Last half day of work
Eleonore Beaudoin
There is a God of mercy :):)
Fleh....Wish I did not have to do that half day still.
Jared
wrote:
> ..before 11 staright days off, for using only 3 annual leaves.
Nice. I'm only taking today and tomorrow off. And then new year's eve
and new year's day.
Eleonore Beaudoin
> On Dec 24, 7:56=A0am, bc...@FreeNet.Carleton.CA (Eleonore Beaudoin)
I only decided at the last minute to take the entire week: it leaves
little time off for the rest of the year (annual leaves renewed after
March), and for the snow storms and possible icy roads, ilnesses and
emergencies, should any happen.
But for the three ays off, getting from now to Jan 4 off work was just too
tempting.
Besides, one of my lungs still hurt, and each time I go out in the cold,
it feels like it freezes on my back and around the ribs at the back where
the lung is...So a stretch of many days without havign to get out in the
cold mornings should help.
My big evening plan? Dry mustard cataplasm:)
Hopefully it will help.
Problem is to try and put it on my own back when my elbows bend the 'wrong
way', of course;-).
But I managed the last time, two eyars ago, and should also this time find
a way to throw it on my back and slide it on the right spot:)
Hope you enjoy your days off, and that you ahve a good time with your
family, friends and ..within your own self, too! Jus feelign that nice
yummy peaceful feeling that all men and women of good will should feel in
this Season -and throughout the year!
Hug,
C
Vitara
>
> But for the three ays off, getting from now to Jan 4 off work was just too
> tempting.
>
> Besides, one of my lungs still hurt, and each time I go out in the cold,
> it feels like it freezes on my back and around the ribs at the back where
> the lung is...So a stretch of many days without havign to get out in the
> cold mornings should help.
>
> My big evening plan? Dry mustard cataplasm:)
> Hopefully it will help.
> Problem is to try and put it on my own back when my elbows bend the 'wrong
> way', of course;-).
> But I managed the last time, two eyars ago, and should also this time find
> a way to throw it on my back and slide it on the right spot:)
>
> Hope you enjoy your days off, and that you ahve a good time with your
> family, friends and ..within your own self, too! Jus feelign that nice
> yummy peaceful feeling that all men and women of good will should feel in
> this Season -and throughout the year!
>
> Hug,
>
> C
So well said; the "fellow-feeling among persons of good will." Today
I've certainly enough inward-frowns about people who, towards me, have
conflicts of interest or just plain smallness of spirit. So there is
not enough of me to go round for "all men."
/ But in that recent shopping trip I saw how many people are being
nice to each other. And in today's measured unhappiness I continued
to remember a goodly number of each kind exist.
"Peaceful feeling... men and women of good will...." :) . . And
sending good wishes (even a prayer ? <ducking head down>) that the
lung starts to get OK. It is not something for lingering.
/w those quiet thoughts . . . . . . . . . and going now to read
about presence of df
Eleonore Beaudoin
>>
>> But for the three ays off, getting from now to Jan 4 off work was just to=
> o
>> tempting.
>>
>> Besides, one of my lungs still hurt, and each time I go out in the cold,
>> it feels like it freezes on my back and around the ribs at the back where
>> the lung is...So a stretch of many days without havign to get out in the
>> cold mornings should help.
>>
>> My big evening plan? Dry mustard cataplasm:)
>> Hopefully it will help.
> g
>> way', of course;-).
> d
>> a way to throw it on my back and slide it on the right spot:)
>>
>> Hope you enjoy your days off, and that you ahve a good time with your
>> family, friends and ..within your own self, too! Jus feelign that nice
>> yummy peaceful feeling that all men and women of good will should feel in
>>
>> Hug,
>>
>> C
>
> So well said; the "fellow-feeling among persons of good will." Today
> I've certainly enough inward-frowns about people who, towards me, have
> conflicts of interest or just plain smallness of spirit. So there is
> not enough of me to go round for "all men."
> / But in that recent shopping trip I saw how many people are being
> nice to each other. And in today's measured unhappiness I continued
> to remember a goodly number of each kind exist.
>
> "Peaceful feeling... men and women of good will...." :) . . And
> sending good wishes (even a prayer ? <ducking head down>) that the
> lung starts to get OK. It is not something for lingering.
It already feels better just for not being with as much stress, knowign I
do not have to get in the cold tomorrow and can take it easy for the enxt
while, so to speak: I of course woudl love to get things done some more in
the house, but not until the 26th or after:)
> > /w those quiet thoughts
. . . . . . . . . and going now to read > about presence of df
Df? As ifn DarkFalz?
Miss him. Dunno what became of him.
Hope it is good stuff though!
Vitara
... :)
> do not have to get in the cold tomorrow and can take it easy for the enxt
> while, so to speak: I of course woudl love to get things done some more in
> the house, but not until the 26th or after:)
>
> > > /w those quiet thoughts
> . . . . . . . . . and going now to read > about presence of df
>
> Df? As ifn DarkFalz?
{ From the context that was in } , dear Father
{{ }}
Although I wrote here, "Cloud nine" thread/post was the context.
Vision during the drive home, with intimations in previous days.
>
> Miss him. Dunno what became of him.
> Hope it is good stuff though!
Enjoy hearing of one I perhaps never read. Or only once saw his name.
It is a happy thought that ASL has had such numbers. ---Who have
come, gone, then once in a great while return for a visit. So I get
the idea many have been helped, through the years.
Vitara
Eleonore Beaudoin
>> It [ lung ] already feels better just for not being with as much stress,=
> knowign I
> ... :)
>> do not have to get in the cold tomorrow and can take it easy for the enxt
> n
>> the house, but not until the 26th or after:)
>>
>> . . . . . . . . . =A0 and going now to read > about presence of =A0df
>>
>> Df? As ifn DarkFalz?
>
> { From the context that was in } , dear Father
> {{ }}
> Although I wrote here, "Cloud nine" thread/post was the context.
> Vision during the drive home, with intimations in previous days.
>
>>
>> Miss him. Dunno what became of him.
>> Hope it is good stuff though!
>
> Enjoy hearing of one I perhaps never read. Or only once saw his name.
>
> It is a happy thought that ASL has had such numbers. ---Who have
> come, gone, then once in a great while return for a visit. So I get
> the idea many have been helped, through the years.
>
> Vitara
Helped is a big word.
I'd say most just come to find distaction. Perhaps distraction helps
alleviate the lonely feeling.
Some did find a companion, others found other activities, moved, and or
simply moved on to places where they found soethign that better suited
themn, I guess.
I did not do the help thing in a few years.
For a part, it did not apply. For another, help is not always the thing to do.
I.e. soemtimes there is emotional dependancy and the control that comes
with that, to control what people are dependant on. In the case of
dependancies, people are used to getting things done for them or procured
through emotions they feel from tohers, by proxy if you will.
In such cases, helping is not helpful, as odd to read as this may seem.
If one is dependant on othrs, then others helping is not the way. The way
to 'elp" then is by not heping per se, and letting those iscover how
manipulation doe snot always work, and how tey can learn to do things to
help their own self. Empowerment in thse cases is not done by �doing
things for them� r bringing the the emotions they depend on (eg: damzel in
eternal distress needing saved from big bad men, or male victim type
needing a momma, etc, etc. It comes in many ways shae and form, and in
both genders of course.
You maybe noticed that we do not answer spammers much. That deters most
emotional dependnts and conterollers, because the reaction mode is not
omnipresent. Therefore manipulative types can not find at forst glance to
play others the way they are used to as if by nature. A second nature, really.
But there is soem every now and then that think the ng is a free game
place, with no oen playng contyrol, therefore all theirs to control and
play policing about.
We have that happening every now and then, but it never lasts very long,
or not forever anyway:).
In short, it has been rather quiet and I guess that 96% of people beign
dependant emotionally, they preer ngs and places in RL where they can
press the buttons and get the reactiosn they seek;-).
Makes this place quiet as far as number of posters go, but also as far as
feuding goes:).
Still, woudl be nice to see more faces to have more topics and stuff to
exchange about, and new things to read about and so on.
Every person is what makes the ng be what it is at any given time, and
like for any group or community, if no new blood comes in, fast, it can
turn into a sort of thing lie a snake eaiting its tail, chking itself for
lack of new fresh air and breeze:)
Sometiems I feel liek the stale air in here:)
Been so long:)
Vitara
> > the idea many have been helped, through the years.
>
> > Vitara
>
> Helped is a big word.
No disagreements there. I take that word to be an important one and
misused plenty.
Pretend smiley people walk away after a lil' thing they do; "good deed
for the day"; and all they did was increase someone's dependancy.
So far here, so good.
>
> I'd say most just come to find distaction. Perhaps distraction helps
> alleviate the lonely feeling.
<Lightening another's burden> I am thinking of. And distraction is a
strong enough concept to satisfy me there.
Sometimes (and when wrote the above) a smaile can be one thing in a
person's day which turns the gloom and makes one begin thinking
energetic thoughts and thoughts of appreciation.
A theory : maybe many positive smiles fly around every day. While
also plenty of people need a lift. But only when a good smile is
given at the right moment -- does it penetrate. To get the gloomy one
or sour one "back on track."
My two cents
During that day where I went for the flue shot, then shopped some, a
woman asked, "May I help you" when I was clearly absent-minded and
thinking. Nice person, she. Soon we were in a conversation about how
to get organized (I was picking an expanding folder). Her words were
sort of interesting, but being such a nice person she gave me a chance
to think a) about being organized, and b) about holiday
spirit. About how generally happy the ppl in that store were.
I had had no conversation with any other that day. Her presence gave
me a chance to think. More. She showed me nothing -- on any shelf,
gave me no information/on this or that product. Just gave me some
space in which to reflect and contemplate.
V.
> Some did find a companion, others found other activities, moved, and or
> simply moved on to places where they found soethign that better suited
> themn, I guess.
>
> I did not do the help thing in a few years.
>
> For a part, it did not apply. For another, help is not always the thing to do.
> I.e. soemtimes there is emotional dependancy and the control that comes
> with that, to control...
Eleonore Beaudoin
>> > ...come, gone, then once in a great while return for a visit. =A0So I g=
That's nice:).
and...I'll keep the smileys:)
There are may other ways to smile and bring smiles and confort than just
an easy smiley, but those also help in a context where no tone can be put
on words, and were interpretation can at times be mirroring how another
feels. Of course, even sileys can be interpreted as one feels and
projects, but like for everythign else, how to interpret soeone comes wiht
getting a sense of who and ow they are, which can only be known through
time, and with good will:)
C
>
>> Some did find a companion, others found other activities, moved, and or
>> simply moved on to places where they found soethign that better suited
>> themn, I guess.
>>
>> I did not do the help thing in a few years.
>>
>> For a part, it did not apply. For another, help is not always the thing t=