New Life

[Simon Mayo]

I am a double b.k. since 1993. I just wanted to tell the group a little of
my story post operaive and see what others thought about my ideas.

Until I lost my legs I worked at an average job and had a fairly average
life. After losing my legs and being unable to return to work I needed
something wothwhile to do with my life and I found it in the study of music
and in particular playing the guitar. I am now a good guitarist and earn
extra money by teaching. I have a whole new life now that I would not have
had with legs.

I know that we would all prefer not to be amputees and I sincerely wish I
still had my legs but out of all adversity comes some good. I would be
interested to hear your response to this idea.

Simon Mayo

[Glenn Woodell]

This is a great success story. It shows that with determination and a
little thought one can make the best of a bad situation. I am
fortunate that my job of 6 months at the time was not one which was
ended by my accident. After 22 years I have had a prosperous carreer.

My hats off to you.

Glenn

[PF]

When I lost my leg in 81 I was due to get the sack and worked at just about
the lowest level in a very big organisation. Because of my amputation I had
to swap my operational job for one in an office. This opened a whole new
avenue for me and brought out my motivation and determination to make the
most of my life. I might not be considered a high flyer but I've achieved a
lot and I often feel this is because of my amputation. Doors close, others
open. You just have to give things a go aometimes and see what emerges.

Mark.
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[jim chivers]

Well, that is a touching story, I wish I could share one with you. For me,
it's just the beginning, I was pulled out in front of on 9/12/04, by a
selfish, ignorant person. I awoke on 12/31/04 with steel and plastic in my
head, minus the right leg, every bit of it. No femur left for me, and I am
dealing with intense anger and hatred, pain and challenges too much to bear.
I am from an industry where my 30 years of engineering work, must be
supported by what is in my head. Or it will suffer, so I am secure financial
now and forever, if I can just keep from killing somebody. Is it just me, or
does it seem like allot of people with handi-cap parking permits , are
handi-capped because they are fat ? I've picked afew of them out and
verbally assaulted them, it made me feel better. But it was ugly and cruel,
and that has never been me until now. No door open for me yet.

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> When I lost my leg in 81 I was due to get the sack and worked at just
> about the lowest level in a very big organisation. Because of my
> amputation I had to swap my operational job for one in an office. This
> opened a whole new avenue for me and brought out my motivation and
> determination to make the most of my life. I might not be considered a

> higher but I've achieved a lot and I often feel this is because of my

[PF]

I've spent a lot of time being angry - with the world, with my leg, with my
prosthetist, the consultant and just about anything and everything else at
some stage or other.. I doubt I'll ever stop being angry but I try my best
to control it. After all, it's my fault that I get angry just as it is your
fault you get angry. No-one can make us feel anything, we do it to
ourselves. We can just as easily choose to feel something else if we really
want to.

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[Simon Mayo]

It is a waste of life to spend it being angry and resentful; remember "as a
man thinks, so is he". You must let go of your anger and ask yourself what
good can come out the situation. There is always a good side if you look
hard enough. "That which does not kill me makes me stronger" as someone once
said and I agree. Life is precious and can always be lived to the full in
any circumstances you make your life what you want it to be

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[PF]

It's not as easy as 'just letting go'. I'm quite a happy person and I have
relaxed a lot over the years but I am and probably always will be an angry
man. This is far too complex an issue to resolve either with rational
thought or self-affirmation. Also, I'm not resentful at all. I completely
accept my life even if I do not so easily accept myself and my human
failings. ' That which doesn't kill you makes you stronger' is, in my
opinion, a worn-out plattitude that should be assigned to the bin. You know
as well as I do that there are lots of things that neither kill you nor make
you stronger. I live my life to the full and I'm proud of it. I never said
that being angry is a problem for me, it's simply a fact of my life.

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[Bellatrix]

On Fri, 8 Apr 2005 19:52:32 +0000 (UTC), wrote:

>I never said
>that being angry is a problem for me, it's simply a fact of my life.

There are things people would do well to be angry about. Anger
motivates. With anger, it's best to know what deserves your anger.
btw, I think in this thread the word 'anger' could be defined as any
number of complex responses to any number of of stimuli.

Just beware of people who get 'angry' about 'immigrants' and woman ;-)

[PF]

Absolutely. In fact, I'd be willing to bet that what people call anger is
often a racket feeling i.e. it's a false emotional response that hides an
entirely different feeling such as grief which people have a much harder
time expressing. Unfortunately, most humans have difficulty expressing true
emotion hence using an 'easier' emotion to mask how they really feel. I
wouldn't be surprised if the person you refer to is using a racket feeling
even if he doesn't know it :-)

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[PF]

Absolutely. In fact, I'd be willing to bet that what people call anger is
often a racket feeling i.e. it's a false emotional response that hides an
entirely different feeling such as grief which people have a much harder
time expressing. Unfortunately, most humans have difficulty expressing true
emotion hence using an 'easier' emotion to mask how they really feel. I
wouldn't be surprised if the person you refer to is using a racket feeling
even if he doesn't know it :-)

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[jim chivers]

is that woman or women ? Did I or Did I not, suffer critique from you, for
not using that damn spell check? Judgmental Bitch ! that is your title.
You have earned it. Seems to be a characteristic of your sex

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> On Fri, 8 Apr 2005 19:52:32 +0000 (UTC), wrote:

> ,

[Doug]

Is it just me, or
> does it seem like allot of people with handi-cap parking permits , are
> handi-capped because they are fat ? I've picked afew of them out and
> verbally assaulted them, it made me feel better. But it was ugly and cruel,
> and that has never been me until now. No door open for me yet.

Well, I used to bitch at people for parking in those, especially some
fat gal that is "getting something for her handicapped mother" BS.
Well, now that I'm going to be driving sometime before summer, I will be
happy to hang around those new cars in those spots that obviously
doesn't have room for a walker or chair just to see who is taking up the
one in five spots available in the small parking at Costco!! Around
here, it is a $300 fine if you're caught in one for no reason.