What do women want??? I need a woman's advice!!

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Flashman00

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Apr 20, 1994, 6:50:02 PM4/20/94
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What do women really want? What do you women say??

Flashman

Shaggy

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Apr 22, 1994, 12:17:36 PM4/22/94
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>What do women really want? What do you women say??
>
>Flashman

This has to be the dullest question ever, the answer is that different women
want different things - ie there is no answer. It's about time people like
you stopped trying to get advice from women on how to get into romantic
situations with them - just trust your own instincts and do what YOU feel is
right.

SHAGGY

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the great unkown

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Apr 22, 1994, 3:00:04 PM4/22/94
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Flashman00 (flash...@aol.com) wrote:
: What do women really want? What do you women say??

: Flashman

If you don't know now then you will never know.

Karyn

Dazed and Confused

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Apr 22, 1994, 3:50:58 PM4/22/94
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In article <sg.687.7...@ssru.city.ac.uk>, s...@ssru.city.ac.uk (Shaggy) writes:
>>What do women really want? What do you women say??
>>
>>Flashman
>
> This has to be the dullest question ever, the answer is that different women
> want different things - ie there is no answer. It's about time people like
> you stopped trying to get advice from women on how to get into romantic
> situations with them - just trust your own instincts and do what YOU feel is
> right.
>
> SHAGGY

Survey Says! (buzzer : aaaaeeeeeeaa!!) I'm sorry, but the right answer is that
they want EVERYTHING!!

Alex : "right, okay now .. pick again"
me : "I'll take WOMEN WANT EVERYTHING for $1000 Alex"
Alex : "Women and money ... yes Rich?"
me : "What is, they want it all ?"
Alex : "Right, now pick again ..."
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(insert one of those sideways happy faces here)

>

Pietro Cappello

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Apr 22, 1994, 4:36:11 PM4/22/94
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the great unkown (kk...@dolphin.upenn.edu) wrote:

: : Flashman

: Karyn

Karyn,
I think that response is such a cop out. I've been in serious
relationships and I've dated. The question is entirely valid. For years
women have dictated how they would like their "perfect man" to behave, and I
honestly beleive that men have tried. The ones who've succeded though,
have been the men who remained sexist, kras ,and not as sensitive as we've
been brainwashed into believing was what a women wanted, not wholly but
mostly. Time and time again I see women who are in relationships with
jerks. We invariably ask that question over and over again; What do they
want? Flashman there is an intresting article in "Esquire" 5/94 that
from what I can see comes close to the matter of your question. The only
reason we will never know as Karyn states is because they don't know what
they want.
Pietro
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Roman Iwaschkin

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Apr 23, 1994, 4:10:33 PM4/23/94
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Trouble with asking women "what they want" is that in my experience most of
them have no clearer idea about this than I have about what I want.

Which is probably just as well, since what we want now will (particularly
if we're blessed/cursed with being the kind of person that keeps on
growing, changing and expanding our horizons) most likely not remain that
way for very long. Bit like planets orbiting around each other: while the
orbits overlap, there's a relationship, but sooner or later the orbits will
cease operlapping, and that's when there can't any longer be a viable
romantic involvement. Law of nature.

One reason why relationships can't ever be anything but transient for most
of us, despite what we'd like them to be. The problem is that neither
society nor us yet finds it easy to adjust to that inevitable reality. May
sound cynical, but everything else in our lives -- education, jobs, where
we live, our opinions and outlooks, even our clothes and just about
everything else -- is purely temporary, so why should we expect our love
lives to be any different?

-- Roman

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Loris Renggli

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Apr 24, 1994, 4:44:08 AM4/24/94
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In article <767131...@minley.demon.co.uk>, ro...@minley.demon.co.uk (Roman Iwaschkin) writes:
[...stuff deleted...]

|> One reason why relationships can't ever be anything but transient for most
|> of us, despite what we'd like them to be. The problem is that neither
|> society nor us yet finds it easy to adjust to that inevitable reality. May
|> sound cynical, but everything else in our lives -- education, jobs, where
|> we live, our opinions and outlooks, even our clothes and just about
|> everything else -- is purely temporary, so why should we expect our love
|> lives to be any different?

If you _want_ your love life to be different, then it _can_, and will,
be different.

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CatWoman

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Apr 24, 1994, 12:08:54 PM4/24/94
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ro...@minley.demon.co.uk writes:

] Trouble with asking women "what they want" is that in my experience most of


] them have no clearer idea about this than I have about what I want.

Amen and *preach* it!

(to quote drieux)

With the additional datapoint that the sum total of "what they
want" is as large as the sum total of the number of women
there are who want something. Meaning - the likelyhood of
any *two* women agreeing completely on "what they want" is
rather remote. And the more women you ask - the more answers
you'll get. Surprise, surprise - same thing is true of men!

] One reason why relationships can't ever be anything but transient for most


] of us, despite what we'd like them to be. The problem is that neither
] society nor us yet finds it easy to adjust to that inevitable reality. May
] sound cynical, but everything else in our lives -- education, jobs, where
] we live, our opinions and outlooks, even our clothes and just about
] everything else -- is purely temporary, so why should we expect our love
] lives to be any different?

Now here there's a couple of factors that can balance out
the inevitability of change, and account for the apparent
plethora of permanence there *is*.

One - two people who do have enough in common to start a
relationship may actually change in the same direction -
thus they don't change away from each other. Same can be
true of jobs, habitat, etc.

Two - people (humans as a species, that is), tend, it seems
as they get older, to prefer stability, security, some sense
of continuity in their lives, which can be a powerful force
of inertia against changing. While it's true that an
individual item of clothing may wear out - the general
style and type of clothing may stay the same (to continue
the analogies used).

CatWoman

Clare Jacqueline West

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Apr 25, 1994, 7:52:45 AM4/25/94
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flash...@aol.com (Flashman00) writes:

>What do women really want? What do you women say??

Women want different things. What I want is probably not what some woman
you know wants. Maybe women want people who realise this fact and don't
ask "what do women want?" as if there was some magical answer which would
allow their realtionship to succeed.

There is no single answer to that question. Instead you have to find out
each potential SO what it is that *they* want.

Sorry, there is no magic wand.

clare

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Cheshire Cat

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Apr 25, 1994, 12:39:00 PM4/25/94
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In article <Coru6...@wetware.com>, di...@wetware.com (CatWoman) writes:
|>
|> And the more women you ask - the more answers
|> you'll get. Surprise, surprise - same thing is true of men!
|>

Hmmmm... I thought once you had big hooters, dinner, and regular
sex covered, most men were happy! ;-) ;-)

Uh oh... I WAS KIDDING!! Really!! *aaaaaaiiiiiiiiiiieeeeeeeee*

<<CC scampers frantically for cover>> ;-)
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Jason in the Hood

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Apr 25, 1994, 1:28:09 PM4/25/94
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Dazed and Confused (not to be confused with our Goddess of Confusion) writes:
>Shaggy wrongly answers (or, correctly answers the wrong question :} ) :

>>>What do women really want? What do you women say??
>>>Flashman
>> This has to be the dullest question ever, the answer is that different women
>> want different things - ie there is no answer. It's about time people like
>> you stopped trying to get advice from women on how to get into romantic
>> situations with them
>Survey Says! (buzzer : aaaaeeeeeeaa!!) I'm sorry, but the right answer is that
>they want EVERYTHING!!

Asside from that. Actually, the poster was probably posting a thinly disguised
attempt to get women to write to him (or post about him so he could get address') so
he could write them back and hassle them for a date.

Jasonized - justcuttingthroughthebullthismorning:}
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Michael Aulfrey

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Apr 26, 1994, 12:36:33 AM4/26/94
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cyb...@panix.com (Pietro Cappello) writes:

>Time and time again I see women who are in relationships with
>jerks. We invariably ask that question over and over again; What do they
>want?

Very true. I'll probably drop myself into the frying pan for saying
this, but I think that one has to acknowledge that at least in some
cases, the reason some women are with some men is because the men know
how to play hard to get. It's a very useful talent to have, if you know
how to use it, because human nature usually dictates that we all want
something we can't have. I knew that much from my own experiences; the
thrill of the chase was a big factor in my own limited attempt at
romance. So the reason that Beauty is with the Beast when you see them
walking down the street together is probably because one or the other
knows how to play the tease...


> Flashman there is an intresting article in "Esquire" 5/94 that
>from what I can see comes close to the matter of your question. The only
>reason we will never know as Karyn states is because they don't know what
>they want.

That much is certain. I think the whole idea of asking what women want
is to put them up on a pedestal which we don't really need. I mean,
they're only human beings, for goodness' sake, just as confused, screwed
up or afraid as any of us mere males. That's not to say I don't advocate
opening doors for women; I think that's as much a mark of respect for
another human being as a principle of chivalry. If you must ask what a
woman wants, ask yourself what as a human being in her position you would
want. If love develops, so be it. If not, then common consideration is
enough.

In summary, I'd like to add something I read by Alan Dean Foster: "If
you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it is yours forever.
If it doesn't, then it never was yours at all."


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Rob Geraghty

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Apr 26, 1994, 2:16:30 AM4/26/94
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mike...@tartarus.uwa.edu.au (Michael Aulfrey) writes:
>another human being as a principle of chivalry. If you must ask what a
>woman wants, ask yourself what as a human being in her position you would
>want. If love develops, so be it. If not, then common consideration is
>enough.

The trouble is that women *don't* want what men expect, or there
wouldn't be a problem!

>In summary, I'd like to add something I read by Alan Dean Foster: "If
>you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it is yours forever.
>If it doesn't, then it never was yours at all."

Actually it was Richard Bach, but Foster is a great author too!

Rob
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orange polka dots

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Apr 26, 1994, 3:45:50 AM4/26/94
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: In summary, I'd like to add something I read by Alan Dean Foster: "If
: you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it is yours forever.
: If it doesn't, then it never was yours at all."

Or my personal favorite:

"If it doesn't, then hunt it down and kill it."


Adrian Graham DENT - Rodent

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Apr 25, 1994, 7:19:51 PM4/25/94
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In article <Cotq9...@jabba.ess.harris.com> smc...@dr3w.ess.harris.com (Cheshire Cat) writes:
>From: smc...@dr3w.ess.harris.com (Cheshire Cat)
>Subject: Re: What do women want??? I need a woman's advice!!
>Keywords: humor
>Date: Mon, 25 Apr 1994 16:39:00 GMT


>In article <Coru6...@wetware.com>, di...@wetware.com (CatWoman) writes:
>|>
>|> And the more women you ask - the more answers
>|> you'll get. Surprise, surprise - same thing is true of men!
>|>

>Hmmmm... I thought once you had big hooters, dinner, and regular
>sex covered, most men were happy! ;-) ;-)

>Uh oh... I WAS KIDDING!! Really!! *aaaaaaiiiiiiiiiiieeeeeeeee*

Here goescheshire cat expounding the womans point of view....and still wants
us to believe he's male....(sorry, just thought that CC's gender hadn't been
brought into question enough lately...I'm just in a stupid mood)

Kenderanne

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Apr 26, 1994, 11:12:58 PM4/26/94
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*laughs*

Ah, I haven't heard THAT one in a long while!

*happiness and much laughter and appreciation*


*hugs to all*

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Ross Mair

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Apr 27, 1994, 9:45:57 AM4/27/94
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smc...@dr3w.ess.harris.com (Cheshire Cat) speaks truthfully:

>In article <Coru6...@wetware.com>, di...@wetware.com (CatWoman) writes:
>|> And the more women you ask - the more answers
>|> you'll get. Surprise, surprise - same thing is true of men!

>Hmmmm... I thought once you had big hooters, dinner, and regular
>sex covered, most men were happy! ;-) ;-)

>Uh oh... I WAS KIDDING!! Really!! *aaaaaaiiiiiiiiiiieeeeeeeee*

Nope.... I'd go along with that!! ;-) ;-) ;-)

><<CC scampers frantically for cover>> ;-)

*Ross builds asbestos shed around CC to protect him from flames* :)

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They want to be loved, respected and that means they want their man to pay attention to them, talk to them,share their feelings. A lot of men think us girls are mind readers. We're not.
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