How to Date a Pre-Op Transsexual Woman

[Ernie Primeau]

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> How to Date a Pre-Op Transsexual Woman
How to Date a Pre-Op Transsexual Woman
-or- How to Date a Shemale or TS.
By- MichaelTSG
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Are you seeking to date a pre-op transsexual woman, "shemale" or TS? Great!

Not all girls are born female. There is a special class of woman out there,
with a different set of attributes than the "genetic girl," or GG. It's the
transsexual woman, or "TS." A woman who used to be a male. "Pre-Op" refers
to the fact that she has not had sexual reassignment surgery (SRS), the
sex-change surgery.

Definitions: A "pre-op transsexual" is a woman in the wrong body, one who
has breasts (through taking female hormones and/or breast implants), and a
cock. A TS is almost always living full time as a woman. A "non-op
transsexual" means that the TS will not have SRS. Usually that is also the
case with a pre-op TS. I will be referring to both categories of TS as
pre-op in this article, since it is a more widely used expression.

These are the topics that will be addressed in this article:

1. Why would a guy want to date a pre-op TS?
2. Sexual confusion and disorientation.
3. What does a TS look for in a guy?
4. How should a guy approach and treat a TS?
5. How does a TS regard herself?
6. The TS and the gay male community.
7. Sex with a TS.
8. Shemale escorts.

Let's address them one by one.

1. Why would a guy want to date a pre-op transsexual?

A lot of guys who show interest in TS's are, in fact, bisexual. Others are
bi-curious. Still others are looking for cheap thrills. Some men find TS's
to be more feminine than GG's. And then, of course, there are guys who seem
to just plain connect better with a pre-op transsexual than a GG.

For the guys just seeking a sexual experience, there are plenty of shemale
escorts available who will happily provide an exciting experience for a fee,
without any danger of commitment. Don't know any escorts? Use a search
engine, search under keywords "shemale escorts (enter name of your city or
state)" -- odds are you will find what you need.

TS's tell me that most of the guys who contact them are, in fact, bisexual
or bi-curious. They say these men are often looking for a same-sex
experience but packaged in such a way that they have deniability. They seek
to deny (to themselves, probably) that sex with a person who has both tits
and a dick is homosexual in nature, when the guy is sucking that dick or
getting fucked by it.

Some men find today's so-called independent woman to be not very feminine at
all, overly assertive, argumentative, prone to characterizing a simple male
advance as "harassment," and a general pain in the ass to be around. One guy
told me dating a so-called independent woman "is like dating your brother."
Who among the women of today delight in being extremely (and classically)
feminine? The TS's.

Others find solace with a pre-op transsexual because she used to be a male
and has a far better understanding of what it means to be male than most
GG's ever will. Any guy who is chronically misunderstood by GG's will be
able to appreciate the viewpoint of the TS.

2. Sexual confusion and disorientation.

Guys ask me for advice. "I met this transsexual woman at a club and I am
really attracted to her but I am concerned that it means I am gay or
something. Am I?"

Some careful dialogue with the guy usually uncovers the fact that he was
very attracted to the TS's femininity. Her look, her voice, her movement,
her laugh, her smile, her scent, and all those other feminine cues that
trigger interest and a masculine response from a guy. Gay guys are not
attracted to those attributes.

Therefore, if a straight man finds himself interested in a pre-op
transsexual and is experiencing some confusion as a result, then he needs
to consider exactly what it is about her that is attracting him. If it's her
femininity, then he's not responding like a gay man would, and thus
shouldn't worry about whether he's "turning gay." If the guy can accept that
he is attracted to a somewhat different kind of woman and still wants to
pursue it, take it just one step at a time.

Take her out to dinner or a movie. Talk to her about whatever, listen to her
words. Look into her eyes. Can he get lost in her eyes, as he can with a GG?
Can he relax around her and just enjoy being with her, as if she were a GG?
If so, take one more step. Hold hands, kiss her good-night. In other words,
treat her like he would any GG date, at a pace that he can handle, given his
concerns. Easy!

3. What does a transsexual woman look for in a guy?

What does any woman look for in a guy? A straight man, a guy who loves and
appreciates women.

This quote came to me this evening as I was writing this article. A pretty
TS said she wants "a man with class, respect, morals, intelligence, humor
and loyalty." She is having great difficulty finding a man like that.

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Why? Because most guys, she said, "are the same, they are just bi-curious or
want their fantasy to come true." That is why god made "escorts." :-)

What a pre-op transsexual woman wants in a guy is what most any woman wants
in a guy. Surprise, surprise! If a guy wants to develop a relationship with
a TS (think this through carefully).how should he approach her?

A TS who hangs out online gets a million instant messages and emails about
sexual encounters. A TS who has the genuine sensibilities of the female will
not respond to sexual adventure proposals any better than most GG's will.

4. How should a guy approach and treat a TS?

A male-to-female transsexual is generally defined as a woman in a man's
body. The key thing to bear in mind here is: WOMAN in a man's body. If a guy
wants to get past her suspicions about the nature of his interest in her,
don't offer her a dick. Offer her flowers

Visit the TS Girlfriend LOGO SHOP!

and a dinner date. He needs to express his interest the same way he would
with any GG.

What genetic females will appreciate, so will the TS. Don't treat her like a
freak. Chances are excellent she will resent being treated as a curiosity.
She has endured a lot of pain and derision over gender issues, and has spent
a lot of money trying to correct a mistake by nature. Be understanding and
appreciative of her ordeal. Be a gentleman. Get past the plumbing issues and
think in terms of her femininity. It's not that hard to do and she will
greatly appreciate it.

Reading the articles at this website will satisfy your curiosity about what
a TS is, what she needs and how she thinks. Therefore, a man doesn't need to
bring up TS issues on the first date. Instead, he should focus on her, her
life and her interests. He shouldn't treat her any differently than he would
any other woman. She craves to be treated like any other woman, but she
fully expects her date to ask inappropriate sex- and TS-related questions,
because it happens all the time. Surprise and delight her! Don't even bring
the subject up. Let her be the one to bring it up, if she wants. Doing
things this way will likely make a very big impression. And that could put
the guy miles ahead of everyone else vying for her attention.

Odds are, she's taking female hormones. That often results in feminine mood
swings. Expect that. The pre-op TS may still have a dick, but
psychologically she's a girl.

5. How does a pre-op transsexual woman regard herself?

She responds as a woman, therefore she regards herself as a woman. But being
female for her is likely a whole lot more difficult than it is for the GG.
Why? Imagine how men she meets react when she tells them she is a TS who
hasn't had the sex change. Usually the guy immediately loses interest. He
might even react with disgust. Or worse. This will impact on her sense of
self-worth and esteem.

The pre-op TS will often adopt an image that is clearly, unmistakably
feminine as she seeks to define herself as a woman. Probably she will not
care to dress in a way that could be construed as masculine. A male
appearance is in her past. The TS wants to immerse herself into something
warmly and clearly feminine, which accounts for the clearly feminine
clothing and heels. The TS is unlikely to identify with female Marines,
Abrams tank drivers and fighter jet pilots.

Who is attracted to her? Mostly bi guys and thrill seekers. Finding a man
who will accept her as a woman with a dick is very difficult indeed. But the
man who can appreciate her femaleness, accept and love her is in for a huge
benefit. He will be on the receiving end of a whole lot of attention,
affection, and desire to please. His girl will probably go all out to look
very desirable. She will wear very feminine clothing and shoes. She will
work hard to perfect her makeup. After all, she loves being a girl. And she
(finally) has a man who appreciates her. She is very unlikely to take him
for granted. Interestingly enough, this approach to pleasing a man and
adopting a feminine appearance is rather sadly lacking today among genetic
women.

When my girlfriend and I go off to the movies or a restaurant, she is almost
always the only female in the place in a blouse and skirt, or a dress -- and
both the men and women notice her. You can see the envy in the men's eyes.
They want their women to dress in a more feminine manner too, and it isn't
happening for them. The TS's often have a better understanding of what men
want, a better grip on how to be female.

6. The TS and the gay male community.

Often they are at odds. Gay men respond to masculinity, not femininity. A TS
is very likely looking for a straight man, for it is a man who will make her
feel like the woman she is, which is something to which most any GG can
attest. Gay men will generally not find a TS of interest. There is often
friction between the transgendered and gay communities. Some gay men accuse
transgendered women as being unable to decide what they want. Although
transgendered and gay communities ally themselves for political purposes,
they otherwise have little in common.

7. Sex with a pre-op TS.

For those men who find themselves attracted to a pre-op TS but wary of the
prospect of sex, here's a solution. Assuming that guy has read the earlier
remarks in Section 2, then the solution is to think of having sex with a TS
as just a plumbing issue. Forget about her penis. The guy has a girlfriend
with a simple plumbing issue. There's no pussy, so get over it. What are the
options? I'm sure any guy thinking of sex with a pre-op transsexual woman
has quickly inventoried all the places he can stick his cock.

A TS on hormones may not have a functional penis. And a TS with the
sensibilities of a genetic woman is very unlikely to want to fuck a guy in
the ass or stuff it down his throat anyway, so a straight guy need not be
concerned about it.

Time for the orifice inventory. Will a TS want to suck cock? Get fucked in
the ass? It's very likely she will. Can she cum? Many do cum from anal sex.
TS's on hormones tend to cum repeatedly, much as GG's can, but without the
usual male-type ejaculation.

Anal sex need not be messy. An experienced TS will know how to make it a
great experience. Lubrication is a necessity. Keep some handy.

What is the essence of femininity? Females are nurturers and pleasers by
nature. They are warm, loving beings who love to please. Sex tends to be
tied up with romantic love. Women love to be "taken" by a masculine man,
since it is the act of erotic surrender that centers them, that makes them
feel like "a real woman." Therefore, hardly any TS with the sensibilities of
a woman will be looking to "top" a guy or will be looking for a guy who
wants to suck her dick.

Foreplay? Remember, treat her like a woman. She is going to respond the same
way.

8. Shemale escorts.

The term "shemale" came out of the porn business, and it refers to a person
with breasts and a dick.

I keep using the expression, "a TS with the sensibilities of a GG..." for a
reason, to distinguish the TS who wants to be treated as a woman, who fully
identifies with being a woman, from those who cater to the submissive male
crowd, the bi-male crowd and the thrill-seeking crowd for money.

The genuine TS -- one with the sensibilities of a GG -- won't likely be
promoting herself as a shemale any more than a GG seeking a real
relationship will be promoting herself as an "escort." That means, one who
advertises herself as a shemale or shemale escort likely has a viewpoint not
very compatible with developing a sound relationship. Act accordingly.

A man needs to clarify his interests and goals. If he's just looking for a
blowjob from a TS, or wants to suck some TS dick, cool. Pay an escort for
some fun. If he wants to get something real going, then forget about the
escorts. Why forget about them? Those girls get lied to every hour of every
day and have heard it all. They aren't likely to believe that the average
Joe asking for a simple date is serious. For most, the gateway to getting to
know them is to first become a client.

That's it. Good luck. Feedback is appreciated.

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These type of biased, one sided post are off-putting when it comes to meeting, dating and having sex with pre-op or non-op trans-women.

You are not necessarily gay or bi if your attracted to a trans-woman who still has her penis and doesn't mind using it for sexual gratification. And trust me there are plenty and I speak for the men who enjoy their company.

For the record there are millions of cis-gendered Fem lesbian women who don't mind topping their female partners with strap on's and other sex toys and never for a second question their womanhood. Same for hetero couples where the female pegs her man.

If that's not your thing then fine but making your way sound like the only way isn't factual. Many trans-women do still use their dicks during sex while still identifying as a woman 24/7 and don't require cash for it either. So don't be discouraged or mislead by post like the one above. The Trans-gender umbrella is more diverse and more open-minded than some are willing to give credit.

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I,m going on a date with a preop trans tomorrow.intending to treat her as a woman.as a straight man is there anything I should avoid doing or talking about?

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> jimmyboo: I'm a new transgenderwoman mtf post-op. had my op. on Jan 26th.,2018 and just started a new life with a move to a great trans. mtf pre-op.with a 13 year old daughter and I've talked to her on the phone and she already calling me mom! Her mom died to mth.'s ago ,but so much wants me to be her mom.My partner knows she can not mess with my front till I am ready and know it will hurt with being a virgin.lol Thank you Jenny

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Go for it. I noticed transwomen love sex Give it to her. Also let her enjoy fuckcking you.
Mmmh i see good life ahead.

Good luck