I hate my psych!!
kitten
AAHH!!!! BETH!!!!!!!!!!
LEAVE THE SLIMEY BASTARD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
he obviously has NO **FU**ING** idea how to be sensitive to someone
who has an ED- !!!!!!!!!! christ, it got me worked up just reading
about him. jesus. telling someone with a hx of anorexia that she needs
to lose weight.
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do you have any other options?? PLEASE try to find someone else, you
don't need that scumbag!!!!!
*ahem*
(safe) hugs,
kitten
On Mon, 16 Dec 1996 18:25:50 +0000 (GMT), Beth
<be...@mcfamily.demon.co.uk> wrote:
>
>Hi there.
>
>Just gonna apologise for my bad language - I'm in a pretty bad mood
>to say the least.
>
>I saw my psych again - wanker!! He started by asking me if I had a
>boyfriend - I said "no" and he replied "Why not?" I told him that at
>this moment in time, I'm quite happy to be good friends with all the
>guys I know. He raises an eyebrow. Are you in a sexual relationship?
>Excuse me!! None of your damn business mate!! This is my second appt,
>I hardly know the guy........and he wants me to tell him about my sex
>life.
>
>Then again, this is the guy who asked me if I did drugs. When I said
>"no", he said "Not even one teeny weeny ecstasy tablet?" Give me
>strength. He wanted to weigh me again - I told him firmly "no" and he
>kept on at me. Good thing I can stick to my guns over that!! He also
>told me that I need to lose weight - I'm about 120 lb at 5' 2" - not
>exactly obese but with a history of anorexia, I wouldn't have thought
>it was the best thing to say.
>
>Then, yes there is more, he patronized me about my knees - "do you
>actually know what chondromalacia is?" No duh brain - I've only had
>it 7 years! To top it all of, he really got up my nose by calling me
>"Madame" like I was some stroppy kid.
>
>I hate this guy!! He told me I wasn't ready to be sectioned *yet* -
>oh nice one. Well let me tell you, there is no way that he will get
>me in there as an in-patient. Imagine seeing him day after day! Yuck!!
>
>Sorry guys had to moan.
>
>Beth
>
>--
>"The sky isn't always blue,
> the sun doesn't always shine.
> It's alright to fall apart.....sometimes."
>
> (Robert Miles)
>
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listen to people, see how they stick
themselves into the world, hand them
along a ways on their dark journey
and be handed along, and for good and
selfish reasons."
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kar...@default.ibm.net
Beth.. get rid of this guy! Get someone who really cares. Get someone you are
compatible with. For me, that could take a few sessions with a lot of people! He
sounds horrible. Keep searching, if you can.
Beth <be...@mcfamily.demon.co.uk> writes:
- - K - -
bernstein
I am studying for my Master of Social Work degree, and according to
everything I've learned, this therapist is no good!
A therapist is supposed to create an environment of warmth and trust, not
shoot you down and make you feel bad about yourself!
Please see another therapist before this one totally messes you up.
Remember: the therapist is your employee. You are the one that hires
him/her, and you have the power to fire him/her, too!
If you want to see a clinical social worker, look for someone with CCSW
or ACSW or LISW after the name.
Azure
You must decide for yourself.
But I woudl get away from that slimey guy! He sounds SCARY!
The first guy I went to about anorexia weighed me obsessively. He asked me
if I had a boyfriend. I said no. He asked me if I ever had a boyfriend. I
said yes. He asked what heppened. I said nothing. He said, well, woudln't
you like to have a boyfriend? And I said I really wasn't interested in
that right now. And he said, you know, if you lose much more weight guys
won't be attracted to you. I stared at him. He added, "don't you want to
be attractive to men?" I said I don't know.
He put me on Prozac and told me it causes loss of appetite so I had to
make sure I ate. (!!!!!) I never saw the shrink. This guy was a
psychologist. He stood me in front of huge mirrors and asked me tro point
out what parts of me were fat. He lifted my arm and said, how about your
arm -- don't you think your arm is too thin? And I said no. And we went
through my whole body.
I quite after the boyfriend exchange. I realized I DIDN'T want to be
attractive to men, but I quit because he was a slimeball and inept and he
scared me with his strange manners and sexuality comments.
Anyway, I am a lesbian, but I didn't "know" it then. I felt redressed for
not caring to have a boyfriend. Why should all women be considered
abnormal if we don't have boyfriends? Or girlfriends? For men or women?
I mean... I thought his comments were really unappropriate. I was reminded
of them, reading this thread.
Get out. THere are therapists, shrinks even, who are very gifted and
caring and well-trained and even specialized in eating disorders (which
that psych(o) named as his specialty...) Go with your instincts. I have a
wonderful therapist now. She never goads me like that. She listens and
responds. Today she asked me if my issues with food, recently escalated,
had to do with her gaining weight. I was shocked. I hadn't noticed. And I
told her. And I assured her that I thought she was very healthy-looking
and had a very nice body and that she coudl gain weight if she wanted to.
I didn't know what to say. I asked if she had wanted me to notice and she
laughed and said, no, I was just wondering if that was a factor.
What an interesting question, tho.
Azure
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In article <ant16185...@mcfamily.demon.co.uk>, Beth
<be...@mcfamily.demon.co.uk> writes:
>Then again, this is the guy who asked me if I did drugs. When I said
>"no", he said "Not even one teeny weeny ecstasy tablet?" Give me
>strength. He wanted to weigh me again - I told him firmly "no" and he
>kept on at me. Good thing I can stick to my guns over that!! He also
>told me that I need to lose weight - I'm about 120 lb at 5' 2" - not
>exactly obese but with a history of anorexia, I wouldn't have thought
>it was the best thing to say.
WHOA!! If I wanted to I don't think I could read beyond this
paragraph. You have a history of anorexia and he said lose weight. I'm
repeating this because it sounds vaguely significant. Beth, Run, don't
not walk away from this therapist. I can say with no reservation that you
are better off on your own than seeing him again. Not that you shouldn't
try to find someone else. But this WILL do you more harm than good. Good
Luck with it all.
Hazel
"A greater knowledge the mind will seek,
unaware, the goal, the heart does keep.
-Me
hazel...@aol.com
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kar...@default.ibm.net
anon-...@anon.twwells.com (Azure) writes:
>The first guy I went to about anorexia weighed me obsessively. He asked me
>if I had a boyfriend. I said no. He asked me if I ever had a boyfriend. I
>said yes. He asked what heppened. I said nothing. He said, well, woudln't
>you like to have a boyfriend? And I said I really wasn't interested in
>that right now. And he said, you know, if you lose much more weight guys
>won't be attracted to you. I stared at him. He added, "don't you want to
>be attractive to men?" I said I don't know.
SNIP
>Anyway, I am a lesbian, but I didn't "know" it then. I felt redressed for
That is great! The story is sick, that someone who is supposed to be respected. I was
sickened by this story, but then the other line above made me laugh!
LOL! Great!
Bryan Gusdal
> I saw my psych again - wanker!! He started by asking me if I had a
> boyfriend - I said "no" and he replied "Why not?" I told him that at
> this moment in time, I'm quite happy to be good friends with all the
> guys I know. He raises an eyebrow. Are you in a sexual relationship?
> Excuse me!! None of your damn business mate!! This is my second appt,
> I hardly know the guy........and he wants me to tell him about my sex
> life.
>
> Then again, this is the guy who asked me if I did drugs. When I said
> "no", he said "Not even one teeny weeny ecstasy tablet?" Give me
> strength. He wanted to weigh me again - I told him firmly "no" and he
> kept on at me. Good thing I can stick to my guns over that!! He also
> told me that I need to lose weight - I'm about 120 lb at 5' 2" - not
> exactly obese but with a history of anorexia, I wouldn't have thought
> it was the best thing to say.
Hi Beth,
He may not be such a bad sort, just lacking in experience. I don't
get frustrated with my own clients because I figure everyone is just doing
the best they can at any given point in time. Maybe he is too. Of course
I could be wrong, maybe he's just a jerk.
Give him a bit more of a try before dumping him though. If he
doesn't work out, it's not your fault, it's just that he wasn't the right
one for you. Finding a good therapist is sort of like finding a good
husband or wife. The search is worth the find. The single best predictor
of success in therapy is the relationship between therapist and client. A
good relationship will usually result in a good outcome (assuming they
know what to do - good intentions are not enough). Stick to your guns, no
therapist is always right (well, except me :-) ), there should be a reason
to weigh yourself, not just because he wants to!
BTW, there is nothing wrong with your weight, I have no idea why he
would say such a thing. Definitely OTL on that one! You are perfect the
way you are Beth.
Stick to it !
Bryan.
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No one can make a redwood tree out of a magnolia. The best we can do is eliminate the aphids in the magnolia. We don't have to change, we just have to do the best we can at being ourselves. No one should expect more than that of others, or of themselves.
pj9...@aol.com
Hi Beth,
I've read a lot of the posts about the therapist and his comments. How
are you handling things now? Have you been able to find a more sensitive,
caring therapist yet?
Hope you have a good Christmas,
Pj