Women are Wonderful / What they want in a Man
PURSHOTAM DAULAT
Anonymous wrote:
> I am now going to reveal to you what women want, have always
> wanted and will always be looking for in any
> man with whom they
> become intimate. It is a "Trump" attribute,
> which means that its
> presence is a more powerful influence than
> others and can tip the
> scales of emotional acceptance in your favor
> immediately.
>
> Be advised that I will be dealing with a
> monumental but accurate
> generalization which is not meant to apply to
> every female who ever
> lived. I bow to the variability within and
> between the sexes. Nonetheless,
> you will see that my assertion has the
> undeniable thud of the obvious.
>
> If you feel the cold chill of disbelief or
> the fever of indignation rising in
> you at these words, please consult with Woody
> Allen, a cunning expert at
> attracting beautiful talented women on the
> sheer force of this "Trump"
> attribute which draws women like... migrating
> butterflies.
>
> What women want from men is confidence. The
> Trump is Personal
> Confidence.
>
> Confidence... not arrogance, not dominance,
> not one-upsmanship, not
> useless bravado, not macho heroics. Women
> just love truly confident
> men.
>
> Now as you know, confidence is an attitude
> thing. In particular, male
> confidence frequently manifests as an
> "I-can-handle-it attitude". This does
> not mean that feelings are denied. It doesn't
> imply an absence of doubt,
> fear, or vulnerability. A delusion of total
> self sufficiency is not required.
>
> Confidence simply says: "I can deal with
> it... somehow... well at least I'll
> do my best". The attitude of confidence
> doesn't even have to be constant,
> just generally present in the face of most
> life challenges.
>
> For hundreds of thousands of years of human
> development, a
> confident attitude was much easier for men to
> gain and display
> than it is now because it was required for
> survival. There was
> hardly any choice. Until recently, the
> demands of physical survival
> were the primary issue in pair-bonding and
> confidence-building
> roles for both sexes directly related to
> survival were far more
> apparent. I am not talking about survival in
> extraordinary
> circumstances, either. It could be as basic
> as steadfastness in
> getting the crops in out of the rain.
>
> In the smaller communities in which we used
> to live, everyone could see
> the skilled hunter, the dedicated farmer and
> stockman, the courageous
> protector, the skilled artisan, the
> accomplished leader, the sage teacher, the
> men who didn't give up in the face of
> threatening set-backs.
>
> Why hell! There have been times and cultures
> where a women woudn't
> even consider a man who couldn't claim to be
> a good carpenter or a
> competent dirt mover. These roles, decreed by
> harsher realities of life
> than most of us now experience, were obvious
> advertisements for male
> virtue, i.e., "I can handle it".
>
> Unfortunately, the signs indicative of
> genuine masculine confidence are
> confusing today and gender roles are a
> chaotic mess. The external
> demonstrations of natural confidence have
> become confused with the
> poor substitute of consumer status symbols.
> But... women instinctually
> look for clues to a man's level of
> confidence... and test it to the limit... but
> not in the old-fashioned way.
>
> Now for the good news! Since confidence is
> primarily an attitude
> toward meeting life challenges of all kinds -
> and there's no
> shortage of challenges in the world - the
> essential attitude can still
> be cultivated and demonstrated. But it cannot
> be faked with
> money, looks, or possessions.
>
> Willingness to face important struggles is
> still the ultimate key to a
> woman's respect. In contemporary times, a man
> may express this
> dynamic in many conventional ways. He can
> show his confidence integrity
> through competence in his work, education,
> sports, hobbies, child rearing,
> or doing home improvements. Actually, we can
> include here any thing
> which involves mastering a new learning curve
> and overcoming ego
> uncertainties.
>
> Now, if a man really wants to do some crash
> confidence building these
> days, he can try still the old-fashioned
> approach - and many do so.
>
> He can expose himself to more risks and
> bigger risks: jump out of a few
> airplanes, compete at martial arts, skiboard
> off of snowy mountains, lift
> weights, climb sheer cliffs with only the
> strength of his fingertips for
> security, take on dangerous political
> controversies, start an unusual new
> business with more enthusiasm than capital,
> confront and influence
> provocative teenagers, or spend days in the
> wilderness with only his
> tom-tom for company.
>
> But we all know perfectly well that these are
> methods not character
> outcomes. It is not the specific activity
> that matters, what matters is what
> goes on in the man's head that makes him feel
> some sense of Mastery.
>
> Or... a man can cut to the bottom line, avoid
> physically and financially
> dangerous experiences, and go for The Really
> Big Risk... the ultimate
> emotional challenge. He can work directly at
> becoming more confident
> with women themselves. That's riskier than
> cliff climbing, anyway!
>
> Although a woman likes to believe a man is
> willing to deal with a
> lot of things, what really counts is that he
> is able to deal with her.
> A healthy, mature woman resists impassioned
> commitment to a
> man who is afraid of her sexuality, her
> intelligence, or her
> emotions.
>
> This means gaining confidence and empathy
> (unavoidably stuck together)
> in approaching and relating to women on many
> levels, in the face of
> rejections real or imagined. And since this
> is the riskiest venture of all, the
> pay-off is, appropriately, the biggest: the
> devotion of a loving woman
> who can make your life extremely pleasant on
> a daily basis. Confidence
> with women in general - beautiful, plain,
> smart, nice, mean, old, young -
> every kind of woman - is an unavoidable
> social skill which can and must
> be learned if what you want is the greatest
> intimate relationship of your
> life.