Re: nobody nobody nobody
E Rabbit
> >> scared. lonely. those are words.
>
> >those are powerful words. those are painful words. regrets
>
> Those are stuck words. Means you have to take a risk and try something
> outside of the same old same old to change them.
Oy. That's the rub, isn't it....
Thanks.
fuzzy
>>>>>
>>>> oooo, cool we want a stuffed dragon
>>> I have a spare one but I'm not sure it would mail well *grin* It
>>> is about the size of a 4 year old and is bright yellow and blue. I
>>> am trying to picture dragging it into the UPS office and asking them
>>> if they could box it up...
>>>
>> :)
>>
>> that's a big dragon
>
> Yep. Fritz went through a very intense period of NEEDING stuffed
> animals. He still needs them for the most part, but it is much more
> subtle. He found the stuffed dragon at a science fiction convention
> during that phase and then dragged it around with us for the rest of
> the weekend. Slept on it, sat on it, hugged it, wrestled with it.
>
> It was needed.
>
is ok to need things like that?
jill
Yes, fritz is an amazing fantastic wonderful kid and if he needs
a stuffed animal... then that is exactly what he needs and it is not
a problem. Especially cause he himself has wised up and knows that
dragging a 3 foot neon yellow/blue dragon around is a tad bit
inconvenient and he now settles on small stuff that can be stuffed
into a back pack :)
When we go on vacation he has three stuffed animals we lock in the
fire safe or take with us. They are _that_ important. This is also
very ok.
Rainbow Colors (Jill)
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wolfie of confuzzled
seems like maybe needing things is a problem
or being needy is a problem
is that different?
jill
Only when the body was young. Not any more. Now, being needy and
needing things is ok. How you go about _getting_ those things
might be a problem, or might not be a problem. Had fritz decided to
continue needing to drag that dragon around we might have had a
problem, for example.
However, if you are anything like us, when the body was little any
sort of need or neediness was immediately pounced on as a weakness
and attacked to be exploited. In that case showing neediness would
have resulted in something bad happening. Now is not then.
fuzzy
want to make them just go away
know we aren't being reasonable
isn't ok. can't believe it's ok
sorry
EB
> In article <7c2d12F24t84c...@mid.individual.net>,> >> In article <7bvl6eF24862...@mid.individual.net>,
for me it was the opposite -- shows of independence got me in trouble
and they were forever forcing me to stay in that needy pathetic state.
to try to hide emotions was sui. - it meant i "didn't love her" (mom)
-- they made me act vulnerable. they made me share. silence wasn't
allowed.
astri
> don't want to have needs
> want to make them just go away
> know we aren't being reasonable
> isn't ok. can't believe it's ok
> sorry
understand
recently got t shirt
says: do not want!
puts it outside
adds humor
dunno how much it helps tho
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astri
> for me it was the opposite -- shows of independence got me in trouble
> and they were forever forcing me to stay in that needy pathetic
> state. to try to hide emotions was sui. - it meant i "didn't love
> her" (mom) -- they made me act vulnerable. they made me share.
> silence wasn't allowed.
we were guilted for silence but did it anyway. no words. words too
shameful. nothing nothing nothing much safer.