New to this group
Cherie
just recently lost both parents and wanted to know if this is the
right type of group for that support.
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> Hi. My name is Cherie. I have never gone on any of these sites but
> just recently lost both parents and wanted to know if this is the
> right type of group for that support.
Hi Cherie,
Yes, you've come to the right place. You will find a group of folks here
who are sincere, and who still carry a very heavy heart for the one's that
they've lost. Unfortunately, there are people (called trolls) who are also
in here. They come in all different shapes and sizes, but they're after one
thing. And that thing is to hurt you while you're already hurting. If you
ignore them, then you'll get used to them and their sad little lives.
I am so very sorry you lost both parents. Please share as much as you want.
I wish you well.
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donna
dear cherie,
i am so very sorry to hear you lost both parents. what a sad, massive
load you carry ... to have both mother and father die.
this is the place.
i've been coming here for almost four years now; on january 19, 2006,
my 22 year-old daughter, savannah, fell over dead on my kitchen floor
from a sudden cardiac arrest. she'd had an undiagnosed congenital
heart defect and it killed her.
i wasn't functional, at all, for a long time. but, i did manage to
read and write on this group. there are people here going through
every stage of grieving and the only help i found was the knowledge
that i was not alone with the incredible pain.
sadly, sometimes there are many more people posting here. don't you
wish there wasn't a need for a group like this? we have also had many
cross-postings lately but most of us manage to ignore those evil
little trolls and keep in mind the needs of the grieving.
so please continue to write to us, cherie. we understand the pain,
the emptiness and the utterly alone feeling. we are here and we care.
with deepest sympathy,
donna
Jo in Ok
((((hugs))))) am so sorry for your parent's deaths! how awful!
I have posted here since the 90s due to a son dying...if you can
ignor(get past)
all the dum/ugly /idiotic spammers, this is a good place to share what
you are feeling...
Daniel
Hi Cherie. I am so sorry about your loss of your parents. Welcome to the group
that nobody wants to join. I found my way to alt.support.grief after the sudden
death of my mother in June of 2000. I remember that after the shock and
numbness started to wear off, I was hurting *more* not less with each passing
day as my awareness was returning and the terrible every-day-ness started to hem
me in. At the same time friends thought I should be "over it" and withdrew just
when I needed their support. I thought I was going insane. I thought I was the
only one. Finding this group at least let me know that there were other people
out there who had gone through the same hell or worse.
My journey of healing started, and I learned things: We all grieve at our own
pace and in our own way. There is no timetable or road map. There may be
"steps" but there is no guarantee that you won't be visiting each one again many
times. Love endures.
I will be thinking about you. I would love to hear more about your parents when
you feel able.
I will post the Frequently Asked Questions for the group again soon. It's long
but there may be parts that help.
I check the group most days. I am also available by email -- it may take a
while for me to get back to you but I will. In case google groups mungs it up,
it's deltaechomike "at" usa "dot" net
Peace,
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Daniel ( deltae...@usa.net )
Sad
understand how you feel.
How are you doing today?
Cherie
Wow. I almost forgotr that I had joined this group. It is nice to have
people who understand how I feel. My Birthday was yesterday and that
was hard. I also got a flu for my bday which made it even harder as I
always want my mom when im sick. This is the first time I did not get
her sympathy while sick. I still cry every day. I still cant believe
they are both gone. I appreciate everyones postings. I will be
checking in every day as I really do need to try to get my feelings
out. Thank you so much
Daniel
All the "special days" are hard, aren't they? My birthday, Mom's birthday,
parents' Anniversary, etc. <sigh> .
Yes, and every time I'm home with an illness I really really want to call Mom --
this after nine plus years.
After my mother's death I got so used to the tears and the feeling-crappy that
the first day I *didn't* cry (that took a long time!) I felt upset/guilty.
Take as much time as you need. You didn't ask for this.
And get well soon!