Oh, well. That too.
Eleonore Beaudoin
The person never showed up ytto pick the bgas of presents I had prepared
for them and their four kids...
I had learned that he woudl leave very early to drive and pick his two
oldest in this town, because of the foecast calling or iced rain.
I then called by 1 P.M. to remind him...
But then learned that he had left from this town at 10 A.M.
I was shocked and silent, stunned, and jawdropped.
Person at the other end started telling me to not take it this or that way.
I said something out loud a la 'what shoudl I do with those things
now...', and was shouted at �Okay. Take it that way:(' and told to go to
hell, and the phoen slammed down on me.
I was really finding it too ironic...There I was, running to shop when not
rih myself to at least have soem kids feelXMas did ot forget them, whiel
sick and wondering hwo to buckle my own budget, and while I thought
already it was irononic because I so wanted to spend time sortign through
the piles of bags and boxes still in the house. And there I was, facing a
huge Santa Size bag of presents that could fit no one I knew for age and
gender of the kids...Lovely.
I end up with one more bag, stuck with it taking room....
Mppft.
What I had to send to the farm no one came to pick either. Since they said
it woudl be celebrated only on New Year this year, mom wantign it so
because of her op. I then thought that fine, it woudl wait. So am stuck
with three bags and two boxes of the kind.....And they did all go on Xmas
day at the farm, despite mo's wish where I then think hat nothign will
happen for New Year's there, and where the New Year,s weekend was when
kiddo and I decided to ave our XMas, before the farm decided to switch to
dec 25.
I will not all for anyoen to pick it anymore. I need room. Depending on if
I happen to get out of here wit the lungs as they are before someoen comes
to pick them up, they will either go to the farm anyway or be brought by
me to Salvation army. Whichever happesn forst. I need room to move in here
and get thigs done. I do not have such holidays to waste, I need the time
to get organized in here.
But that was the final drop. I will never again buy anyone in the family
anything.
I'll buy cards.
If soemoen stops by ever, I will hand them a card. Period.
And cards take little room. In fact, unless I gave the ones I had last
year...I might already have a box somewhere:).
Oh, just so that the next person is not treated in a same rude way: after
I was hung up on, I left the receiver off the hook all day. I expected no
calls for oen thing. Fo another, since I was the one who called, unless I
hung up, they woudl get no dial-tone for as long as I did not hang up:).
Their line is an old one where you can not unplug the phoens to reset
them. Mine is. So I can hang up on them, hehehe, but they sure can on me,.
ifference being they then are stuck without a phone for a day if they so
chose.
I just could nt resist life giving me the occasion to make them learn to
be response-able (responsible). To make them learn from their own actions
and consequences. THEY hung up. TEY were rude. THEIR choice. But hanging
up on someone leaves them too to have a choice, nah:)
Hehehe:)
This way as mad as it maybe got them, well, they coudl not blame anyone
else but themself for it. It came from their action. Is their consequence,
not mine:). 'Control this', sort of thing:).
Or 'see? You can not control others all the time. Learn another approcah
with your neighbor. If you press my buttons, you will get your own
consequences served: don't play action-reaction with me. It will never work:)
You sure have the freedom to hang up on me. But I sure have the freedom to
NOT hang up at my end, nah ner:).
(Thumbs in ears, and wiggling fingers while pulling my tongue out: PPTTTTT!)
:)
Vitara
on getting a PC upgrade. <....grin>
Am sad such <below, infra> happened there.
Will reply to the first few paragraphs. Not being strong-spirited
enough right now to read all of the post. . . . Oy . :(
I havta' say : . These ppl are of course (any of us are, when hard
pressed calculating and with cards kept close to the vest. So
suddenly in the last minute the children do not matter so much in
their, or his, mind. Not enough to justify some kind of travel time.
We could have hoped they would appreciate the effort you made -- even
_great_ effort, it being a late date -- to obtain the presents.
But no. Instead of going out of his way and completing the plan,
carrying out his part....
He left no mention, in case you called.
And here I do not give him the benefit of doubt : I do not say he was
embarrassed and when leaving the house unable think up an excuse, in
case you telephoned.
+ the woman did not feel immediately appologetic.
When hearing your voice, she did not think how you were let down. But
instantly thought how to get someone off her back. Sad people.
"Born to the petit pain" as a person here once taught me ;-)
'Member? (( ))
cheers, V.
On Dec 27, 2:13 pm, bc...@FreeNet.Carleton.CA (Eleonore Beaudoin)
wrote:
> The person never showed up ytto pick the bgas of presents I had prepared
> for them and their four kids...
>
> I had learned that he woudl leave very early to drive and pick his two
> oldest in this town, because of the foecast calling or iced rain.
> I then called by 1 P.M. to remind him...
>
> But then learned that he had left from this town at 10 A.M.
> I was shocked and silent, stunned, and jawdropped.
> Person at the other end started telling me to not take it this or that way.
> I said something out loud a la 'what shoudl I do with those things
> now...', and was shouted at Okay. Take it that way:(' and told to go to
> hell, and the phoen slammed down on me.
>
> I was really finding it too ironic...There I was, running to shop when not
> rih myself to at least have soem kids feelXMas did ot forget them, whiel
> sick and wondering hwo to buckle my own budget, and while I thought
> already it was irononic because I so wanted to spend time sortign through
> the piles of bags and boxes still in the house. And there I was, facing a
> huge Santa Size bag of presents that could fit no one I knew for age and
> gender of the kids...Lovely.
>
> I end up with one more bag, stuck with it taking room....
>
> Mppft.
>
> What I had to send to the farm no one came to pi . . .
Eleonore Beaudoin
> . . . . . . . . . . . .Congratulations again <gleeful....>
> on getting a PC upgrade. <....grin>
>
> Am sad such <below, infra> happened there.
>
> Will reply to the first few paragraphs. Not being strong-spirited
> enough right now to read all of the post. . . . Oy . :(
>
> I havta' say : . These ppl are of course (any of us are, when hard
> pressed calculating and with cards kept close to the vest. So
> suddenly in the last minute the children do not matter so much in
> their, or his, mind. Not enough to justify some kind of travel time.
>
> We could have hoped they would appreciate the effort you made -- even
> _great_ effort, it being a late date -- to obtain the presents.
>
> But no. Instead of going out of his way and completing the plan,
> carrying out his part....
>
> He left no mention, in case you called.
>
> And here I do not give him the benefit of doubt : I do not say he was
> embarrassed and when leaving the house unable think up an excuse, in
> case you telephoned.
> + the woman did not feel immediately appologetic.
>
> When hearing your voice, she did not think how you were let down. But
> instantly thought how to get someone off her back. Sad people.
>
> "Born to the petit pain" as a person here once taught me ;-)
>
> 'Member? (( ))
My words about lil bread wwere always 'If born for small bread, become a
breadmaker'.('Quand on est nes pour un petit pain? On se fait boulanger.')
I do still give benefit of the doubt: one is not another and he has not at
this point doen anything that I can affir woudl be wrong. He might have
feared the bad raods with his kids, which is honorable a thing.
However, I'd expect an explanation or apology for his not having at least
CALLED. Mayeb there woudl be some explanation there, if I see one save the
taking for granted or the not aring, or the fact maybe his check came in,
which involves some not caring too.
On the other hand, I *know* he is proud. Which might be why he did not
call, too.
At any ate, I find it truely uncaring, and yet leave the benefit of the
doubt to some possible explanation or apology with explanation.
Until that woudl be, or unless that woudl be one day in time, his name is
off my list.
He is not responsile or the way another person answered me on the phone.
Only that one is.
But he is responsible for not having stopped nor even called to cancel or
apologize.
Not being rich, people do not think twice about sending me to hell.
They figure theyc an do fine without me.
However, in hard times, which I do not wish upon anyone but happen in time
to everyone in one way or another, I am the one they think could be the only
one to help still, where knowing they muffed it bad in the past makes them
THEN (and sadly only then) measure how they shot themself in the foot.
But yeah, it stinks major, that.
>
> cheers, V.
>
> On Dec 27, 2:13=A0pm, bc...@FreeNet.Carleton.CA (Eleonore Beaudoin)
> wrote:
>> The person never showed up ytto pick the bgas of presents I had prepared
>> for them and their four kids...
>>
>> I had learned that he woudl leave very early to drive and pick his two
>> oldest in this town, because of the foecast calling or iced rain.
>> I then called by 1 P.M. to remind him...
>>
>> But then learned that he had left from this town at 10 A.M.
>> I was shocked and silent, stunned, and jawdropped.
>> Person at the other end started telling me to not take it this or that wa=
> y.
>> I said something out loud a la 'what shoudl I do with those things
>> now...', and was shouted at Okay. Take it that way:(' and told to go to
>> hell, and the phoen slammed down on me.
>>
>> I was really finding it too ironic...There I was, running to shop when no=
Vitara
> . . . . . . . . . . . .Congratulations again <gleeful....>
> on getting a PC upgrade. <....grin>
>
> instantly thought how to get someone off her back. Sad people.
>
> "Born to the petit pain" as a person here once taught me ;-)
>
> 'Member? (( ))
>
> cheers, V.
>
> On Dec 27, 2:13 pm, bc...@FreeNet.Carleton.CA (Eleonore Beaudoin)
> wrote:
>
> > The person never showed
Mostly a little bit of losses today. Today and last evening. FEW of
those, ahem.
Saw e-mail this evening. From younger sister saying she won't come to
town after all this season. :) :)
Nothing big either way; I should be thankful.
cheers,
V.
Eleonore Beaudoin
> On Dec 27 2009, 5:37=A0pm, Vitara <waba...@gmail.com> wrote:
>> . =A0. =A0. =A0. =A0. =A0. =A0. =A0. =A0. =A0. =A0. =A0.Congratulations a=
> gain <gleeful....>
>> on getting a PC upgrade. <....grin>
>>
>
>>
>> "Born to the petit pain" as a person here once taught me =A0 ;-)
>>
>> 'Member? =A0 =A0(( ))
>>
>> cheers, =A0V.
>>
>> On Dec 27, 2:13=A0pm, bc...@FreeNet.Carleton.CA (Eleonore Beaudoin)
>> wrote:
>>
>> > The person never showed
>
> Mostly a little bit of losses today. Today and last evening. FEW of
> those, ahem.
>
> Saw e-mail this evening. From younger sister saying she won't come to
> town after all this season. :) :)
Do you wroite to her sometimes?
Or i it just a once a year thing where togh the years peopel grow part and
do not feel familiar or at ease with each other anymore?
On my side, kiddo and sweet half just left.
My saying I would prefer to have Sundayto rest before goign abck to work
soothed Sweet haf who also works on Monday. Kiddo leaves for two weeks for
a tour with a play he is in then is off to Mexico with Sweet half a few days.
Then is back on with the show.
e all made a very nice XMas thing for the rpesents, where everyoen was
wise, did not spend a fortune and foud to offer lil presents that made
everyoen thrlled and happy. We also laughed a lot, namely me, for being
sily from not having slept all night, workign all niht to try and make
room with boxes, and empty the piles on counters and table, clean fridge,
stove, which I had done the day before thank goodness, ad then find as
much room with boxes and organozing in my ehad as I worked how to put what
ion what order so that this could be moved by kddo heloing sweet hlf to
the guesrt room until I cna sort my own room and the rest of the forst
floor, after I washed thegiest room floor and furniture fro that roduct I
had put on everything to rd of moth mites.
Have not sen one in weeks now, if I saw a hole ion one sock downstais. But
coudl have been ade by ripping it somehow, with all I bumped into all day
ong trying to get through those piles.
I now can walk to the front door without doing slalum and huritng my back
or bumping my toes all the time. Same for dining room. Table was emptiued,
counters to, rpesents wrappe and tagged. Ran ut of scotch tape. Was lucky
I had soe elft at all, neer thought of it. Then foudn a huge box papered
all over with XMa pape that kiddo had done for a present of mine two years
ago, and that I used since for storing XMas decorations. Emtpied it and
put the rest of the presents inside, twistign each in paper or silk paper,
to make it like a big surprise box.
It worked fine as they ahd decided to o huge XMas stockings this year and to
fill them...will lil presents, so was quite a coincidence in that.
They are sooo sweet: they bought turkey and cranberries ad even ased
potaties, stuffing, wine, oickles, etc, I had olives and a few other
things, they got chese, while kiddo and I made a platter of dessert lil
thigs, amely candies and so n that I had bought to the other guy"s kids
for XMas, who never came to pick the things, making the most of it.
They were rel nice. I was so dead exausted and aching everywher from the
hard work when they got here, for an hour or two, I could not find strenht
to lift anything....
They helped tremendously, put the air co away for me on baseent landing
step, in its box, and kiddo coudl take tow boxes that were memories of
his, to srort through, as he had pics of a passed childhood friend in it
and other pics, games from when he was six, lil rubber boots I ahd kept
for him as a memory (they are so cute an sall:), where he knows that what
he will not want to keep, he brings back to see if I want to keep any of
the rest as a souvenir from when he was a kid. ASlso was his communion
certificate in there. With his firt communion book, booknote from garde
1-2 which he did in one eyar, etc.
Kiddo ofered me digital tv converter, and intallation and first three
months of ntermeary speed Internet. He rought his old'' pc for me.
Gotta call when rested to fix an apointment wiht the server people.
Package deal will be with cable ad phone, costing me less a month than
they used to, even if Freenet was free (now asking 76 a year, but they
work so bad sicne I renewed, dunno what the prob is, if them or my pc or both.
Dead tired, falling asleep on jkeyboard. Need to drink water....
Legs stiff from ard ork and carryign stuff and walking everywhere
ad working very hard physically all night and until they arrived...
Spine hurts a bit, but nothig worryign as the lung was.
Coughed badly twice, wen hot because of stove where sweet half was waring
upo meat pie.
Kiddo was thrilled with the chcolate chip cookies I made him, and with the
toes warmer nevelopes (pads that keep the feet warm for a few hours),
sicne apaprently it is quite cod in the prairies this year. He got himself
a real dawn anorak wit a hood covering his face and all. So that will help.
They loved the chocolate fondue lil set. I feared it would not be as they
woudl have wanted, but they wee thrilled.
Thrilled too with the lil cremaer pot and sauce pt (to put on table), and
so happens that kiddo gave in seet haf's stocking an olive plate wiht fork
that was from the same collection, so that was neat:).
They also gave me bird seeds, and stoppe for me to feed my birds at aork,
as it was very cold today, snowing, and food woul be ghard to find for
them lus have not been to feed them during the holidays, beign sick and
not wantng ut in the cold...
I also had a lottery ticket, seeds for the cockatiels, a huge bag:), honey
seed bars for the cocktierls, so happy about that as Tweedlel4eedee when
he oes not at enou will eatore with these treats:)., and also some bonefor
their beak, banana and another flavor:)
Belami was nervous all ay but purring as soon as I hel her. So cute she is
too.
Was a nice but very tired day, if the tiredness just agve way to my
laughing to tears all the time for silly stuff. ut ebats beign grumpy as I
was with pain and feelgn so flerg and aching and sick.
Hope the spne doe snot make it so I get a neck pain and can not move
tomorrow. At a point I stopped to cool down too hot from hard work all
niht, this morning, andas I sat,. I felt he spine actually lancing for a
while.
Felt he verterbrae, lower ones, up to mid back, make each a opping sound
going upards, then this laning for a while then all seemed okay...
But neck is stiff, probably just muscles form quite hard physical work for
many hours none stop and without sleep.
Feet are even hurtign too....Froms anding and walking and bumping into
things so long
Time to take a break...
Ad crash asleep probably.
Wish we lived nearby....
You coudl have come and shared with us...
N one came to pick the things for the f, and the man did not come to pick
the hings for his family either.
So..Kiddo will take the kids stuff if the an doe snot show up in the late
days as I said maybe he was waiting for when he woudl drive his kids back
home, because the weather was not good enough the other dy.Still, as I
said, he could have called...
As they left, I felt the ords and hugs were done like by two secretly
feeling that mom and ''mom-in-law' aged a lot lately, and like they
measured I woudl not be eternal. I gess I must look likedeatv wrme dup, so
tired physically.
Fnally I am not circled by walls of bins piled up!
I can see around me. Makes it way less depressing a sight...
Man, am I ever pooped though right now, f again, I managed fine withthe
laughte and all as we ate and shared presents:
Glad they were wise and did not overspend...If the three months of
Internet and cionverter are a lot of money, kiddo got a good deal and does
not pay a thing before a few months, save for 30 bucks, whch fots him and
his buget as chevcks are coming in that wee not there yet for Xmas time.
Glad they did not overspend, the rest having been like my present,s lil
things under 1, 2 5, or ten bucks.
Sweet af was happy to get presents too because on that side of their
family, theymake a draw to biuy one family ember a present, and there was
a nmix up wre two thought they had picked KIddos name, having then wo
prsents for him and noen for her. So happened that oen of the presets
fitted sweet half anyway, as she said nicely, but still, sort of kills the
present moment say.
I am always happy and relieved when they travel to know theyare back safe
afer havign a good time...
Anyay, Nough tired babble:), and relaxing and beddy bed time soon for
me...after a few drinks of water:).
> Nothing big either way; I should be thankful.
((((((((((((((((((((((((((((P..)))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Does your sister have kids?
Ca *you* visit her? o again, are you so on each your own road and path
that it woudl not be a thign where you and she would feel at ease?
C
>
> cheers,
> V.