loss of my husband
raindrop
weeks before he passed away. He was 55 years old. I am so lost without
him. My life is so empty without him. I feel very lost and alone it
scares me. I don't want to go on without him. I keep asking god why ,
why did he have to take him away from me. He was my friend my
everything. We did everything together. We were together 24/7. I can't
stop crying people around me don't seem to understand. I need advice
and support from others who know what i am going through. Please help
raindrop
Jo again
that is what I deal with....
Broken hearted Missing Him
"raindrop" <raindr...@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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I also (new to grp) just lost my husband on 7/27.
We were married 27 years and 27 days and he was the same age as your
husband.
Same as you, soul partners to the end together all the time except for when
he was at work.
I miss my life, I have many good friends and most try to understand but it's
not really that easy for them to truley understand.
I wake up most every morning and reach over for him.
It's one of the hardest things I have ever dealt with and in the past 4
years I have lost my Mother, little brother(35) and my Father this past
Thanksgiving, and now my Husband.
I try hard to deal with this but have days I weep all day.
I really understand your grief, I know one thing. My Husband would not want
me to be so very sad, I have a peom I will post for you later...sorta says
it all.tho it still does not bring him back.
I also miss my life and I am scared like you
He was a fairly heathy man and went to work everyday, for some reason he had
that day off thank God or whoever is in charge of all of that but we had
that day all together and it was a beautifull day.
We had dinner and he said his chest hurt and within seconds to miniutes he
was gone, nothing I could have done would have saved him at that point, I
did not know till later but the ambulance or whoever came knew he was gone
but did not tell me till I got to the hospital, I tried to revive him :(
Please take care of yourself, drink alot of water, make sure you eat heathy
and try to take a walk everyday if you can.
I have a tee shirt I hold every night with his smell goods on it.
I am so sorry for you as I totally know.
Laura~
{{huggs to you}}
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Belinda
year's. I ask God the same question's all the time. Why? I guess the
answer is because He can, and does. Jeff drowned, doing what he loved
the best... fishing. No dreadful disease, like your husband, just a
healthy fun loving person. gone from My/ our life. I try not to question
God's reason's for taking a loved one, but question why I must feel so
terrible about it? I lost my dog not long after Jeff. I had to make the
painful decision to put him down, then my cat not long after (Thor) due
to a sickness. I feel So Alone now.
The Big kicker is, my Mom was also taken from me/us on 7/29.. All gone
with in 2 1/2 years for me. Wow. It's hard to ask God to help me get
over this, when He's taken all those I Dearly
love away from me. It hurts so much to greive, I miss my Mom, (Thor &
Kitty) so much more every day she is Not here. I miss them all that it
hurts to be alive myself.I will try not to
question, because I believe in God. His reason's, are His own.
I only pray he listen's to you and me, asking to understand the why's
and somehow for Us to feel Whole again.
Your God, My God,Our God, One God, No God just different Earthly
belief's.
B
lett
I lost my husband on 11/4/05, six weeks after her was diagnosed with
cancer. He was 53 years old. I can't tell you that it will get better
because it does not.We were married for almost 31 years. Cry all you
want. People try to understand, however as you are finding out they
don't. Life as we know it is over and we have to work at creating a new
life. I have not been that successful at it. I find comfort when I do
things that are unfamiliar to me. It is hard to do the things that we
enjoyed as a couple. I do not want to depress you. I just want you to
know that what you are feeling is normal. You have suffered a great
loss. I did not want to go on with out my husband, however, we are
really left with no choice. I think you are a survivor, because if you
were not you would not be reaching out. I heard about this site while
watching Mrs. Edwards on T.V. she lost her son and found comfort on
this site. Please do not give up. What has happened to us is not what
we had planned. We are strong and must find a way to live again. Try
new things, stay connected to the people you love. Stay away from the
people that cause you stress. Don't expect all people to understand
what you are going through. Create a new life one little step at a
time. Tell be about your husband. I find that when I talk about my
husband that I feel better. Make sure that you take care of your health
and fitness. I am very sorry for your loss and I hope that you will
continue to look for support.
raindrop
Thank you for your letter. I seem to being going backwards
instead of forward. I am having a hard time accepting that he is
gone.Everything reminds me of him.He was a caring ,loving man.His death
was a shock. I had no idea he would pass away so soon
lett wrote: We only had 3 weeks then he was gone. I am very sorry for
your loss.
You are right about people not understanding. Even my family doesn't
understand.
It's like everything is alright now. But it isn't. The grief and the
pain are getting worse.
I know that i have to go on ,but how do you begin.I'm not having very
much success.
The tears keep flowing.I still see his face. I was by his side when he
died. I still see that as if it were yesterday. He was heavily
medicated so we couldn't talk. There was so much I wanted to say. I
couldn't even say goodby.I am not eating or drinking very much since
his death. Everyone tells me I have to ,but I just can't.They say it
will get better but I don't see anytime soon
lett
lett
It sounds like our husbands left this world in similar fashion. I was
also by his bedside, along with our daughters and our son in laws. Ed
was inhospice for the last 10 days of his life. The cancer paralyzed
him, he could not move but he could feel pain. It was terrible. He
spent the whole time trying to make us feel better. The whole time we
were in denial, hoping he could come home to die. I never said the
things I wanted to say because to say them would mean that I would have
to accept that he was gone. When I finally had the strength to say
goodbye he could not hear me. I play those ten days over and over in my
mind. I could not make him better and I could not ease his pain. I was
helpless. I am so grateful that I had my children and their spouses
with me. My family was so supportive. And still I grieve. What I will
tell you, it does not get better, but it gets different. A new life
starts to emerge, it's not the life you want and at times you will
fight it. It is still very fresh for you. don't be so hard on yourself.
I found myself getting mad at the very people that loved and supported
me the most. This only caused me more pain. Hang on to your beautiful
memories. The people that tell you to eat, care for you. Take care of
yourself. Don't expect anyone to understand your loss, because they
can't. I can relate to your pain but even I can't undrstand your loss.
It is a personal private place in your mind and heart. Keep reaching
out. Keep getting up. Keep your memories fresh. Rejoice in the love you
had. Make sure you take good care of yourself even though you don't
want to. I learned the hard way. good bye for now.
lett
Pancanwife
write. I wish I could give advice. But I have none to give. I guess
All I can say is that I to feel your pain. My husband died of
Panceratic cancer. He was so very young 34. I to cry mostly at night.
No one I know understands. My children are so deeply sad. Trying to
care for their feelings, and my own sometimes is so much. I hope you
know that he is with you everyday. I'm sure you feel this, but I know
it doesn't help. Pancanwife
raindrop
Thank you for your letter. I am sorry to hear about the loses
you have had to face.
It has been 8 weeks since my husbands death. It is still so very hard.
I think of him always. Everything reminds me of him.Sometimes I fell
like I am going backwards instead of forwards. I go to a grief
counseling class and they tell me that this is normal. I don't feel
normal.I feel anything but that. My life is gone as I knew it.The man I
thought I would spend the rest of my life with is gone. I am still very
scared and lonely.I miss him so very much.
He was my world.I still don't have much of an appitite and am not
drinking much. I do try but can't seem to get very much down. In your
letter you mentioned a poem, I would love to read it. Maybe you could
send it to me. my e-mail address is raindr...@yahoo.com.
Looking forward to hearing from you again.
Janet