Newbie needs Some Advice

[Anthony Stephens]

Outfoxing The Foxes wrote:

> Some Guy Writes:
>
> <...>
> There is this girl that i have known for a long time and i wanna get
> wit her. How can i do this? What would be a good way to make a move on
> her? The thing is that we're pretty good friends and i dont wanna
> screwup the friendship. I dont wanna fuck her and leave her, more like
> fuck her then make a relationship out of it.
> well thanks people
>
> <------It's best to just end the friendship WITHOUT making a move. You
> say you don't want to mess up the friendship, but you DO want to CHANGE
> it, so you obviously aren't happy with it. Why keep something you aren't
> happy with? If you had a girlfriend you'd drop your friendship with her
> in a second. Here are your options:

How about this for another take on the problem:

I've known this girl for a couple years, and for the last year or so, we've
been talking about things - just like you suggested. I can tell you, it sure
works! After she heard about my problems with other women (especially how I
was treating them) she became rather dissatisfied with her current
relationship. Now she's unattached, and interested in me.

The problem here is I find that in this particular case, I'm actually
interested in a friendship, more than anything else. I could have her easily
(she's said so, extremely bluntly in fact), but I no longer want to pursue
that type of relationship.
Any thoughts?

BTW - as I said, what you suggested in the previous response actually worked
here, and that was without knowing what I was doing! - it certainly gives you
some credibility in my eyes...