Yeah, many of us are still monitoring this newsgroup, largely because it
was once the best, most active, most focused PC forum available. Those
accolades shifted to another group (Yahoo? I forget) I tried for a
while. It was very impressive until its moderator imposed two firmly
enforced untenable rules:
1. He could wax politics all he wanted and we could neither object nor
respond in kind, even if our points were highly relevant to our medical
care.
2. We had to sign a pledge not to respond, no matter how politely, to
any personal attacks even if they poisoned the well against our
well-supported, invited facts and/or opinions on cancer. If we dared
disagree, even politely, with anyone else's obscene commentary about our
ancestry or the science of cancer, we had to resign from the forum.
That was an EASY choice for me.
Maybe those policies explain why I can no longer even find that forum (I
forget its name) when searching for the best PC forums on the internet.
I'd love to find and get involved with an excellent PC forum, but I
simply don't have the time anymore. Fighting Stage IV PC and all the
drugs, pharmacies, side effects, insurance companies, institutions,
oncologists, and ever-changing oncology that go with it leave me vastly
insufficient time to sleep and eat peacefully. Even just trying to keep
up with the medical science most relevant to our own case is
overwhelming, and our oncologists don't have the time to do it justice.
Yes, my fight consumes all of my time, but it has distinctly and
definitely extended my very life and its quality on numerous instances.
My own literature research has literally saved my life and/or quality
thereof on several occasions. I've asked 2 or 3 doctors I respect how
people with jobs, a family, and/or substandard fiscal, motivational,
disciplinary, and mental resources deal with the overwhelming demands of
advanced cancer. Their answers were pretty consistent; "They give up and
die years sooner than necessary."
One example was the very firm and consistent insistence of 8-10 highly
ranked urological oncologists at several of the nations' top
institutions - plus the federal Standard of Care -- when my PC returned
a decade after surgery that I accept salvage (an initial typo very
fittingly omitted the "l" in salvage) radiation JUST IN CASE it might
help. Instead I researched the hell out of MY CASE and firmly concluded
they were all wrong IN MY CASE. Two of the top radiation oncologists in
the country fully concurred with my analysis, and definitively backed up
my decision and theirs with hard scan data all these oncologists
possessed but ignored, proving salvage radiation would have destroyed my
QOL with zero odds of benefit.
Another example was the insistence of these same cutting edge
oncologists and research hospitals that I must accept immediate,
permanent ADT. Fortunately I had already done that research, with the
obvious and uncontested conclusion that permanent ADT is normally fatal
in less than 30 months ... more like two years median expectation. The
bastards admitted this only when confronted with that fact. My response?
"No, thanks. I'd rather go windsurfing." That was almost 3.5 years ago,
and I'm preparing for our next season of gale force winds and overhead
waves.