.
But if you start smoking just to get the spanking the truth will be
known.
Gerry
jennif...@my-deja.com
> Okay Jennifer, I'm going to take you at your word on this one.
> But if you start smoking just to get the spanking the truth will be
> known.
>
> Gerry
LOL O.K Gerry its a deal!
Although I doubt anyone would want the spankings
I got. I guess thats why it worked so well!
I was going to respond to some of the other posts,
but I know for something like this you either believe
it, or you don't. And like I said before, this is defintely
NOT for everyone. I had tried everything else (in my mind)
but to no avail.
I've been smoke free for over 2yrs, and that is the most
important thing. And to me, it was a small price to
pay. The only thing I regret, is that I didn't try to
quit sooner.
Goodluck to you and everyone else.
pb-u#2
anne wrote in message <01bec469$1904aea0$LocalHost@k23inter>...
> ( not for you Jen but for Jennifer))
>
Am I the only Jen who hasn't come out of the closet about the spanking thing
yet? ;o)
Take Care,
Jennifer - no, not that one, the other one..... no, not that one either...
you know... Jennifer with a "J"
voyager
joy...@aol.comNOSPAM says...
>
> And when are you going to stop being a troll?
hey Joyce, at least this troll has given some of us a bit of a laugh,
which is more than we can say for most trolls :-)))
--
Paul OF
Bangor NI
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Jen
LOL!!!
I have been Quit for: 1M 2W 15h 1m 17s. I have NOT smoked 1308, for a
savings of $163.60. Time spent sewing: 4D 13h.
BarbieEnvy
Hey, if it works for you that's cool. I'm envious though ;) It wouldn't work
for me I'm afraid. I think I'd be smoking in front of hubby just to get me
some...
Horrible Barbie smoking in the cage
DoGood
> I was going to respond to some of the other posts,
> but I know for something like this you either believe
> it, or you don't. And like I said before, this is defintely
> NOT for everyone. I had tried everything else (in my mind)
> but to no avail.
You've earned my respect in more ways than you'll ever know just by
responding after your first post. I'm glad to see your "method" worked.
You can also take knowledge in you can always earn money by writing stuff
like that for some porn sites. I hear they pay pretty good for stories like
that.
DoGood
Day 69 - Keep pain away from me please
KEN
>Anyway... what if you get to *liking* spankings?
Hey Jen,
That would be alt.support.stop-spankings, I believe it's in the FAQ's.
:-D
Ken
OF
One year, seven months, three weeks, one day, 20 hours, 15 minutes and 31
seconds. 38989 cigarettes not smoked, saving $4,093.65. Life saved: 19
weeks, 2 days, 9 hours, 5 minutes.
WFG
"DoGood" <DoGo...@hotmail.com> wrote:
>You can also take knowledge in you can always earn money by writing
>stuff like that for some porn sites.
Er, forgive me DG, but what exactly was pornographic about Jennifer's
original post?
WFG
(who is a bit puzzled, but has no intention of taking up smoking again
after almost 18 months just to get a spanking!)
DoGood
> Er, forgive me DG, but what exactly was pornographic about Jennifer's
> original post?
Don't have the original post and I don't feel like searching for it, but it
seems to me there was some mention of a bare bottom across a knee getting
spanked hard because the person getting spanked did something bad. Some
people get off on that kind of stuff.
DoGood
Day 72 - Still not into pain
WFG
"DoGood" <DoGo...@hotmail.com> wrote:
>it seems to me there was some mention of a bare bottom across a knee
>getting spanked hard because the person getting spanked did something
>bad. Some people get off on that kind of stuff.
Er, I know, DG - *I'm* one of those vile, terrible, disgusting people!
But I prefer to give rather than get. :-)
I read the original post with interest (natch!) and my question was
critical rather than information-seeking - that's the trouble with
Usenet, no opportunity to use intonation. Anyway, the moment's passed
now. I was only interested in why you thought spanking was
pornographic - it's hardly hard-core, let's face it. Sexy - yes; porno
- no.
Ian
(who has been smoke-free for almost 18 months, thanks to the wonderful
Ni**r*tt* In*a**tor)
DoGood
> Er, I know, DG - *I'm* one of those vile, terrible, disgusting people!
> But I prefer to give rather than get. :-)
Hmm...I never said anyone who got into that was vile, terrible, or
disgusting. That's not my thing, but that doesn't make it bad. I'm
sure I'm not the "squarest" out here.
> I read the original post with interest (natch!) and my question was
> critical rather than information-seeking - that's the trouble with
> Usenet, no opportunity to use intonation. Anyway, the moment's passed
> now. I was only interested in why you thought spanking was
> pornographic - it's hardly hard-core, let's face it. Sexy - yes;
porno
> - no.
I kinda wrote the porno thing as a joke, but if you know porno sites as
I do then you know they can make *anything* pornographic; spanking
included.
DoGood
Day 73 - Whatever works for you is okay by me
CrimsnKid6
>Well shit, I get fun spankings and I STILL smoke...okay, enough sex talk.
<snip>
>I think I'd be smoking in front of hubby just to get me
>some...
If they're *fun spankings,* of course they have no behavior modification
effects! Maybe you should try either *disciplinary spankings* (real "stingers")
or withdrawal of erotic spankings, or both, to help you break your habit...
L.L.A.P.,
--C.K.
BarbieEnvy
Spank Me Barbie (yeah, I know, I'm married)
BarbieEnvy
withdrawal of erotic spankings, or both, to help you break your habit...>
Thanks CK, I'll have to weigh the choices while I keep smoking =(
Barbie
Ian
<19990706142623...@ng-co1.aol.com>...
>Spank Me Barbie (yeah, I know, I'm married)
Ah, Barbie.
You Mata Hari you! I'm sure you work for Ph**ip Mo*r*s and trying to
lure me back to Marlboro country. But your devilish ways will not work.
I am smoke-free and staying that way!
Put that in your pipe and spank it!
:-))
Ian
+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
Take Jennifer Aniston out before you e-mail me
Mindy Bush
DoGood wrote:
> I kinda wrote the porno thing as a joke, but if you know porno sites as
> I do then you know they can make *anything* pornographic; spanking
> included.
Hey DG - My name's really Debbie... and I'm from Texas. *wink wink* I think
we may have met?? hehehehehehehhehehe
Min-D.
Mindy Bush
a man hit me (and has) he would be on his ass in a second (and has)... so
there's just no way that I could find it "sexy" to lay my naked chunky
munky ass over some guy's hardon while he whacked the hell out of me.... I
don't get it?? Are you into the whole B&D thing too? Is that just about
trust or what?! I don't get it... not tryin to start an argument here at
all... just lookin' for an explanation of sorts. Just the other side of the
story or what have you...
~Mindy
Is it bad to say "hardon" here? Sorry to offend anyone....
WFG wrote:
> In article <0f5g3.3194$F42....@newsfeed.slurp.net>,
> "DoGood" <DoGo...@hotmail.com> wrote:
>
> >it seems to me there was some mention of a bare bottom across a knee
> >getting spanked hard because the person getting spanked did something
> >bad. Some people get off on that kind of stuff.
>
> Er, I know, DG - *I'm* one of those vile, terrible, disgusting people!
> But I prefer to give rather than get. :-)
>
> I read the original post with interest (natch!) and my question was
> critical rather than information-seeking - that's the trouble with
> Usenet, no opportunity to use intonation. Anyway, the moment's passed
> now. I was only interested in why you thought spanking was
> pornographic - it's hardly hard-core, let's face it. Sexy - yes; porno
> - no.
>
> Ian
>
> (who has been smoke-free for almost 18 months, thanks to the wonderful
> Ni**r*tt* In*a**tor)
>
Catella1
I think you are supposed to say "huge erection"...at least that is what I
notice our guys saying...or words to that effect.
Failing that, just have a PICKLE
jane/catella1
Smokefree: Three months, two days, 10 hours, 0 minutes and 26 seconds. 3269
cigarettes not smoked, saving $449.57. Life saved: 1 week, 4 days, 8 hours,
25 minutes.
Mindy Bush <mb...@heart.net> wrote in message
news:37829DE6...@heart.net...
> snip>
DoGood
> Is it bad to say "hardon" here? Sorry to offend anyone....
Massive erection, boner, woody, and love rod are all okay, but hardon is not
accepted here. Take your language elsewhere young lady.
DoGood
Day 73 - Language police
DoGood
> Hey DG - My name's really Debbie... and I'm from Texas. *wink wink* I
think
> we may have met?? hehehehehehehhehehe
Then I know I'm in love!
DoGood
Day 73 - I'm moving to Dallas
CrimsnKid6
>You do? I always thought it would be somewhat humiliating and degrading. If
>a man hit me (and has) he would be on his ass in a second (and has)... so
>there's just no way that I could find it "sexy" to lay my naked chunky
>munky ass over some guy's hardon while he whacked the hell out of me.... I
>don't get it?? Are you into the whole B&D thing too? Is that just about
>trust or what?! I don't get it... not tryin to start an argument here at
>all... just lookin' for an explanation of sorts. Just the other side of the
>story or what have you...
If you truly don't find it exciting and/or erotic, then being spanked
*might* work as a form of behavior modification to help quit the nicotine
habit. (However, if you find it "humiliating and degrading," and it causes you
to retaliate physically against your spanker, then I wouldn't recommend it for
you.)
As to your other question, spanking and B&D are not necessarily connected,
although some individuals do practice both as a form of erotic play. There have
been posts in this thread from both spankers and spankees--some people enjoy
one role or the other, or even both.
I don't know enough to comment on it as a method of quitting smoking
overall, and IMHO it probably wouldn't work for most smokers...
P.A.L.,
--C.K.
P.S.: I've heard that the erotic spanking stuff even takes place down in the
Lone Star State...
BarbieEnvy
accepted here. Take your language elsewhere young lady. >
Ahem, adding to that I'd have to say the following are restricted from usage
according to non-existent FAQ for the ng:
Morning Wood
One Eyed Little Sailor
Heat Seeking Torpedo
Pussy Pounder
Deep Probing Mantool
Meat
Screaming Thigh Sweatmaster
--Courtesy of Net Cop Barbie (New from Mattell!!)
BarbieEnvy
>You Mata Hari you! I'm sure you work for Ph**ip Mo*r*s and trying to lure me
back to Marlboro country. But your devilish ways will not work.
>I am smoke-free and staying that way!
>
>Put that in your pipe and spank it!
OH Ian...absolutely not! hehehehehe
Spank Me Barbie...and introducing Mattell's newest addition to the Barbie
Fantasy:
Smoke Me Barbie!
WFG
Mindy Bush <mb...@heart.net> wrote:
>You do? I always thought it would be somewhat humiliating and
>degrading. If a man hit me (and has) he would be on his ass in a
>second (and has)...
Mindy, the one thing we never do is "hitting". A loving smack-bottom
is a whole lot different to violence. It's only humiliating and
degrading if the woman doesn't agree to it - there is no place in a
loving relationship for non-consensual stuff.
>so there's just no way that I could find it "sexy" to lay my naked
>chunky munky ass over some guy's hardon while he whacked the hell out
>of me.... I don't get it??
I bet you would! ;-) But they wouldn't "whack the hell out of you" -
that would defeat the object, unless, of course, that's what you wanted
(and some people do). It's a long and complex subject, like most
matters sexual and definitely OT for this ng.
>Are you into the whole B&D thing too? Is that just about
>trust or what?!
Not me personally, but many people are. Yes, it's about trust - there
are code words and so on that people use to set limits.
>I don't get it... not tryin to start an argument here at
> all... just lookin' for an explanation of sorts.
Of course it's not an argument. And what does "munky" mean?
>Is it bad to say "hardon" here? Sorry to offend anyone....
A spankable offence...
WFG/Ian
Kaptnken
wonderfully evil thoughts...time to set sail and pillage and
plunder....and your thoughts on being tossed over the shoulder and carried
off? : )))
In article <19990707015200...@ng-cl1.aol.com>,
barbi...@aol.com (BarbieEnvy) wrote:
--
KaptnKen
"Remember, wherever you go...there you are"--Buckaroo Banzai
DoGood
> Ahem, adding to that I'd have to say the following are restricted
from usage
> according to non-existent FAQ for the ng:
It's obvious I'm in over my head in naming my equipment. If I ever
need a new nickname I'll know who to go to for advice.
DoGood
Day 74 - My one-eyed sailor is a happy feller
Mindy Bush
It's "monkey" really.. just like how it looks the same as chunky. hehe
> Is it bad to say "hardon" here? Sorry to offend anyone....
>
> A spankable offence...
Yikes. *defenses on* Make that... penile erection. I don't even know if
that's a word... but it sure is now. :) penile... hehe
~Mindy
BarbieEnvy
<squealing with delight> uh-huh uh-huh uh-huh...hubby can do that ;-) can
you??
Bad Barbie
BarbieEnvy
Well of course you are hon, don't you know women spend time thinking up new fun
names for men's equipment all the time?
Blatant Barbie
BarbieEnvy
ROFLMAO....Too good Jez, can't wait to call hubby's this name
Barbie (still in the cage and not thinking of coming out for awhile).
Rosy B. Goode
particularly intriguing due to recent happenings/experience in my own
life/family, so I came over to have a look. If you are not interested in
the views of a mature and experienced spankophile (who is also a grandma
and cook and gardener and a lot of other very normal things<g>) on this
subject then read no further. I am posting this in case it just might help
someone to read it, and I will not respond to flames or ridicule. Take
what you need and leave the rest.
In article <01bec469$1904aea0$LocalHost@k23inter>, "anne"
<anne...@yahoo.com> wrote:
> Shakes <jenpatte...@hotmail.com>
> wrote<ViWe3.119$t_3....@typ22b.nn.bcandid.com>...
> > Yet again, I'm posting and hoping that this one reaches the board...(What
> > the hell is wrong with my newsreader or news server or whatever???)
> >
> > Anyway... what if you get to *liking* spankings?
>
>
> Well you don't get your daily spanking if you smoke???
Mmmm hmmm... or you might get 'specially nice spankings for not smoking.
Some people like to be spanked so much that it is sometimes possible to use
it for positive reinforcement.
Even for people who do like to be spanked it can sometimes work quite
successfully as a deterrent though. Some kinds of spankings (to those who
do enjoy them, and there are lots of us around, and if you saw most of us
on the street we wouldn't look any different from the other folks) are much
more enjoyable than other kinds, just as different people find different
erotic acts more appealing done in certain ways or with more or less
pressure or friction or whatever.
My partner, after more than a year of screwing around and slipping up and
cheating over the smoking thing (and she _has_ to quit to keep getting
certain medical treatments that are very beneficial and even life-saving in
some ways), has finally quit. Even using the Nicotrol inhaler she cheated
and bought cigarettes... at first just one or two a day, but then it would
escalate. She had a lot of trouble using support from other people before,
but when she broke down and bought a whole _carton_ in May she finally
reached hard enough to find a way I could help support her and it is
working 100% so far.
We do spank for fun and for love and for comfort and for sex, and it is
joyous and wonderful when that happens, but what will happen to her (what
_she_ has _asked_ that I do for her) if she ever takes another puff of a
cigarette will not be fun (loving, yes, but a very tough loving). It will
probably leave us both in tears if it ever does happen, but if the thought
of getting her buns absolutely scalded with her bathbrush is what can make
it possible for her to finally keep away from the damn cigarettes and keep
ahead of the nicodemon and continue the medical therapy that is doing her
so much good, then that is what I will do, even if it does make us both cry
to do it. She doesn't want to put either of us through that though, and I
remind her (without really showing, because I won't spank her that hard for
anything else) about how very terrible it will be and it is working very
successfully as a deterrent.
She has now been smoke-free for over six weeks... the first time in this
whole miserable year+ of trying this and that to quit that she has gone
more than a couple of days. Will I really come through if it happens? You
bet your sweet... ummmmm... bottom I will.;-) Because I love her. Because
_she_asked_ me to. Because it is working... and the reason it _is_ working
is because she has absolute trust that I would come through that way for
her if I had to.
Would this work for everyone? Of course not. I don't think there is any
one method of quitting smoking that will work for everyone. It is a tough
job any way you look at it, and whatever a body can find to help that will
work (however odd it may seem to others sometimes) is, IMO, a Good Thing.
Is it abuse? No, I really don't think so... not if the person trying to
quit asks for that kind of help. What separates consensual adult spanking
(whether for fun or for disciplinary help) from abuse is _consent_. An
adult spouse/partner (or a friend, for that matter) who spanks an adult who
has _asked_ to be spanked is not an abuser. They are merely being
obliging. Sure it can hurt... so does dying of cancer... I've seen both,
and I'd take a spanking hands down over that other.:-( For a
spouse/partner/friend to try to force someone to quit by spanking them
would indeed be abuse. The request has to come from the smoker to make it
all right to try this method. As with any act of sex/passion, consent is
what makes the difference between right and wrong. IMO, of course, but it
is a pretty strong opinion, based on many years of experience and careful
thought.
Regards,
Rosy... mature spankophile with 20+ years experience of safe and loving
consensual adult spanking.
P.S. just in case anyone out there might actually consider giving this
method a try.... If you are tempted to try this, do be careful. It would
be a good idea to educate yourself (and your spanker, of course) on how to
spank safely without doing any serious damage (though the occasional bruise
or lingering soreness is possible even if one plays safe, but all kinds of
sports result in occasional bruises and lingering soreness and no one
thinks twice about it). The FAQ from soc.sexuality.spanking has abundant
advice on safe spanking. So does a book by Greenery Press called "The
Compleat Spanker".
At the very least, consider using a 'safeword' so if the spankee should
develop a cramp or difficulty breathing other distress that warranted
stopping the spanking s/he has a way to do so. If you use implements...
strap, paddle, hairbrush, or whatever... make sure to spank square on with
the flat side to avoid edge hits. The flat part stings more (that's the
point, right?<g>) and is much less likely to bruise or break skin (or..
worst case.. damage bones). Also only spank over fleshy areas like the
buttocks and (depending on what you negotiate) upper thighs. _Never_ spank
over the tailbone or kidneys or the backs of the knees or any other bony or
particularly vulnerable/delicate area.
If you want to try using switches or the cane it is even more important to
do some educating and have your prospectiver spanker do some practicing
(like on a pillow.. _not_ on you!) first. These are not implements that
are safe for beginners with no real experience or practice to use. Stick
to wider and more easily controlled implements if you are not into getting
yourself (and your spanker) pretty educated on the subject.
anne
Rosy B. Goode <RosyB...@newsguy.com> schreef in artikel
<RosyB.Goode-ya02408...@enews.newsguy.com>...
> I heard about this thread over on soc.sexuality.spanking, and found it
> particularly intriguing due to recent happenings/experience in my own
> life/family, so I came over to have a look. If you are not interested in
> the views of a mature and experienced spankophile (who is also a grandma
> and cook and gardener and a lot of other very normal things<g>) on this
> subject then read no further. I am posting this in case it just might
help
> someone to read it, and I will not respond to flames or ridicule. Take
> what you need and leave the rest.
>
> In article <01bec469$1904aea0$LocalHost@k23inter>, "anne"
> <anne...@yahoo.com> wrote:
>
> > Shakes <jenpatte...@hotmail.com>
> > wrote<ViWe3.119$t_3....@typ22b.nn.bcandid.com>...
> > > Yet again, I'm posting and hoping that this one reaches the
board...(What
> > > the hell is wrong with my newsreader or news server or whatever???)
Aaargh, now I'm in a spanking thread forever on Dejanews.
I'm very much against spanking. I never spanked my children and was never
spanked myself. In fact I'm allergic to spanking. I personally think that
when you love spanking in a sexual relationship, you somehow have this
sin/sex thing in your mind.
That is none of my business but I hate the sex=pleasure but naughty and
smoking is pleasure but naughty.
I resent that. You can do all your spanking to your hearts content, but
spanking as a way of punishment for "sinful" behavior is not my thing. It
smells.
Anne
lamar77...@gmail.com
This is very interesting, because, i myself have been trying to quit for years. I can only remember the one time i quite. that was the time, my dad whooped my butt, for smoking and that was enough for me, mind you i was only 16 then. Over the years i picked the habit back up and i, as well, have tried different methods of trying to quit, but i didn't last past 7 days. i myself had the same thought " Maybe, if i got Punished for smoking or the fear of, i might just stop". well, it was just a thought, because i dont have that type of father figure or anyone i would give the authority over me, to do so. But i was thinking " that might work".
i'm 38 and still i smoke. you would think that with the prices of these damn things skyrocketing, i would, or the fact the my love ones and other people dying, because of these things, i would stop. But, NOOOOO, not me!!!
I don't know, maybe im just thinking outside the box.
Wayne Baker
news:f4aebff4-214e-4786...@googlegroups.com:
me could motivate me to quit. It had to come from within. What smoking
does to a person on a daily basis is already punishment enough! The way
I managed to quit was by following these steps:
1. Set a Quit Date
2. Make a list of all the reasons I want to quit.
3. Make another list of things I can do when a craving hits.
4. Read everything I can about the addiction and pay attention to others
who have quit.
5. Share often what is going on with me and my addiction. Whether that
be on line or in person. It was important to make myself accountable to
others.
Quitting is extremely difficult for some and seemingly easy for others.
One thing is for sure, only the smoker can do the quitting. No one else
can do it for us. If you want it badly enough, you can achieve a smoke-
free life.
Best wishes,
Wayne Baker
6y 11m 2w 5d 8:07 smoke-free
76,364 cigs not smoked
$16,723.72 (2009 Dollars) better spent
Smober Since Sept. 25, 2009
On Streets we call The Zoo
> Although the belt worked wonders for me, I know
> of others who have used a flat backed hairbrush,
> and another couple who uses a cane.
> Keep in mind the number of strokes should be in
> check with the instrument.
> For example with the strap, we used my age as a
> guidline, but with the cane only a max of 6-10
> strokes will get the message across.
I'll spank you whether you smoke or not.
On Streets we call The Zoo
> I'm very much against spanking. I never spanked my children and was never
> spanked myself. In fact I'm allergic to spanking. I personally think that
> when you love spanking in a sexual relationship, you somehow have this
> sin/sex thing in your mind.
darthb...@gmail.com
Kenny Long
> I know this may seem like a strange, or a little
> off the wall approach, but it worked for me, and
> may work for others who have tried other methods
> and failed.
> A few years back, I desperately wanted to quite
> smoking and tried various methods: books, gizmos,
> the patch. All seem to accomplish the same thing.
> I would quit, and even think "this was it!", and
> I would never smoke again, but would always end up
> having "just one" after a month or so.
> One day I remember thinking to myself: What
> stopped me from smoking when I was younger?
> Having started smoking when I was 20, tracing
> back my footsteps to when I didn't smoke seemed
> like the answer, and it was!
>
> When I was younger and living at home and had
> the urge to try smoking, the one thing that had
> always stopped me was the fear my parants would
> find out...and also the fear of a belt across my
> backside!
> They were very clear about their views on
> smoking. And although they had stopped spanking
> us when we were 10-11, our parents wouldn't
> hesitate to dust off the strap if a situation
> like smoking, or stealing came up.
>
> I can remember a time when my sister, who was 16
> at the time, was caught smoking at the mall by my
> mother. Talk about being scared straight! Hearing
> the sounds of the strap striking my sisters bare
> fanny over and over again was enough to keep me
> from smoking. At least until I grew up and was
> living on my own.
>
> The problem of course, as many will agree, is
> that you can only control, or try to control your
> children while they are living under your roof.
> While I was living on my own it was only a matter
> of time before I became lazy...no one to tell me
> to clean up my room, or pick up my clothes, and
> then when I was around 20 I started smoking. Not
> much at first. Usually 1 or 2 if I went to a bar
> with my friends, but the habit kept growing.
>
> Later on in life my habit had grown to a pack or
> so a day, and I desperately wanted to quit. For
> some reason I thought it would be easy, and did
> manage to quit for months at a time. However,
> sooner or later I would have "just one", and
> start the ball rolling again.
>
> Thats when I went to my husband for help. I told
> him the only way I would ever quit, and quit for
> good was if I had the fear of being punished if I
> was ever caught smoking again. At first my idea
> didn't go over very well, as he thought my plan
> was cruel and unusual punishment. But after trying
> to quit again, and falling miseribly and even
> quicker than before, he agreed, and the plan was
> put in motion.
> I was given 2 weeks to finish smoking in whatever
> way I wanted. I chose to cut back each day, and
> by the end of the 2 weeks I was down to only 3-4
> a day. After this time period, the rest of the
> plan was very simple. If I smoked again, I would
> be spanked over his knee, on my bare behind, with
> an old leather belt! And were not talking about a
> playful birthday spanking here, but like a
> birthday spanking I would recieve one stroke for
> each year of my age (26) That number I will never
> forget!
>
> Anyways, to make a long story short, after a few
> months of being clean, I thought I could sneak
> one. Big mistake! When are smokers going to learn
> that non smokers can smell it in an instant!. I
> had even gone through steps to smoke ouside, and
> to have a breath mint after. At first he asked
> me, like he usually did, if I had smoked that
> day, and I tried to lie and say I didn't, but I
> could see in his eyes he knew. Needless to say in
> a few minutes I was draped over his knee crying
> like a baby as I recieved my 26 strokes across my
> bare bottom!
> That year I slipped up three times, and the
> following year only twice. So far this year, I've
> managed to avoid the temptations, and haven't had
> to take that dreadful trip over the knee. And in
> my bedroom closet, which I open every day, hangs
> the belt as a reminder of what I can expect if I
> should trasgress again.
>
> Now, is this approach for everyone?
> No.
> If you haven't tried to "seriously" quit using
> other methods first, try them. They didn't work
> for me, but they may work for you.
>
> How harsh should the punishment be?
> If you are going to try this plan it must be
> painfull to provide a proper deterent, and should
> be taken very seriously. If it isn't don't bother.
> If you find yourself over a knee everyday, then
> obviously your not being properly punished.
> For me, the humiliation was just as bad as the
> strapping I recieved.
>
> What instrument should be used?
> Although the belt worked wonders for me, I know
> of others who have used a flat backed hairbrush,
> and another couple who uses a cane.
> Keep in mind the number of strokes should be in
> check with the instrument.
> For example with the strap, we used my age as a
> guidline, but with the cane only a max of 6-10
> strokes will get the message across.
>
> especially if you think its easy to quit. But for
> me it was just what was needed. I would much
> rather feel the sting for a few days, compared to
> my life before as a smoker. I won't go into all
> the negatives with smoking, but I will say I don't
> ever want to go back.
>
> Goodluck to all in whatever approach you take to
> quit. Its worth it in the end, trust me!
>
> Jennifer
Hi Jennifer,
Some may read this and think it's mean and cruel while others may think it perfectly normal. Who am I to judge? What ever works! I do remember a wooden paddle in the Principal's office in Junior High. It hung on the wall, was about two ft long by about six inches wide and maybe an inch thick ... and it had several hols drilled in it so that it whistled when he swung it down on the recipient. Yep, just knowing that paddle was there was a huge deterrent for all us students.
Good luck!
Ken, TOF+ (Lighting up is not an option.)
Twenty years, one day.
226498 cigs not smoked, saving $28,312.33.
Life saved: 2 years, 7 weeks, 2 days, 10 hours.