for sad: who lost her wonderful mother

[donna]

dear sad,

i'm sorry i haven't introduced myself before tonight. my mother
passed in 1994; my dad had died many years earlier.

one of the things they never tell us is that when our last surviving
parent dies, we feel like orphans. i was 45 years old at the time but
i felt so all alone. i had always known that she was 'there' for me
even though we lived over 1,000 miles apart. we talked and laughed on
the phone every day and i still find myself wondering: 'what would mom
think about that?'

you have people who care and i am one of them.

best to you,

donna

[Sad]

Thank you Donna (((hugs)))

I'm always wishing I could call my Mom to ask her opinions about
things. I really respected her views so I always wanted to know what
she thought about everything.

I really miss her so much.

[Daniel]

It's going on ten years since I lost my mother and I still have "Oh, I should
call Mom" moments. Just to share news, compare shopping notes, etc. One of the
big ones is when my children do something funny/awesome/new. I find myself
forming what I'm going to say to her, and then I remember.

Me too: I really miss her so much.
--
Daniel ( deltae...@usa.net )

[donna]

dear sad and daniel,

i'm sure that neither of you will be surprised to know that after 15
years i still remember mom's phone number. at least two times i have
found myself automatically dialing to chat with her. then i realized
she isn't there anymore.

the bonds of love go so much deeper than emotion. it is my belief
that we are connected at a cellular level ... what you once said
daniel: memories are burned into our hard drive. love is primordial,
part of what we are and goes back as far as humankind. memory honors
the dead and, i hope, make us better people.

i have to leave for work for 5 days but will talk to both of you again
on monday.

stay safe and take care,

best,

donna