Sudden death of cat

[alyssama...@gmail.com]

Last night at around 10:30 my baby (cat) Mimi passed away with no sign of sickness. She was only 5 years old. The vet said it could have been a seizure. She was my first pet and my everything. Need serious consoling and advice on how to get through this.

[Kellie Patzer]

On Tuesday, December 1, 2015 at 6:24:54 AM UTC-8, alyssama...@gmail.com wrote:
> Last night at around 10:30 my baby (cat) Mimi passed away with no sign of sickness. She was only 5 years old. The vet said it could have been a seizure. She was my first pet and my everything. Need serious consoling and advice on how to get through this.

i understand. like most on this list, been there.

my advise is absolute and total self care. i'm not joking. at an all new level.

learn about "the self" through all this. meaning if you can find the "space," get curious about how humans/how life grieves the perception of "loss." it's not an isolated experience. it's an inseparable part of life.

i immediately go to such sites like: http://www.helpguide.org/articles/grief-loss/coping-with-pet-loss.htm and read, even re-read. it helps me to know what i'm experiencing is experienced by others. that helps give me a foot up on the whole experience.

i try to catch myself "constricting" which inevitably causes the pain and remind myself to stay open or open back up. that means EXHALE.

breathe work! breathe work is my first/most powerful tool when my inner canvas is too much. whether you are IOS or android, there are free breathe work apps that help guide you and send you reminders.

here's where you do a serious push into either something totally new -- new hobby, new type of night out, new healthy cycle, new kind of class, new kind of meetup groups...

in the face of the void, build new, healthy, exciting hobbies, practices, relations/connections, spiritual group/solo practices, donate time at a non-profit animal agency...

also i find grieving pet owners are either one of the two sides of coin: A: either they just cannot have another pet for a long, long time or B: they find quickly that they can open their heart and help another MUCH deserving and needy animal and a new space begins. in my experience, this has never taken away from my lost beloved. it actually seems to enhance everything. the heart loves fully infinitely. it's only our smaller, constricted selves that write other rules.

bottom line -- LOVE thyself and be oh so gentle.

but make no mistake, that heart of yours is all powerful. ;)

stay open, even while delicate and LOVE FULL THROTTLE.