I.P.
I have the same issues, and it is really taking a toll on my emotional
and mental health. How are u doing?
I -- and I presume most of us because no one has chimed in with an
explanation of how/why it's an "issue" -- don't quite understand "the
issue" with retrograde ejaculation. Most if not all RPP patients,
including myself, have it, and think nothing of it. Sure, any seminal
fluid flows into my bladder instead of "out the barrel", but with all
that urine shooting out of my penis, I don't miss a little seminal
fluid, sensation-wise. And if you squirt no urine with ejaculation,
rejoice; the quantity and force of my urine ejection confines my sex
life to the shower, and *that's* an issue. I can only dream of the
benefits and convenience and possibilities of *dry* ejaculations. PeeWee
Herman, move over. '-)
I.P.
<snip earlier post exchanges>
> I -- and I presume most of us because no one has chimed in with an
> explanation of how/why it's an "issue" -- don't quite understand "the
> issue" with retrograde ejaculation. Most if not all RPP patients,
> including myself, have it, and think nothing of it. Sure, any seminal
> fluid flows into my bladder instead of "out the barrel", but with all
> that urine shooting out of my penis, I don't miss a little seminal
> fluid, sensation-wise. And if you squirt no urine with ejaculation,
> rejoice; the quantity and force of my urine ejection confines my sex
> life to the shower, and *that's* an issue. I can only dream of the
> benefits and convenience and possibilities of *dry* ejaculations.
> PeeWee Herman, move over. '-)
>
> I.P.
Well, I may not know what I'm talking about here, but...it is my
understanding that I could not possibly have "retrograde ejaculation"
since I have no ejaculation at all, in the normal sense. After my RRP, I
have no prostate gland and therefore cannot produce seminal fluid which
could be ejaculated into the bladder. Also since I have no prostate,
there is no longer any connection between my testes and urethra (the
mother of all vasectomies), so any sperm produced would not be able to
make it to my bladder, either.
The condition of "ejaculating" or squirting urine at climax,
climacturia, is something different, and I have experienced that.
--
JerryW
Please respond to group; email address is not valid
2/11/04 PSA 2.6, Suspicious DRE (age 62)
2/23/04 Biopsy: Gleason 3+4=7, T2a, left lobe
5/18/04 RRP, Path: Gleason 4+3=7, T2c, both lobes
Fully continent by 9/04
PSA through 4/22/08: <0.1
Are the sensations of sex different for me? Yes, I think so.
Erections are weaker and much harder to sustain. Ejaculation is
more or less gone. But after five years now I no longer think
much about what I've lost. That which remains to me is still
valuable and I'm thankful for what I've still got. Who knows if
I'll have anything at all in five or ten years.
I was 57 when I was treated for cancer. I'm 62 now. I have
every prospect of living to age 72 and, who knows, maybe even 82
or even beyond. I tend to think more about what I've gained than
what I've lost. The trade-off has been worth it.
What I recommend is for you and your wife to experiment a little.
Try different things. Your sex life has changed but, judging
from what you've said, it's not gone, it's just different.
Different doesn't have to be worse. Try fooling around more
(with your wife, not with the lady next door :).
Don't waste your time pining for what's gone. What's gone is
gone. Spend your time developing something new and interesting.
You may suprise yourself. You may surprise your wife. She may
surprise you.
Alan