ASB: Welcome to Alt.Sex.Bondage! (2/3)
E. A. Graham Jr.
[Author/Editor's note: If you have some changes to propose, don't be
shy. Send Email. Post. Scream *really* loudly. If you lost my address
I'm at ars...@cris.com.
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to prove how messed up all those kinky people are. Otherwise, ask
first.]
Contents:
Part 1: Main body of post. If you read anything, read this.
I: Really Short Version
II: Not Really Short Version
Part 2: Appendices. Useful tidbits of information you'll probably want
to know.
A: Ugol's Law
B: Where Else To Look
Part 3: More appendices. Even more stuff you'll probably want to know.
C: Killfiles
D: Glossary
You are currently reading Part 2: Appendicies.
Changes (Since 2/20/96): The Valentines Day Rewrite. Not much changed
in this part, though.
I'm going to erase all the information I DON'T have in here about the
other FAQ's and issue a general call: you got one I should list?
I'm looking for anon remailers that people are willing to make part of
this newsgroup's Welcome FAQ. If you don't run the thing, send me the
address of whoever does so I can ask them for permission.
Appendix A: Ugol's Law.
At some time in the past (nobody's sure when) Harry Ugol made an off-
the-cuff remark (nobody's sure what) that has since become one of the
cornerstones of asb thought. Two of the most common formulations of
Ugol's Law, as it came to be known, are "For any given kink, either
nobody does it or more than one person does it", and "If you ever ask
'am I the only one who <insert kink>?' the answer is invariably 'no'."
However, the best way *I* ever saw of putting it was written by
-^-^Spectrum^-^-, who wrote it "You are not the only one."
Ugol's law serves a very important purpose in asb, where people often
come in from the cold wondering if they are some kind of sick twisted
pervert in the bad sense of the word, alone in some unnatural practice
they can't escape from. Ugol's law serves to remind people that there
are others out there who are like them, and that serves as a source of
comfort.
Some time later The_Horseman wrote Horseman's Corollary, specifically:
"Any given kink squicks somebody." So remember that while you aren't
universally rejected, there's somebody who won't do what you do. I
suggest you not try to force them to. You're not their mother.
Appendix B: Where else to look.
No way this is a complete list. A more complete list, the Guide to
Sex Rescource Information on the Internet, is (supposedly) published
monthly here. Mail phi...@iglou.com for info/copy requests.
I am ALWAYS taking submissions for things you feel should be in here.
I'll specifically ask for things up above, but I'll accept recommendations
for any category.
Incidentally, a word about personals: It is generally a good idea (unless
it is obvious that the place is for personals, like alt.personals.ads) to
ask first before posting personals. Lots of places do not like personals
at all. Come to think of it, the same is true for just about all the points
of Nettiquite covered in this document. Read the documentation.
Newsgroups:
alt.sex, alt.sex.bestiality, soc.motss, alt.sex.motss, soc.men,
soc.women, soc.bi, the alt.sex.fetish.* groups (amputee, fat, fashion,
feet, hair, orientals, startrek and size), alt.personals, alt.personals.ads,
alt.personals.bondage, alt.sex.wizards (about questions for advanced
sex, not sex with magii, although I suppose you could discuss that too),
alt.sex.majick (for sex with magii) alt.sex.wanted, alt.polyamory,
alt.personals.poly, rec.arts.bodyart (chiefly piercing and tatoos),
alt.sex.spanking, alt.sex.femdom. All these groups have their own FAQs
and traditions, and what is written here may not apply to them.
Mail lists:
[I would appreciate it if those who wished their email list noted here
would contact me with the name, purpose, and a subscribe address. I would
also appreciate it if those who are on the lists noted here would tell me
how one gets on them and/or what they're about.]
clyster-l, Anal play oriented. Address unkown.
gl-asb, majo...@queernet.org. For homosexual BDSM.
head...@law.emory.edu : This, apparently, is going to concentrate
on BDSM doings in the south (especially around atlanta.) Send mail there
or an17...@anon.penet.fi containing only SUBSCRIBE or UNSUBSCRIE in the
message body to subscribe or unsubscribe.
femdom-l: if you don't get alt.sex.femdom reliably or at all, this list will
send the asf posts to you in the mail. To subscribe, send mail to listerv@
netcom.com with "subscribe femdom-l" in the message body. Contact juu@netcom.
com if you have problems, questions, etc. This is not a discussion list.
IRC channels:
#bondage (invite-only), #bdsm, #gaysm, and #Femdom (not always extant,
do /who #femdom to check). #bdsm exists on both undernet and EFnet,
#gaysm very occasionally exists on undernet and often exists on EFnet,
#femdom I have seen on both nets, and #bondage only exists on EFnet, near
as I can tell.
#B&Dlounge and #BDSMlounge I've only seen on the EFnet, but I haven't been
looking elsewhere.
[Same here. Anybody who wants an irc channel listed, would you please
tell me?]
WWW sites: [Okay, I'm taking submissions (Not THAT kind, quit lickin'
my shoes) for this part, BUT I'm trying to avoid having to list everybody
and their kid brother's personal home page. So, Neat, Wonderful, and
Generally God-Like as you might be, please don't send me yours.]
Rob Jellinghaus ro...@unreal.com: http://www.unreal.com/adult/asb/faq.htm
Okay, I know I said I didn't want to put peoples personal home pages in
here, but this isn't just any person, it's Rob Jellinghaus. (Betcha that
makes him feel better) He's the maintainer of the asb FAQ and you really
should read that.
eff.org: http://www.eff.org Electronic Frontier Foundation, for information
on political stuff like freeodm of speech on the internet.
SM-COP Online Resource Directory: http://www.tpe.com Think of it as
your kinky online card catalog/encyclopedia.
Society for Human Sexuality. http://weber.u.washington.edu/~sfpse Much
the same as above, though you might have a hard time if you're a chipmunk.
Includes the Guide to Safer Sex.
mageneta.com: http://magenta.com/lmnop/intro.html Magenta is a site
administered by our own Wombat that has both BDSM (look for "lmnop") and
non-bdsm users.
The Eulenspiegal Society: http://www.mcsp.com/tes/toc.html An NYC
bondage and alternate sexuality group, meets wednesdays.
The Group With No Name: http://www.io.com/~crackers/GWNN.html An austin
(I think) based BDSM organization.
FAQs
**THE** Faq: Everything you wanted to know about BDSM but were afraid to ask.
Posted monthly, by Rob Jellinghaus (robj@unreal com). Available by web
surfing at http://www.unreal.com/adult/asb/faq.htm
The Acronyms Post: A much better version of the glossary, posted on the
10th, 20th, and 30th (if it exists) by Frites (an9...@anon.penet.fi)
The Welcome: A guide to ettiquite on alt.sex.bondage. Posted once in a
blue moon by yours truly (ars...@cris.com) You're reading it.
Remailers, anon and non-anon. (Say that five times fast)
Penet.fi is dead. I think. Any others?