Baybee shower RANT - longish
John & Mari Morgan
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh!
Okay, so I understand that the entire intention of a shower is a gift
grab. I had a bridal shower (because That's How It Was Done, you had
an engagement party and a bridal shower and a rehearsal dinner before
the wedding, and since we didn't have the engagement party or plan on
a rehearsal dinner there was no way I was getting out of a shower :-))
so I know how it works. But things are really getting out of hand.
I am seething - I just got an email (a FORM email, no less) marked as
from the guest of honor of a "gee, your reproductive system works"
shower listing where her gimme list was posted on the web. Apparently
she has found one of those websites where you can post your gimme list
along with all the links to where you can buy this shit or something
like that, and it automatically generates emails to all the people on
your sucker list telling them where they can find the list of things
the giftee wants to extort from you in the name of "friendship." You
can even target certain people from whom you can demand certain gifts,
without the rest of the potential present pool seeing it.
Unfuckingbelievable.
When I had my shower, the host asked me what I would like and then
_when asked_ gave the guests "ideas" with appropriate sizes. None of
this "item number 23987203947 on page 37 of XYZ catalog" crap, more
like "she wears a size 18 and likes purple, but she already has every
kitchen item under the sun. If all else fails, I'm sure a small gift
certificate to a bookstore would be appreciated." One person asked me
directly what I wanted and I told them to go talk to the host because
I wasn't going to get into that. And yes, we had a registry for our
wedding, but only told people what store it was at when _directly
asked_. We didn't just deluge our entire frigging invitation list with
"this is what we want you to buy." And yes, we do do "wishlists" for
holidays and birthdays in my family, but those are kept within very
close family and specifically requested. (As in Mom says "what do you
want for your birthday?") Anyone over the age of six who spontaneously
produces a wishlist is seriously reprimanded. The alleged host of this
shindig hasn't produced word one on the whole thing either, mind you -
so far it's looking like this mommie's throwing her own damn shower
for herself.
I give up on this family. Completely. I don't need friends THIS badly
for heaven's sake! I had hoped - in vain it seems - that a PNB was in
the offing, but now it's looking hopeless and I just don't have the
energy to deal with breeders.
Mari
dph...@my-deja.com
Didn't you get the memo: manners and etiquette are passe'.
Do you have the URL of this website ? I'd like to take
a look at the site that is hastening the downfall of polite
society.
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Before you buy.
scott...@my-deja.com
> Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh!
>
> I am seething - I just got an email (a FORM email, no less) marked as
> from the guest of honor of a "gee, your reproductive system works"
> shower listing where her gimme list was posted on the web. Apparently
> she has found one of those websites where you can post your gimme list
> along with all the links to where you can buy this shit or something
> like that, and it automatically generates emails to all the people on
> your sucker list telling them where they can find the list of things
> the giftee wants to extort from you in the name of "friendship." You
> can even target certain people from whom you can demand certain gifts,
> without the rest of the potential present pool seeing it.
> Unfuckingbelievable.
When invited to a baybee shower just do what I do. I always go, and I
give the most thoughtful gift for the parents: earplugs.
Always works for me.
Virginia
scott...@my-deja.com wrote:
> > Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh!
> >
> <snip of th demise of Emily Post>
>
> When invited to a baybee shower just do what I do. I always go, and I
> give the most thoughtful gift for the parents: earplugs.
> Always works for me.
>
I always include a jumbo bottle of ibuprofen.
va :)
John & Mari Morgan
wrote:
I have decided that I'm not going to take part in this atrocity.
Going, I think, would suggest that I approve of her behavior. I had a
small gift assembled (which did include earplugs, and some herbal
goodies I made, and a few small items like outlet covers, total
expenditure maybe $10) anyway, which I will mail to her after she
squeezes out the crotchling, but I refuse to validate such an
egregious demonstration of tackiness.
BTW, she never wrote a thank-you note for the birthday gift I spent
several painful hours trekking from store to store to find, either. So
this is pretty much the Last Straw. I fear for the level of manners
the offspring is going to grow up with.
Mari
John & Mari Morgan
>Do you have the URL of this website ? I'd like to take
>a look at the site that is hastening the downfall of polite
>society.
Here ya go: mygiftlist.com
Mari
Gutterboy
>>Do you have the URL of this website ? I'd like to take
>>a look at the site that is hastening the downfall of polite
>>society.
>
>Here ya go: mygiftlist.com
>
Well, I made one tailored just for the readers of this NG. You can see the
results at this address:
http://www.MyGiftList.com/giver_login.asp?code=5E770274D7EC802062AA63815C90
What're you gonna get me? Huh? HUH?
Gutterboy
-----------------
Abortion should be safe, legal, and ... would you like fries with that?
CL55logan
You can see the
>results at this address:
>
>http://www.MyGiftList.com/giver_login.asp?code=5E770274D7EC802062AA63815C90>
I love this! Good work G'boy-- a toast with a glass of Chateau De Walmart is in
order... Cathy
Unknown
wrote:
Oh MAN!!! STOP!! My tummy muscles are going to tear!!!!
Silently Mad
Too funny!
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