Have wife and mistress, but still bored
Bob Evans
woman. In addition I have a mistress who pleases me in every way. But
I am still bored and need more variety in my life. I am thinking about
divorcing my wife to live a single life again, but am concerned about
losing my assets in divorce and violating my wedding wows. I was raised
to hold them sacred. What to do?
OnMyWay
find out why you are bored before you do anything. answer this
question and you will probably know what to do about your marriage.
there might be something you would like to do but you are stuck in
some way. i'll bet it has nothing to do with your spouse, only YOU.
plb
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ETA
Bob Evans <bear...@erols.com> wrote in message 9245421...@erols.com...
Rich Zado
Bob Evans wrote:
[snip...]
TROLL TROLL TROLL......Geesh, they aren't even that imaginative these
days...
Joel Tepp
>I am very frustrated with my life. I am married to a wonderful
>woman. In addition I have a mistress who pleases me in every way. But
>I am still bored and need more variety in my life. I am thinking about
>divorcing my wife to live a single life again, but am concerned about
losing my assets in divorce and violating my wedding wows. I was raised
>to hold them sacred. What to do?
Use drugs that impair short term memory
Find a woman with Multiple Personality Disorder
Meanwhile, perhaps your wife and mistress would enjoy reading
"Women: Escape the Slavery of Heterosexual Marriage". Together.
J
Oh and one more thing, Use drugs that impair short term memory.
Sourdough
a goat. There's one in Billy Goats Gruff, I think.
Trent wrote in message <371b6a97...@nntp.ix.netcom.com>...
>Buy a sheep.
Victoria Lee
wrote:
>I am very frustrated with my life. I am married to a wonderful
>woman. In addition I have a mistress who pleases me in every way. But
>I am still bored and need more variety in my life. I am thinking about
>divorcing my wife to live a single life again, but am concerned about
>losing my assets in divorce and violating my wedding wows. I was raised
>to hold them sacred. What to do?
Come up with a better story than that if you're going to troll.
Victoria Lee
Daisy
doesn't satisfy you either....gee, how about a blow up doll? They can't
feel emotions so you can just deflate her and inflate her when the urge
hits?
Daisy
Visit the ASD "Who's Who" Web page at:
http://www.geocities.com/SouthBeach/Cape/6475/
To include yourself send picture and brief biography to:
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Daisy
Daisy
Visit the ASD "Who's Who" Web page at:
http://www.geocities.com/SouthBeach/Cape/6475/
To include yourself send picture and brief biography to:
da...@terraworld.net
Trent wrote in message <371b6a97...@nntp.ix.netcom.com>...
>On Mon, 19 Apr 1999 12:15:20 -0500, bear...@erols.com (Bob Evans)
>wrote:
>
>>I am very frustrated with my life. I am married to a wonderful
>>woman. In addition I have a mistress who pleases me in every way. But
>>I am still bored and need more variety in my life. I am thinking about
>>divorcing my wife to live a single life again, but am concerned about
>>losing my assets in divorce and violating my wedding wows. I was raised
>>to hold them sacred. What to do?
>
>Buy a sheep.
>
>
>Trent
>
>-- The sad thing about bad sex is that we're able to know the
> difference.
>
>
>
Tazz
wrote:
>On Mon, 19 Apr 1999 12:15:20 -0500, bear...@erols.com (Bob Evans)
>wrote:
>
>>I am very frustrated with my life. I am married to a wonderful
>>woman. In addition I have a mistress who pleases me in every way. But
>>I am still bored and need more variety in my life. I am thinking about
>>divorcing my wife to live a single life again, but am concerned about
>>losing my assets in divorce and violating my wedding wows. I was raised
>>to hold them sacred. What to do?
>
>Buy a sheep.
>
>
>Trent
>
>-- The sad thing about bad sex is that we're able to know the
> difference.
>
>
>
Baaaaaaaaaaa stard,!!
That was funny.!
Tazz
reply to
Bry...@ix.netcom.com
Tazz
wrote:
>I am very frustrated with my life. I am married to a wonderful
>woman. In addition I have a mistress who pleases me in every way. But
>I am still bored and need more variety in my life. I am thinking about
>divorcing my wife to live a single life again, but am concerned about
>losing my assets in divorce and violating my wedding wows. I was raised
>to hold them sacred. What to do?
>
I think you have only one option.
Homosexuality.
Tazz
reply to
Bry...@ix.netcom.com
Althea
Althea
Bob Evans wrote in message <9245421...@erols.com>...
Burt
Bob Evans wrote in message <9245421...@erols.com>...
>I am very frustrated with my life. I am married to a wonderful
>woman. In addition I have a mistress who pleases me in every way. But
>I am still bored and need more variety in my life. I am thinking about
>divorcing my wife to live a single life again, but am concerned about
>losing my assets in divorce and violating my wedding wows. I was raised
>to hold them sacred. What to do?
Look up the word asshole in the dictionary.
Next to it you will find your name.
Belinda
excitement !!
geezzzz, give me a break !
Belinda
Bob Evans <bear...@erols.com> wrote in article
Donna Tschetter
One thing I might to your post would be perhaps that a heterosexual
marriage may the slavery that bores Bob so much.
Bob - there are lots of good men out there ya know!
D.
On 19 Apr 1999, Joel Tepp wrote:
> On Mon, 19 Apr 1999 12:15:20 -0500, be...@erols.com (Bob Evans) wrote:
>
> >I am very frustrated with my life. I am married to a wonderful
> >woman. In addition I have a mistress who pleases me in every way. But
> >I am still bored and need more variety in my life. I am thinking about
> >divorcing my wife to live a single life again, but am concerned about
> losing my assets in divorce and violating my wedding wows. I was raised
> >to hold them sacred. What to do?
>
>
Vicki
not coming from someone else, they are coming from inside of you...
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Kim Miller
pity you.
--
Kim Miller
Your Gateway To My World:
http://www.geocities.com/Athens/Agora/4459/index.html
dreams...@worldnet.att.net
eFax: (508) 256-6185
Donna Tschetter wrote in message ...
>Gret one Joel!
>
>One thing I might to your post would be perhaps that a heterosexual
>marriage may the slavery that bores Bob so much.
>
>Bob - there are lots of good men out there ya know!
>
>D.
>
>
>
>On 19 Apr 1999, Joel Tepp wrote:
>
>> On Mon, 19 Apr 1999 12:15:20 -0500, be...@erols.com (Bob Evans) wrote:
>>
>> >I am very frustrated with my life. I am married to a wonderful
>> >woman. In addition I have a mistress who pleases me in every way. But
>> >I am still bored and need more variety in my life. I am thinking about
>> >divorcing my wife to live a single life again, but am concerned about
>> losing my assets in divorce and violating my wedding wows. I was raised
>> >to hold them sacred. What to do?
>>
>>
Daisy
:)
Daisy
Songo Man wrote in message <19990419222456...@ng12.aol.com>...
>
>Not a sheep. I can't think of a sheep story with a troll in it. You need
>a goat. There's one in Billy Goats Gruff, I think.
>>>
>
>Whoa. A little competition for the postiion of ASD comedian?
>
>...this was pretty damn funny.
>
>songoman
>
>Beer nuts is the official disease of Milwaukee
>
>
powerpuff
PIG!
In article <9245421...@erols.com>,
bear...@erols.com (Bob Evans) wrote:
> I am very frustrated with my life. I am married to a wonderful
> woman. In addition I have a mistress who pleases me in every way. But
> I am still bored and need more variety in my life. I am thinking about
> divorcing my wife to live a single life again, but am concerned about
> losing my assets in divorce and violating my wedding wows. I was raised
> to hold them sacred. What to do?
>
>
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Not to sound rude or anything...but didn't you violate your wedding vows
when you took a mistress? Or did you have different vows than the usual?
Sapphire
bear...@erols.com (Bob Evans) wrote:
> I am very frustrated with my life. I am married to a wonderful
> woman. In addition I have a mistress who pleases me in every way. But
> I am still bored and need more variety in my life. I am thinking about
> divorcing my wife to live a single life again, but am concerned about
> losing my assets in divorce and violating my wedding wows. I was raised
> to hold them sacred. What to do?
>
>
--
Sapphire7
Serious error.
All shortcuts have disappeared.
Screen. Mind. Both are blank.
Michelle Magness
should be concerned now.
Bob Evans wrote in message <9245421...@erols.com>...
Songo Man
Songo Man
doesn't satisfy you either....gee, how about a blow up doll? They can't
feel emotions so you can just deflate her and inflate her when the urge
hits?
>>
you're suggesting he should marry my ex wife?
Simplicity
Bob Evans <bear...@erols.com> wrote in message
news:9245421...@erols.com...
666big...@my-dejanews.com
> woman. In addition I have a mistress who pleases me in every way. But
> I am still bored and need more variety in my life. I am thinking about
> divorcing my wife to live a single life again, but am concerned about
> losing my assets in divorce and violating my wedding wows. I was raised
> to hold them sacred. What to do?
I think the best advice I could give to you, even if you had children, is the
following:
1) Would you like your wife to do the same?
2) Ditto your mistress
Now irrespective of your answers, my advice to you is this......
Go fuck yourself, therein finding the only partner worthy of your attention.
Big Surf
trina
bear...@erols.com (Bob Evans) wrote:
> I am very frustrated with my life. I am married to a wonderful
> woman. In addition I have a mistress who pleases me in every way. But
> I am still bored and need more variety in my life. I am thinking about
> divorcing my wife to live a single life again, but am concerned about
> losing my assets in divorce and violating my wedding wows. I was raised
> to hold them sacred. What to do?
>
>
-- Leave your wife and your mistress and take up golf or something. That will
relieve your BOREDOM and relieve your wife and mistress of being involved
with a man who only loves himself. If you were raised to hold your wedding
vows sacred then why are you fooling around on your wife????
Joel Tepp
writes:
>In article <9245421...@erols.com>,
> bear...@erols.com (Bob Evans) wrote:
>> I am very frustrated with my life. I am married to a wonderful
>> woman. In addition I have a mistress who pleases me in every way.
>>But I am still bored and need more variety in my life. I am thinking
>>about divorcing my wife to live a single life again, but am concerned
>>about losing my assets in divorce and violating my wedding wows. I
>>was raised to hold them sacred. What to do?
>>
>>
>
>-- Leave your wife and your mistress and take up golf or something.
>That will relieve your BOREDOM and relieve your wife and mistress of
>being involved with a man who only loves himself. If you were raised
>to hold your wedding vows sacred then why are you fooling around on
>your wife????
For heaven's sake, keep this guy off the course. He's going to spend
half an hour on each hole trying to choose a club.
J
Dan Daugherty
a wife AND a mistress. Because when your wife thinks you are with
your mistress and your mistress thinks you are with your wife, you
have time to do a little engineering. <g>
-- Dan Daugherty
Andre Lieven
Songo Man (song...@aol.com) writes:
> You have a wife that doesn't satisfy you, you also have a mistress that
> doesn't satisfy you either....gee, how about a blow up doll? They can't
> feel emotions so you can just deflate her and inflate her when the urge
> hits?
>
> you're suggesting he should marry my ex wife?
Ooohh...nasty... and you were married to my ex wife, too ?
>
> songoman
Andre
--
" The noblest achievement of the imagination is to make time run some
other way, and terminate in beauty and forgivness "
David Gelernter, " 1939 "
Andre Lieven
Joel Tepp (joel...@ix.netcom.com) writes:
> In <7fhmrk$bcl$1...@nnrp1.dejanews.com> trina <tha...@my-dejanews.com>
> writes:
>>
>>In article <9245421...@erols.com>,
>>> I am very frustrated with my life. I am married to a wonderful
>>> woman. In addition I have a mistress who pleases me in every way.
>>>But I am still bored and need more variety in my life. I am thinking
>>>about divorcing my wife to live a single life again, but am concerned
>>>about losing my assets in divorce and violating my wedding wows. I
>>>was raised to hold them sacred. What to do?
>>
>>That will relieve your BOREDOM and relieve your wife and mistress of
>>being involved with a man who only loves himself. If you were raised
>>to hold your wedding vows sacred then why are you fooling around on
>>your wife????
>
> For heaven's sake, keep this guy off the course. He's going to spend
> half an hour on each hole trying to choose a club.
> J
....or, do something *very* rude with the holes....which will get everyone
else on the course, " teed " off....
Lori Redman
this list. I have chuckled (guffawed!) more at the ad libs and the one line
zingers than at the regular jokes. What a funny (and I mean haa haa...) group
we are!
Hi Andrei,
How was your latest trip? I'm doing ok.....I am not suffering from boredom
between banks, house appraisers art shows and commissions from art shows!
Lori Redman
Donna Tschetter
...to put a smile on my face....
:)
D.
On 20 Apr 1999, Bje1000 wrote:
>
> NEW BOOK: WHY WOMEN INITIATE 91% OF DIVORCE(win free copy)
>
> Who would have thought that a revolutionary discovery about sex and
> relationships was possible in 1999? But there is one. We were never told that
> women initiate divorce almost all of the time. Such knowledge changes
> everything. Relationships end specifically because women misunderstand the
> value and purpose of sex. Now you can understand the startling truth about the
Swfover21
post.....(only kidding of course)
Ashleigh
*"There is an island of opportunity in the midst of every difficulty"
*"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what
lies within us."
Andre Lieven
Lori Redman (lre...@mc2000.com) writes:
> Ok, I think we should all thank this troll for some very creative humour on
> this list. I have chuckled (guffawed!) more at the ad libs and the one line
> zingers than at the regular jokes. What a funny (and I mean haa haa...) group
> we are!
>
> Hi Andrei,
>
> How was your latest trip? I'm doing ok.....I am not suffering from boredom
> between banks, house appraisers art shows and commissions from art shows!
It was a lot of fun, seeing lots of friends from that area ( west NYS, and
the Toronto zone ). Eeriecon was a very different SF con fron I Con, which
was the weekend before, in Long Island. I Con was sized at about 2,500
folks attending. Eeriecon was more like 150. So, it was much more intimate,
with the guests being very accessable. Good times, good friends, good
conversations... while one can ask for more ( and, I'm working on it ),
this made for a great weekend. Next, is a long one come late May, out in
Michigan. That one, I've been going to, all the way back to the first one,
which was held in '81.
Boredom ? What's that ? With all the travel, catching on communications,
and books and tapes, whenever would I have the time to be bored ? The
question becomes, rather, more of one of what of my choices do I wish
to partake of, now ?
While I've got you on the line... any interest in getting together ?
Group wise, or what ? We can even talk about totally non divorce related
topics. And, call that a general call to the folks reading in the region...
The choices are almost infinite....
Andre Lieven
Donna Tschetter (Dts...@concentric.net) writes:
> Hey! I resent that, I know the *value and purpose of sex*!!!
>
>
> :)
And, it's best when there's another face involved, too.....
>
> D.
>
> On 20 Apr 1999, Bje1000 wrote:
>
>>
>> NEW BOOK: WHY WOMEN INITIATE 91% OF DIVORCE(win free copy)
>>
>> ...... Relationships end specifically because women misunderstand the
>> value and purpose of sex. Now you can understand the startling truth....
Raven
The moment you first THOUGHT about having a mistress. I think the current
situation is VERY unfair to your wife. If she is so wonderful, why
"reward" her with infidelity?
Rebecca
anon...@nowhere.com
there, you'll be fine.
Sif
++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
"If you can't be kind, at least have the decency
to be vague."
--Oscar Wilde
venus
>
>I am very frustrated with my life. I am married to a wonderful
>woman. In addition I have a mistress who pleases me in every way. But
>I am still bored and need more variety in my life. I am thinking about
>divorcing my wife to live a single life again, but am concerned about
>losing my assets in divorce and violating my wedding wows. I was raised
>to hold them sacred. What to do?
>
TROLL!!!!!
(or male nymphomaniac?)
affairso...@my-dejanews.com
This message is for you and everybody else in likewise situations. For
those thinking about having affairs, and for those involved in it
already.
I am not going to judge on you, your life is your business, not mine. I
could judge the things you are doing, but I'm not even going to do that
at this place.
What I will do, is invite you,and everybody else struggling with
extramarital affairs, or even only thinking about having them, to come
to a more supportive and safe place to talk about this.
"Affairs of Secrecy" is a site where people involved in extramarital
affairs talk to and support each other, without judging one another. It
is not a site to promote adultery, but a place to talk about all your
feelings involved. Several visitors have benefited from it, and have a
more clear view of what is missing in their lifes.
Come and visit: http://affairsofsecrecy.virtualave.net/
Love,
Leony
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Gentleman Jim
self-serving, self-centered spoiled brat emotionally. Then again, maybe you
need to explore why you constantly need externals to validate you. True
happiness comes from within. That's a joke about honoring your vows, right?
--
Gentleman Jim
A Country Boy and Refined Southern Gentleman
The song never ends with the singer, the truth outlives a lie, the dream
lives on when the dreamer is gone, and true true love never dies.
...Conway Twitty
Bob Evans wrote in message <9245421...@erols.com>...
World Sales
Stygia
"Gentleman Jim" <JimHa...@worldnet.att.net> wrote:
> You might try growing up! The first step would be to admit that you are a
> self-serving, self-centered spoiled brat emotionally. Then again, maybe you
> need to explore why you constantly need externals to validate you. True
> happiness comes from within. That's a joke about honoring your vows, right?
>
> --
> Gentleman Jim
> A Country Boy and Refined Southern Gentleman
>
> The song never ends with the singer, the truth outlives a lie, the dream
> lives on when the dreamer is gone, and true true love never dies.
>
> ...Conway Twitty
>
If at first you don't succeed, skydiving is not for you.
Wlodek Tych
man who had a wife and a mistress, was telling
his wife he was going to his mistress, and to the
mistress that he was staying with his wife, and
then he was going to the library ...
Sounds like a troll to me anyway.
W.
ISIS
and two other women to share you without an argument! Duh!
ISIS
Bob Evans <bear...@erols.com> wrote in message
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nob...@pcisys.net
In article <9245421...@erols.com>, Bob Evans <bear...@erols.com>
wrote:
Steve Garner
a divorce 8 months ago and still has done nothing about it. Recently he
started dating and sleeping with someone. He couldn't stand her 3 months
ago. He said she was emotionally needy and high maintenance. He flaunts
her in my face. He even brought her to my area of the island where he knew
that there was a good chance I would see them. I know he has a lot of
codependency issues, but he quit therapy at the point when he would have to
dredge up a lot of painful issues. I'm trying to let go but it's so hard.
I have finally started divorce proceeding. He is still dragging his feet at
this point. He owes me over $12,000 for work on the house which he agreed
to pay. He's blown about $30,000 since the end of December, but claims he
wants to lead the simple life. He and his girlfriend go to bars and get
totally fall down drunk, yet he says he is happy. We are going through a
period of not contacting each other so we can break our unhealthy emotional
ties, yet he calls at least once a week. I'm in therapy, reading many
self-help books and generally doing well, but I get in these moods where I
really miss him. We had stopped communicating effectively, but other than
that we are very compatible in every way. He just said he wanted a divorce
and didn't want to try to make it work, but he wants to work on being
friends. HELP!!!! I get so confused sometimes! I know that true happiness
and love come from inside, but he hasn't figured it out yet. I'm tired of
this emotional roller coaster! HELP!!!!
ROBOT
you have any of the above, TROLL.
ROBOT
Bob Evans wrote in message <9245421...@erols.com>...
Andre Lieven
compatible in every way ". Please, do read what you wrote... you two are *not*
" compatible ", at this time. He wants to be getting falling down drunk in
bars, with some cheap floozy ( what other kind of woman wants to get
falling down drunk with a married man, that she's not the wife of ? ).
Plus, emotionally, he's all over the map, on the matters pertaining to your
divorce.
You *can't* change him, at all. All you *can* do is to establish your
own values and limits. IF you don't want to talk to him when he calls,
then *don't*. There's no need to make something up, just say " I can't
talk now ", and hang up. He can't engage you in phone conversations if
you won't *let* him.
Looking at him objectively, based on what you wrote... he's a drunk,
who has no problem cheating on his wife, heck, he's *proud* of it,
he's blowing the money on.... (exactly), and so on. Look at that...
do you want to be with that ? Can you trust him, now ? Forget what he
was like, when you married him, he isn't that person, any more.
You didn't mention hids, so I'll presume that you two don't have any.
In which case, think of this... if he were somebody that you knew
socially, would you accept such a person into your circle of friends ?
Do you not have a standard for your friends, that both you and they have to
live up to, in order for there to be a friendship ? Speaking for myself,
I don't accaept just anyone's friendship. If one was doing all that your
s2bx was, I seriously doubt that I'd want to continue knowing them.
A preson doing what he's doing, would not be someone who can bring
anything positive into my life, but, very likely, some negatives.
So, once it's over, why would you want to know him ? What about him
boozing, and blowing it all on a floozy, while claiming to want to
live another way, do you find in any way attractive ?
Inform me. I really want to know.
Gentleman Jim
must feel.
gwe...@my-dejanews.com
wife that you are with your mistress, tell your mistress you are with your
wife, and then just slink away and get all your work done.
Boy, women are a big distraction.
(I am not saying I don't like being distracted.)
--
Walt
In article <9245421...@erols.com>,
bear...@erols.com (Bob Evans) wrote:
> I am very frustrated with my life. I am married to a wonderful
> woman. In addition I have a mistress who pleases me in every way. But
> I am still bored and need more variety in my life. I am thinking about
> divorcing my wife to live a single life again, but am concerned about
> losing my assets in divorce and violating my wedding wows. I was raised
> to hold them sacred. What to do?
>
>
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Raven
you write me again privately?
In article <01be8bfe$aebf9de0$3d52...@fnord.io.com>,
<anon...@nowhere.com> wrote:
> Classic narcissistic personality disorder. Don't do anything, just sit
> there, you'll be fine.
>
> Sif
>
> ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
> "If you can't be kind, at least have the decency
> to be vague."
> --Oscar Wilde
Raven
Rebecca
In article <371b6a97...@nntp.ix.netcom.com>, trent...@hotmail.com
(Trent) wrote:
> On Mon, 19 Apr 1999 12:15:20 -0500, bear...@erols.com (Bob Evans)
> wrote:
>
> >I am very frustrated with my life. I am married to a wonderful
> >woman. In addition I have a mistress who pleases me in every way. But
> >I am still bored and need more variety in my life. I am thinking about
> >divorcing my wife to live a single life again, but am concerned about
> >losing my assets in divorce and violating my wedding wows. I was raised
> >to hold them sacred. What to do?
>
> Buy a sheep.
>
>
> Trent
>
> -- The sad thing about bad sex is that we're able to know the
> difference.
>
obe...@atcon.com
>I am very frustrated with my life. I am married to a wonderful
>woman. In addition I have a mistress who pleases me in every way. But
>I am still bored and need more variety in my life. I am thinking about
>divorcing my wife to live a single life again, but am concerned about
>losing my assets in divorce and violating my wedding wows. I was raised
>to hold them sacred. What to do?
. . .Ya, right.
I'm actually the Pope; but, lately I've been shagging 15 year old
novice nuns in the back of my pope-mobile.
Please respond. . .does this make me a not-nice person?
Father Guido Sardu. . .oops, I mean, the Pope
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anon...@nowhere.com
However, please feel free to flame me as much as you wish in public.
Sif
++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
"If you can't be kind, at least have the decency
to be vague."
--Oscar Wilde
Raven <ther...@unforgettable.com> wrote in article
<theraven-240...@pnc-usr-ppp-8.fullnet.net>...
> Hey, Sif, I lost your last email in a crash and wanted to respond. Could
> you write me again privately?
>
> In article <01be8bfe$aebf9de0$3d52...@fnord.io.com>,
> <anon...@nowhere.com> wrote:
>
> > Classic narcissistic personality disorder. Don't do anything, just sit
> > there, you'll be fine.
> >
> > Sif
> >
> > ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
> > "If you can't be kind, at least have the decency
> > to be vague."
> > --Oscar Wilde
je...@pc2u.com
>> >losing my assets in divorce and violating my wedding wows. I was raised
>> >to hold them sacred. What to do?
If youre still getting plenty of WOWS with your wife why look
elsewhere ........ why worry asshole youre a loser already S : - (
>>
>> --
>>
Raven
privately so your address woulnd't show up on the newsgroup. I wanted to
respond to your last message (message accidentally posted to me...)
Rebecca
In article <01be8f4a$7ff88d60$6252...@fnord.io.com>,
<anon...@nowhere.com> wrote:
Robert
really think you need to drop the mistress, and seek some therapy.
This is not normal behavior you were not put on this earth to be entertained
you are only hurting yourself, your wife and your family.
PLEASE get some help there may be an underlining factor here that you are
not aware of it is possible your suffering from depression, other than that
I would generally say your being very selfish and cruel to those who love
you the most Get Some Help
Robert
666big...@my-dejanews.com <666big...@my-dejanews.com> wrote in
message <7fh1oj$pie$1...@nnrp1.dejanews.com>...
>In article <9245421...@erols.com>,
> bear...@erols.com (Bob Evans) wrote:
>> I am very frustrated with my life. I am married to a wonderful
>> woman. In addition I have a mistress who pleases me in every way. But
>> I am still bored and need more variety in my life. I am thinking about
>> divorcing my wife to live a single life again, but am concerned about
>> losing my assets in divorce and violating my wedding wows. I was raised
>> to hold them sacred. What to do?
>
>I think the best advice I could give to you, even if you had children, is
the
>following:
>
>1) Would you like your wife to do the same?
>
>2) Ditto your mistress
>
>Now irrespective of your answers, my advice to you is this......
>
>Go fuck yourself, therein finding the only partner worthy of your
attention.
>
>Big Surf
Kate Garner
we are alone together and talking, but we aren't compatible in any other
way. My life is taking a completely different path. I've started
watercolor painting, renewing my interest in classical music and getting
involved in many worthwhile projects that benefit the island.
My friends now are all wonderful, caring people who do more than hang out in
bars. In fact, I go to bars less now than I did while living with my
husband. I don't want to be part of the bar and gossip crowd. It's so
shallow. Most of the people you meet there would not fit into my current
circle of friends. Some of my former friends have stopped being my friends.
It hurt at first, especially when my best friend became my husband's good
friend. I realize now that those friends were never true friends. They are
all part of the bar crowd, emotionally needy and for the most part
financially irresponsible. NO--I don't want friends like that.
I started screening my calls a few weeks ago. Of course, his calls
increased. I wrote him a letter last week asking him not to call me. I
told him that this move was not out of anger, hurt or resentment (which it
isn't), but it is what I need to do so I can heal and move on with my life.
He would leave phone messages saying he had some issue to discuss. In my
letter, I asked him to discuss these issues via mail. I haven't received
any of those issues yet.
I have been supporting us for the last two years, but he feels he deserves
half of everything. Forget that!!! I have an excellent attorney and will
go to litigation if need be to get my fair share. He's made about 6% of the
income I have brought in.
I am regaining my self-esteem and independence. I know everything you say
is true, but it is taking a long time for me to internalize what I know in
my head. Reading messages like yours help me to get this knowledge inside.
I've been making excuses for his behavior because I know what many of his
internal issues are and the struggle he is going through. But the truth of
the matter is that I FIND HIS BEHAVIOR TOTALLY UNACCEPTABLE TO ME. He has
the right to be whatever he wants to be, but I don't have to be any part of
it. It appears he has no moral values whatsoever and no respect for others,
especially women. I will not go back to being the person I was 8 months
ago.
I am happier with myself than I have ever been in my life. My relationship
with my parents has improved so much. I'm back to be the kind, giving,
interesting person I used to be. Recently, a good friend of both my stbx
and mine came to visit me. She told me she's always liked me but she likes
the new me even better. I gave her the option of seeing my stbx, but she
declined. She realizes he has never truly been a friend to her.
Anyway---enough rambling. I hope you will continue to send me messages.
They really help me to see more clearly. Many thanks, Kate (I'm now
posting as Kate Garner instead of Steve Garner. Finally figured out how to
change the name!)
amaluck
and i'll just bet both your wife and Mistress are bored even more than
you are.
Bob Evans wrote:
>
> I am very frustrated with my life. I am married to a wonderful
> woman. In addition I have a mistress who pleases me in every way. But
> I am still bored and need more variety in my life. I am thinking about
> divorcing my wife to live a single life again, but am concerned about
> losing my assets in divorce and violating my wedding wows. I was raised
> to hold them sacred. What to do?
--
AMALUCK
ICQ #35013944
Ronni Worth
> > I am very frustrated with my life. I am married to a wonderful
> > woman. In addition I have a mistress who pleases me in every way.
Bob:
Which exactly wedding vows would those be, that you're concerned about
violating???
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