“O my son! If the evil deed is equal to the weight of a mustard-seed,
and even if it is in a rock, or in the heavens, or wherever in the
earth, Allah will bring it forth; indeed Allah knows all the minutest
things, the All Aware. O my son! Keep the prayer established, and
enjoin goodness and forbid from evil, and be patient upon the calamity
that befalls you; indeed these are acts of great courage. And do not
contort your cheek while talking to anyone, nor boastfully walk upon
the earth; indeed Allah does not like any boastful, haughty person.
And walk moderately and soften your voice; indeed the worst voice is
the voice of the donkey.” [Luqman 31:16-19]
We can recall not too long ago in our Muslim culture <http://
www.eagletravel.com.au/> that all grown-ups in the community would
take the role of guides for the youth. No child dared to misbehave in
front of elders in any gathering. All the elders held enough authority
that they could discipline the child without having to face the wrath
of the parents as is the case today. As a result, children tend to
misbehave and disrespect elders because they no longer fear being
disciplined by anyone besides their parents, and that too is seen
little.
Parents realize it too late - that what they thought was giving
‘freedom’ to their children was in fact destroying them. Being
affectionate to your children is one thing but to let them to do
anything as they wish, is not affection - rather it is harmful for the
child. This is the result of the parents’ forgetting their duty of
teaching the child. More often the television takes the place of the
parent and it is from here the child gains much of his/her ill-
mannerisms. Let these words be a reminder and a word of caution.
When children are able to speak a little, teach them the name of
Allah. Before, mothers would put their children to sleep by chanting
“Allah – Allah”, but now it is by shamefully playing the music on the
radio! <http://
www.oliveweb.com.au/>,When children are mature do not do anything in
front them which will ruin their mannerisms because they tend to copy
these acts. They do whatever they see their parents doing. Never argue
with your spouse in front of them because this puts a lot of stress on
children and causes them to think that they are the cause of the
argument. Never curse your children.
Offer the Prayers in front of them, recite Quran, take them to the
mosque with you, and tell them stories of our pious predecessors as
they like to listen to stories very much. Hearing stories with lessons
and morals will increase their good habits. When they are a little
older, teach them the Five Declarations (Kalemat), Concise Faith
(Imane Mujmal), Detailed faith (Imane Mufassal), and then teach them
how to offer Prayers (Salah).
Put them under the guidance of an Allah-fearing, pious scholar (Aalim)
or Qur’an Memorizer (Hafiz) – definitely holding right beliefs & from
creed of Ahle Sunnah - to acquire the knowledge of Islam & the Holy
Qur’an – so they can know more of the beautiful religion to which they
belong. Teach them the rules & practices of bathing, ablution &
prayer.
If Allah gives you proper guidance, try to make your children Islamic
Scholars or Memorizers of the Holy Qur’an. A Memorizer (Hafiz) will
get three generations forgiven and a Scholar (Aalim) will get seven
generations forgiven (on the Day of Judgment). It is baseless to think
that a scholar has no source of livelihood. Know that one does not
earn more than what is destined by acquiring worldly knowledge; one
will get only what the Almighty Provider (Razzaq) <http://
www.paktimes.com.au/> has written for him.
Teach your children simplicity and do not expose them to materialism.
Teach them the value of doing their own work. Send them to college,
make them judges, make them doctors or to adopt any successful and
halal career in this world - but make them such that they carry on
these professions as honest Muslims who know their religion.