METHODS OF CONTROLLING SEX DRIVE

[Douglas Stream]

A lifelong celibate Christian who has lived a life of total sex-deprivation,
I have struggled to find an answer to the following question:

1. Short of marriage, what is someone like myself supposed to do with
excessive and accumulated sexual unfulfillment?

2. God's Word is mute on the topic of masturbation. Is it right or wrong?

Thank you. Please send comments and insights to me at
mtbe...@imt.net

DK Stream

[bob]

Buy Clinical management of sex addiction by Carnes and Adams, published by
Routledge for series of papers on these and other issues you raise. Also go
on Google scholar and look for a paper called "The snake and the Seraph" by
Thaddeus Birchard to get a good insight into issues and further reading.

Masturbation is a debated issue theologically, the main issue seems to be on
the reasons for doing it. Lustful thoughts/fantacy, porn use, or
masturbation without these. However, we are created sexual just as we
created needing food, but sexuality is not just about sex - see Sex God book
by Rob Bell for helpful thoughts. There is however no medical reason to see
why we should need to masturbate but sexual thoughts/urges are usually
visually and fantacy orientated which trigger the urges and our culture
makes such stimuli rampant! (see also Lovemaps by Money for related issues)
However, many Christian men struggle with all the issues you mention - see
The Sexual Man by Archibold Hart. Also many approaches are 12 step based but
this can lead to abstinence violation effect (do Google search/Wikepedia for
basic understanding) and not acknowledge that abstaining from internet,
mobile phone, pda, tv use is getting incredibly difficult in everyday life
and communication despite some blockers being available. Therefore a
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy approach appears more effective and measurable
as it teaches you to take controlled responsibility amongst this rather than
seeking to avoid it (see Sex Addiction Workbook by Tamara Penix).

Hope these provide some helpful insights from my theological and
psychological research

Feel free to email me again if it helps

Take care and persevere

L

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