Please help me !First real love in my life....
Michael
Just wanted to ask if you could give me some tips how to talk with this
woman.
I feel really adviceless....till this time,i only got girlsfriends that were
"bitches".I mean only those where i never was really in love.It was more
natural to have one and fun was more important to me then beeing really
lucky or feeling love.
On Sylvester,i met Steffi.We exchanged some emails,but i stopped the contact
`cause i wasn`t really interested.
On last Friday,i met she again and my first look to her made me so curious.
She got this smile,this wunderful smile.
Now,my friend decided that i must send her an email to check out if she`s
intereted or just to know her better.
The fact is,i know really nothing about her.I really don`t know what to
write.
I never had this problem before but now this kills me so badly.
I nver felt this for another girl before,i think i´m going to fall in love
(and to fall is the exact description for this)
I know that she plays in a churchband music and she is different as my
previous girlfriends.
She is somehow a moralic typ and my friend said she got lots of boyfriends
but it was never a "real"partnership.
I even really don`t know how she looks like cause it wasn`t interesting to
me.I was just fascinated.
I`m afraid of fall in love with her ,cause she is the type of girl where i
would fall fucking deeply in love.
The bad thing is,i don`t think she knows who i am and so....i sit in front
of my pc and can`t concentrate what i should write.
It would be very kind of you all,if you could give me a tip.I must write her
today.But what?????
Please help !
Love is sooooooo fucking cruel.
Neil
> Heya!
> Just wanted to ask if you could give me some tips how to talk with this
> woman.
(snip)
>We exchanged some emails,but i stopped the contact
> `cause i wasn`t really interested.
(snip)
> The fact is,i know really nothing about her.
(snip)
> The bad thing is,i don`t think she knows who i am
So you've e-mailed each other before, but never met in person? Is that
correct? I'm just trying to make sure I understand the situation.
(snip)
The first thing I'll say is that you can't really be in love with her,
because you don't know her. You've got a crush on her, in other words
you're infatuated with her, and that's not really love, although it
could turn into love later.
> It would be very kind of you all,if you could give me a tip.I must write her
> today.But what?????
Given that you barely know her, if you're going to e-mail, just write
something very short, like:
"(Her first name here):
I saw you at (name of event here), but I didn't get a chance to talk
to you. (If she doesn't know what you look like, describe yourself
briefly, including something distinctive you wore).
Anyway, I wanted to contact you. I've been hoping we could meet for
coffee sometime and chat about (name something you know or think she'd
be interested in). How about we get together at (place and time here)?
Best wishes,
(Your first name here)"
However, getting mail (including e-mail) from a guy she doesn't know
well could be weird for her, especially given that you're asking for a
date. Better still, call her up and ask to have coffee, lunch, or
something rather mild with her. If she's willing to do that, then play
it by ear from there, chat her up, and find out what her interests
are.
At that time, or within a few days, ask her for a date. Pick some
obvious date plan, like dinner + movie, so she'll know you're asking
for a date.
E-mail's a lousy way to communicate, because real communication can
only occur in real time, when you can listen to each other's tone of
voice etc. and you both can talk and communicate more freely and
effectively. I strongly suggest you call her.
If you're too chicken to call her, then e-mail her, but your chances
may be better if you call her.
> Please help !
See above.
> Love is sooooooo fucking cruel.
You've just got a crush on her, and that's OK. Maybe later you two
will fall in love. I hope so. Best wishes to you both!
ALM
>Heya!
>Just wanted to ask if you could give me some tips how to talk with this
>woman.
>I feel really adviceless....till this time,i only got girlsfriends that were
>"bitches".I mean only those where i never was really in love.It was more
>natural to have one and fun was more important to me then beeing really
>lucky or feeling love.
>On Sylvester,i met Steffi.We exchanged some emails,but i stopped the contact
>`cause i wasn`t really interested.
Who is Sylvester?
>On last Friday,i met she again and my first look to her made me so curious.
>She got this smile,this wunderful smile.
So ... you two have met?
>Now,my friend decided that i must send her an email to check out if she`s
>intereted or just to know her better.
>The fact is,i know really nothing about her.I really don`t know what to
>write.
>I never had this problem before but now this kills me so badly.
>I nver felt this for another girl before,i think i´m going to fall in love
>(and to fall is the exact description for this)
>I know that she plays in a churchband music and she is different as my
>previous girlfriends.
>She is somehow a moralic typ and my friend said she got lots of boyfriends
>but it was never a "real"partnership.
>I even really don`t know how she looks like cause it wasn`t interesting to
>me.I was just fascinated.
Wait, I'm confused ... so how do you know about her smile?
>I`m afraid of fall in love with her ,cause she is the type of girl where i
>would fall fucking deeply in love.
Ah, the eloquent phrasing.
>The bad thing is,i don`t think she knows who i am and so....i sit in front
>of my pc and can`t concentrate what i should write.
I'm a little unclear on this whole thing going on. At times you make
it sound like you've met her, at others you indicate that you've never
met her face-to-face. Uhm, assuming you have met her before, and it
would be no great hardship to meet her again, I recommend against
using e-mail as a major form of communication. Maybe to break the
ice, set up a date or something, but you should rely more on real
interaction with her than writing.
>It would be very kind of you all,if you could give me a tip.I must write her
>today.But what?????
>Please help !
>
>Love is sooooooo fucking cruel.
>
>
>
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