Two year SADaversary

glor...@webtv.net

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Oct 12, 2009, 9:50:00 PM10/12/09

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Time has gone very fast--
The memories stay--
The tears have stopped but sadness comes like a Tsummi--
I shake it off and think of other things--
Thats how I've survived without him.
Mitchels Mom

Time may be a great healer, but it's a lousy beautician.

glor...@webtv.net

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Oct 13, 2009, 11:35:22 AM10/13/09

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Sorry, the correct word is TSUNAMI.

donna

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Oct 13, 2009, 12:43:51 PM10/13/09

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dear gloria,

are you able to smile yet? i seem to remember that the words you
chose for mitchel's headstone were: 'you can shed tears because he is
gone, or you can smile because he was once here'. sorry if i don't
have them exactly ...

but only those of us who have lost so deeply know how tough it is to
smile again. it's all different and will be forever. in january it
will be four years that savannah died ... yesterday sometimes, and
sometimes forever. so hard ... so sad.

i wade my way through the cross-posting and read but it feels like the
group has passed too. daniel (god bless his heart) still has the
patience and caring to post but i have to wonder how many people,
still new and bleeding with grief, bypass this group because of the
meaningless, trivial, trolling they see here. a real shame.

thinking of you, gloria. i'm glad you've made it this far ...
although we all still have miles to go before we sleep.

donna,

glor...@webtv.net

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Oct 14, 2009, 7:26:49 AM10/14/09

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Dear Donna, Yes, I can smile again, when in the company of relatives,
The young ones especialy, have made sure to include me in their plans.
They dont freeze up when I mention Mitchel's name. They ask questions.
My friends have withdrawn.

Mitchel was a gift from God, and when he was 3 years old he told me
something, and I knew then that he was special. I enjoyed every moment
of his life, when he came home from school or work and I heard his key
in the door, I would say "MY
HAPPINESS IS HERE"

Yes, its painful, nothing could be worse, but thinking of the happy
times is the way.
Its what our children would want for us.

I have no clue as to what "an afterlife" is,
Dont think its something we should know.
I "feel" that Mitchel is peaceful, no emotional or physical pain, and
that comforts me.

Hugs and comfort for you and all on this journey.

Mitchel's Mom

Sad

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Oct 14, 2009, 11:32:29 PM10/14/09

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I'm sorry about the two year mark. It must feel like a lifetime. It's
been almost 3 months for me with the loss of my Mom and it feels like
forever. I'm glad you have peaceful thoughts and that you're able to
be comforted. *hugs*

Daniel

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Oct 15, 2009, 6:36:45 PM10/15/09

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On Mon, 12 Oct 2009 21:50:00 -0400, glor...@webtv.net wrote:

>Time has gone very fast--
>The memories stay--

>The tears have stopped but sadness comes like a Tsunami--

>I shake it off and think of other things--
>Thats how I've survived without him.
>Mitchels Mom
>
>Time may be a great healer, but it's a lousy beautician.

Year 2 was hardest in so many ways for me, after losing Mom. Hint: if "dry
spells" occur during year 3, it does not mean you're forgetting, it's just --
well, life going on, and we get better at it most of the time. The love is
there. The love endures.

Peace,
--
Daniel ( deltae...@usa.net )

Daniel

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Oct 15, 2009, 6:38:32 PM10/15/09

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On Tue, 13 Oct 2009 11:35:22 -0400, glor...@webtv.net wrote:

>Sorry, the correct word is TSUNAMI.
>

I knew that! :-) Surf's up!

{{{ hugs }}}

Daniel

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Oct 15, 2009, 6:40:00 PM10/15/09

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And gengle {{{ hugs }}} to you too. Where would I be without all the "mom
energy" from my "ASG Moms"?

Peace and happy dreams,