Mr. Bailey, RIP 11/2/2009
Wayne Boatwright
We lost Mr. Bailey this morning. Late last night he had an episode, either
a stroke or heart attack. When we took him to our vet at 7:00 a.m., she
couldn't even detect a heartbeat and his breathing was very labored. She
told us that we could have him transferred to another facility with a
critical care unit, but that it was unlikely he would survive.
Two things bothered me the most; that there was really nothing we could do
for him, and that he was only ~ten years old. I've never lost a cat
younger than seventeen years old.
They were very nice at the vet's office. Everyone was compassionate. They
gave us each a "cat angel" pin, a framed copy of "The Rainbow Bridge", and
his paw prints on a heart shaped piece of clay.
Though we still have four cats, Mr. Bailey was my constant little stoic but
very loving companion, and truth be told, my very favorite. From the very
first night he lived with us, he slept with me with his head in the cup of
my hand and a paw on my wrist.
As an aside, when we adopted the brothers Peanut and PeeWee, Mr. Bailey
took on the responsibility of "raising" them. He guided them, taught them,
groomed them, and gently played with them. I know they will miss him.
He is in a better place...
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~~ A mind is a terrible thing to lose. ~~
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Wayne Boatwright
Noon Cat Nick
humans and other pets. All I can do is empathize with your loss, and
recommend you spend much quality time with your other cats, who are
bound to miss him as well.
May his memory be eternal.
Cheri
I feel your pain.
Cheri
"Wayne Boatwright" <waynebo...@arizona.usa.com> wrote in message
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Lucky
> I'm very sorry for your loss, it's just so hard to lose a loved animal, and
> I feel your pain.
>
> Cheri
>
>
> - Show quoted text -
I had to put my cat to sleep on 10/24. He was almost 14, and they
said he had fluid in his stomach and a tumor. I am so sad as he too
would sleep by my head and he loved to put his paw on my face and
lips. He as my little buddy and I felt a special connection to him
from the very beginning. I am sad today since someone at work told me
about her cat who had a thyroid tumor and she had it removed and also
gave it radiation. She said it cost her a lot of money, but he was
doing fine. I didn't tell her about my cat, but I started feeling
extremely depressed that I did not do enough to save Wolfie. I knew a
year ago he had a problem but they said he didn't test positive for
cancer and they put him on a low fat diet and his swollen stomach went
down so I thought he was fine. About a month before he died, he
started hiding a lot and throwing up. I just thought he had an upset
stomach... and I didn't want to take him to the vet because the
previous year when I took him to the vet they said if he had cancer I
should let him go, since it would cost $2,200 for surgery, plus $500 a
day for hospital and chemo wld be expensive. Today, I wish I had the
foresight and paid for the surgery. He would probably be alive
today. I feel so terrible and I miss him so much. Has anyone had
experience with this? I feel sick.
Wayne Boatwright
Thank you, Cheri. I appreciate your thoughts.
On Tue 10 Nov 2009 04:16:35p, Cheri told us...
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Robert A. Fink, M. D.
<psmi...@sbcglobal.net> wrote:
>Today, I wish I had the
>foresight and paid for the surgery. He would probably be alive
>today. I feel so terrible and I miss him so much. Has anyone had
>experience with this? I feel sick.
Please odn't beat yourself up over this. A thyroid cancer is very
different than a stomach cancer. Thyroid cancers, even in humans, are
very often curable with surgery and chemotherapy (usually radioactive
iodine); but stomach cancers are only rarely successfully treated,
even with radical surgery and radiation.
You probably saved your kitty a lot of pain and discomfort.
Best,
Bob
Robert A. Fink, M. D.
Neurological Surgery
2500 Milvia Street Suite 222
Berkeley, CA 94704-2636 USA
510-849-2555
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Cheri
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I had to put my cat to sleep on 10/24. He was almost 14, and they
said he had fluid in his stomach and a tumor. I am so sad as he too
would sleep by my head and he loved to put his paw on my face and
lips. He as my little buddy and I felt a special connection to him
from the very beginning. I am sad today since someone at work told me
about her cat who had a thyroid tumor and she had it removed and also
gave it radiation. She said it cost her a lot of money, but he was
doing fine. I didn't tell her about my cat, but I started feeling
extremely depressed that I did not do enough to save Wolfie. I knew a
year ago he had a problem but they said he didn't test positive for
cancer and they put him on a low fat diet and his swollen stomach went
down so I thought he was fine. About a month before he died, he
started hiding a lot and throwing up. I just thought he had an upset
stomach... and I didn't want to take him to the vet because the
previous year when I took him to the vet they said if he had cancer I
should let him go, since it would cost $2,200 for surgery, plus $500 a
day for hospital and chemo wld be expensive. Today, I wish I had the
foresight and paid for the surgery. He would probably be alive
today. I feel so terrible and I miss him so much. Has anyone had
experience with this? I feel sick.
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Our dog Sophie also had cancer, and a terrible time breathing. She was
almost 12, she did have surgery, but continued to get worse. Our vet said
that it was time to let her go. It was very hard to do, and then we were
second guessing ourselves wondering if we could have done more, etc., but in
the end if you can remember the love and care that you gave your dear cat,
and the joy he gave you, it helps. I'm very sorry for your loss, it's very
painful no matter when it comes.
Cheri
Lucky
> "Lucky" <psmit...@sbcglobal.net> wrote in message
Thank you all. Bob that was very reassuring and I thank you for
letting me know that there is a big difference. I was so worried, and
wished I had given him more treatment last year, but they didn't tell
me he cancer. Maybe even if I had given himsurgery and treatment last
year, he might have only lived another year, in which case he might
have died at the same time he did now.. Cheri, I really appreciate
your sharing. It helps me realize that my feelings of guilt and not
doing enough are all normal feelings that maybe everyone second
guesses. I still do, but posting and reading the feed back is helping
A LOT. I miss him so much, and mostly I miss waking up to him
streatched out next to me. He was so special... Thanks everyone.
Cheri
Thank you all. Bob that was very reassuring and I thank you for
letting me know that there is a big difference. I was so worried, and
wished I had given him more treatment last year, but they didn't tell
me he cancer. Maybe even if I had given himsurgery and treatment last
year, he might have only lived another year, in which case he might
have died at the same time he did now.. Cheri, I really appreciate
your sharing. It helps me realize that my feelings of guilt and not
doing enough are all normal feelings that maybe everyone second
guesses. I still do, but posting and reading the feed back is helping
A LOT. I miss him so much, and mostly I miss waking up to him
streatched out next to me. He was so special... Thanks everyone.
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I hope it becomes a bit easier as time goes on. It's been a little over nine
weeks with Sophie, and it still hits me hard on some days, but I do find
that remembering the good times really does help. I also put her on the
Rainbow Bridge, and some days I just like to check in and share a thought or
two, some days not, it seems to help me. Best to you.
Cheri
Wayne Boatwright
It's funny how little odd things can make you feel better. About a week
ago while I was sleeping I knew I was dreaming, and I seemed to be having a
dream within a dream (this is not unusual for me). In the inner dream I
suddenly became aware of something brushing against my eyelids. I opened
my eyes to find Mr. Bailey gently licking my eyelids, then my cheek. Then
he sat back just looking at me the way he often did. It gave me a very
warm feeling, as though he was letting me know that everything was okay.
When I awoke completely, it stood out quite vividly, and I've felt better
about Mr. Bailey ever since.
I know this probably sounds weird, but it really did happen to me.
Robert A. Fink, M. D.
<waynebo...@arizona.usa.com> wrote:
>It gave me a very
>warm feeling, as though he was letting me know that everything was okay.
>When I awoke completely, it stood out quite vividly, and I've felt better
>about Mr. Bailey ever since.
>
>I know this probably sounds weird, but it really did happen to me.
I think that these sorts of things happen often. Such has happened to
me with my deceased kitties as well as loved people.
Wayne Boatwright
> On Sat, 28 Nov 2009 00:25:37 GMT, Wayne Boatwright
> <waynebo...@arizona.usa.com> wrote:
>
>>It gave me a very
>>warm feeling, as though he was letting me know that everything was okay.
>>When I awoke completely, it stood out quite vividly, and I've felt better
>>about Mr. Bailey ever since.
>>
>>I know this probably sounds weird, but it really did happen to me.
>
>
> I think that these sorts of things happen often. Such has happened to
> me with my deceased kitties as well as loved people.
>
> Best,
>
> Bob
Thanks, Bob...
Happy Thanksgiving!
Cheri
> It's funny how little odd things can make you feel better. About a week
> ago while I was sleeping I knew I was dreaming, and I seemed to be having
> a
> dream within a dream (this is not unusual for me). In the inner dream I
> suddenly became aware of something brushing against my eyelids. I opened
> my eyes to find Mr. Bailey gently licking my eyelids, then my cheek. Then
> he sat back just looking at me the way he often did. It gave me a very
> warm feeling, as though he was letting me know that everything was okay.
> When I awoke completely, it stood out quite vividly, and I've felt better
> about Mr. Bailey ever since.
>
> I know this probably sounds weird, but it really did happen to me.
You know, it doesn't sound wierd at all to me. I dreamed Sophie was standing
next to me asking to be let out, so I got up and let her out just like I
normally would in the dream. When I woke up the next day I considered it a
"gift" from her. It was very comforting. I'm glad your dream of Mr. Bailey
was comforting for you, and whatever little things like that that get us
through these huge losses are good things I think. Take care Wayne.
Cheir
Wayne Boatwright
Thank you, Cheri. I'm glad you've seen Sophie in your dreams, too. It
really is a comfort.
Wayne Boatwright
> "Lucky" <psmi...@sbcglobal.net> wrote in message
It's funny how little odd things can make you feel better. About a week
ago while I was sleeping I knew I was dreaming, and I seemed to be having a
dream within a dream (this is not unusual for me). In the inner dream I
suddenly became aware of something brushing against my eyelids. I opened
my eyes to find Mr. Bailey gently licking my eyelids, then my cheek. Then
he sat back just looking at me the way he often did. It gave me a very
warm feeling, as though he was letting me know that everything was okay.
When I awoke completely, it stood out quite vividly, and I've felt better
about Mr. Bailey ever since.
I know this probably sounds weird, but it really did happen to me.
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