Where can I find a transgender woman to date?

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I answered a question similar to this one, but it was more about trans women in particular, so here we go again.


Meet transgender woman to date here - https://tsdates.com/go/g1431112-pmoc

A lot of people here are looking too much with the notion of dating a trans person. See, I get it, we are so amazing, but seeing this makes me a little worried. I'll tell you why.

Before you worry about looking, I think it is important to understand what you are actually seeing. Is this a small, soft, feminine boy? Thanks to our good friend testosterone, many trans men will not. If it's a big, broad woman, or a woman you can see being masculine ... well ... something like this can happen (certainly not all), but more often than not it's just It will be sad and sensitive for him. And God forbid you want to see the sexy experience of a sexy ladywoman as a big strong woman with "secret" ready for you just for you or your "card".

Yes. I really hope that is not the case. It's called stalking, and it's really ... really uncomfortable for trans people. (I don't speak for everyone here, certainly. Different people do.)

So my advice? Ask yourself what it is specifically that you want, and keep in mind that trans men are men, and trans women are women. They are diverse and personal in every way in their personality, preferences and body types. Many of them you may meet for some time or may not even know that they are not CIS. If that disappoints you… then maybe he is not the trans person you are after. This is a fantasy.


I think if you are involved in the LGBTQ community, then you are bound to come across them eventually. We are not as rare as some might think, but this is not to say that we are normal outside of certain areas as well.

However

First ask yourself why you want to meet someone.

Are you specifically looking for a transgender girlfriend or hook up? Then what you call a "chaser" is someone who makes trans women a fetish, and I promise you will not be well received.

Are you just curious? Then see my first point or find trans women online, but be careful. Different women have different limitations when it comes to answering questions, and some things you might think are harmless can be extremely uncomfortable for us. Just like anyone would respect you.

Do you want to know different people and their experiences? Then see my first point in particular.

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On Monday, February 17, 2020 at 10:58:27 AM UTC+5:30, anvipat...@gmail.com wrote:

Choose someone outside your social or work circle. Do not have a relationship of friends with benefits with one of the members of the group of friends that you have known since you were five years old, or it will lead to great discomfort when the relationship ends. Typical friends with benefit relationships only last a few months, so don't choose someone you know you'll have to see all the time.

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On Monday, February 17, 2020 at 10:58:27 AM UTC+5:30, anvipat...@gmail.com wrote:

Choose someone with experience. You should try to find someone you know who has had some connection experience, even better if you have heard that he or she is great in bed. Since that is what you will do, it is good to have the feeling that the person will give birth. It will also help if the person has had some casual adventures before, so they have experience in that department. If the person has only had a relationship and lasted seven years, it may not be their best option.

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On Monday, February 17, 2020 at 10:58:27 AM UTC+5:30, anvipat...@gmail.com wrote:

As a transgender woman, my relationship with online dating is complicated, to say the least.

With my accounts on OkCupid, Tinder, Hinge, Coffee Meets Bagel and ChristianMingle, I am subject to the same type of messages from Mr. Washboard-Abs-No-Face and unsolicited dick photos that unfortunately most women receive. But the search for Mr. Right as a transgender woman (I was born a man, but I identify myself and present as a woman) adds a whole new dimension to digital dating.

Since the transition in 2014, I have not reacted positively to the guys who attacked me in person because I have not mastered the art of telling them that we have "the same parts." For the past three years, Tinder has been my gateway to online dating as a transgender woman.

As a 22-year-old graduate who begins a career in fashion (and hopefully, someday, my own line of self-made clothing), I am attracted to boys who are fun and ambitious. There is no greater deviation than someone who does the least, except perhaps the body odor. In terms of appearance, I prefer taller boys. With 5'9 ″, I still like being able to admire my man, literally. So, every time I see 6'2 "or higher in a boy's profile, it's almost an automatic slide to the right.

Two women pose at a music festival, Janelle is on the right with a purple dress and bralet and a visor.
(Photo courtesy of Janelle Villapando)
As a trans woman in dating applications, I have always made sure that boys know that I am transgender. This avoids wasting each other's time. Many cases of trans women who were injured and sometimes even murdered when they revealed their status to transphobic men who found them attractive have also been documented, so being completely transparent is also a way of protecting me from potentially dangerous situations.

By clicking, sending messages and scrolling through the world of online dating, I quickly learned that there are at least three different types of men: those who fetishize trans women, those who are curious but cautious, and those who simply do not . read. Unfortunately, these tags do not appear in their profiles.

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On Monday, February 17, 2020 at 10:58:27 AM UTC+5:30, anvipat...@gmail.com wrote:

Robyn Chauvin was sure: it was a date. He had invited his partner to dinner. They were eating in a good restaurant. Then, he says, halfway, his dining roommate threw a bomb.

"She asked me in the middle of the meal," Well, what kind of woman would date you? "

The words stung.

"That hurts," admits Chauvin. The pain was more acute because this was her first foray out after she had made the complete transition.

At that time, Chauvin was a transgender woman in her 40s. The year was 2000 and the times were different. The world had not yet received Caitlyn Jenner or Laverne Cox. Today, Chauvin is 65 years old, and the courtship has not been simplified.

But frankly, dating was never exactly easy.

Years of pretending
Chauvin was raised in the south in an ardently religious family, it is not a soft place to land for a child struggling with gender. First remember to want to dress in women's clothing around age 4.

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“I come from a highly dysfunctional Catholic family. I have five children and I worked hard to pretend to be a man, "he says." It was a confusing issue for me all my life, as women attract me. "

Chauvin managed to largely hide his gender identity while growing up in New Orleans, he says, but there were missteps.

“A Halloween, probably 6 years old, I came up with this brilliant idea that I could be a witch and go out in costumes and go out. And I put on my mother's black slip and a witch hat and high heels and makeup and they yelled at me because it was a Catholic neighborhood. They didn't appreciate that at all. "

Teen dating was also complicated; Chauvin says she was never an expert at achieving "the masculine."

"They always considered me gay, and I was actually a little gay throughout the school," she says. "Even the dates were difficult, because the girls answered me like" I don't want to go out with you, you're gay. "

Robyn Chauvin ((Courtesy of Robyn Chauvin))
Robyn Chauvin ((Courtesy of Robyn Chauvin))
Love, marriage and an "eureka moment"
At first, romantic love may have seemed elusive, but around the age of 23, Chauvin, who had not yet dated as a transgender, met the woman he would marry.

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"We both went crazy in our youth and in the French Quarter when we met," says Chauvin. But in the late 1980s, the couple "stopped being wild" and returned to school.

While studying music therapy, Chauvin realized: "I was not ready to leave, but I decided to stop trying to pretend to be a man, which was a great decision."

That "eureka moment" arrived one afternoon at the music library, where Chauvin was a night librarian. A friend, a young woman who trained to be a Broadway interpreter, came in and commented on the "peach fluff" that splashed Chauvin's upper lip.

"She said," I wish I could grow a mustache like that. " Chauvin's response came out: "I said," I wish I couldn't. "

With those words, he says, "the part of myself that was trying to hide so much really surfaced."

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Hi my name is dustin I am a bi top in south saint paul I also have a friend and he is a sumisive bottom we are looking for tops that are not aggressive and tiny sumisive bottom phone.

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On Monday, February 17, 2020 at 10:58:27 AM UTC+5:30, anvipat...@gmail.com wrote:

Extramarital affairs are on the rise, but there is also a good amount of single people who are jumping into the married dating pool. In some cases, these people are looking to be a part of a threesome. Other times, they simply want a relationship with no commitments and there is no surer way to have no commitments than to date someone who is already married. These single people tend to be looking for sex exclusively rather than long term relationships and if you want to date someone who is single, then there are many perks to doing so although your promise of discretion is lessened somewhat since the two of you do not both have spouses.

But what about dating a married person? What are the benefits to having an extramarital affair when you’re not married?

1) Lack of commitment.
If you’re not looking for something serious, then this is the place for you. You’re almost guaranteed to find someone who isn’t looking for anything long term and you can call the shots in the relationship. If you want to meet once a week? We’re sure that your affair partner would be down for that. If you wanted to meet more regularly, they would probably be okay with that too, so long as they could fit it into their schedule. If you’re looking for casual dating, then look no further than the married dating pool.

2) People are more interested in you.
One thing that marriage does is it shuts people off from the rest of the world. It’s not something that is done entirely, but it does tend to happen and more than that, it is something which makes new people more interesting. If you’re single and someone new, they’ll be more interested in having an affair with you and also with taking you out prior to it. There are some who would balk at it, but for a lot of people who are having an affair the time spent outside of the house is almost as good as the sex.

3) You are not expected to save marriages.
There is a common misconception that when you go into an affair with someone who is having an extramarital affair that you have to stay as their affair partner (like a mistress). This isn’t true. While there are some people who enjoy this, there are plenty of people who don’t and if you’re not comfortable with that kind of arrangement then don’t feel bad about not going for it. Remember that an affair is infinitely customizable and often comes without the expectations or baggage that a normal relationship would. You call the shots and you get to decide how far this goes for you. If you want to be in something more long term, but still an affair then that’s up to you and your affair partner.

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On Monday, 17 February 2020 10:58:27 UTC+5:30, anvipat...@gmail.com wrote:

Actually looking for love. You guys can text me

[hardikys...@gmail.com]

On Monday, February 17, 2020 at 10:58:27 AM UTC+5:30, anvipat...@gmail.com wrote:

After a couple months, a few ads, and a number of responses, I've decided that Locanto's "Personals" section is nothing but a lot of phonies playing make-believe on their computers and phones, much like 7th grade boys writing letters to Penthouse.

If there are any real women or men on this site, who (1) aren't simply obnoxious, asinine, trashy fuck a hole in a donut in public for attention, (2) or pretenders fantasy playing, I have yet to see them.

Wotta joke!

[jiyanpa...@gmail.com]

On Monday, 17 February 2020 10:58:27 UTC+5:30, anvipat...@gmail.com wrote:

im single womn
looking for real guy.. anyone here?

[ap63...@gmail.com]

On Monday, 17 February 2020 10:58:27 UTC+5:30, anvipat...@gmail.com wrote:

Food to go
With this type of boy, I tend to go into education mode and talk about the normality of my handmade vulva. Their concerns generally include what their friends and family would say, how they would react to me, what it means for their sexuality and the difficulties in understanding the idea of ​​a sexual encounter with me. All these fears show that he is simply not the one for me. In this situation, I remind myself that I want someone who does not need to take time to think, but is willing to move forward based on our innate chemistry and attraction. This leads to man number three.

MORE: How fashion helped me discover who I am as a trans woman
The guy who accepts too much
Profile: This guy has a fetish for trans women, he prefers them to cis women (i.e., people who identify as the sex they were born with) for various reasons, or he has slept with one without knowing it or for a unique experience.

The encounter
I've been meeting a coworker. He is the bad boy that my mother definitely doesn't want me to go out. Even with tattoos everywhere, I've learned that he's tough on the outside but sensitive on the inside. After almost two months of playing shy, we finally went on a date. We decided to act as a couple at night, holding hands on the sidewalk and during dinner. During our night together, we had one of our deep conversations. He asked me about being trans, something I really wasn't sure if he had caught or not.

[jessicato...@gmail.com]

On Monday, 17 February 2020 10:58:27 UTC+5:30, anvipat...@gmail.com wrote:

Looking 4 a man who wants to spend some time between my legs; I love oral.
I'll bend over doggy style and you can Suck my clit and lick me from my ass hole to clit,
I'd even want to sit on your dick. Only Text me

[jamesmzr...@gmail.com]

On Monday, 17 February 2020 10:58:27 UTC+5:30, anvipat...@gmail.com wrote:

Sexual abuse that happens during consensual sex?
Hello! So, I recently though a topic that is not mentioned a lot. Which is when usually a woman is having consensual sex with a man, but during the sex the man forces her to do things she doesn't want.

Could that be considered rape? Are there cases where it's enjoyable for the women?

Anyone have any relevant experiences regarding this? Thank u

[devidwh...@gmail.com]

On Monday, 17 February 2020 10:58:27 UTC+5:30, anvipat...@gmail.com wrote:

My husband and I don’t have sex often. Is that abnormal?
I don’t really have anyone to talk to about this in person, so here I am. My husband (25m) and I (23f) have been married for about 1.5 years and together for about 3. But we have known each other for 6. He isn’t a super touchy, sexual person, but I somewhat am. I try not to let it bother me and most of the time it doesn’t. He doesn’t seem to have a high libido and has always been that way since I’ve known him.

I would be fine with having sex every day to every other day but that’s probably never going to happen for us. I hear my friends talk about how often they have sex with their husbands. Whereas, my husband and I usually have sex about once every 2 weeks. Maybe even sometimes longer. Is that abnormal? I don’t know what is expected. I grew up in a family where sex was taboo and not something you spoke about. I was fairly sheltered as a child until I left for college. My husband is my second sexual partner, so I lack in the “what to expect” department as both of my sexual partners have been very different experiences. Sex with my husband is so much more pleasurable and enjoyable. Just not often.

Has anyone had the same or similar situation? Were you able to increase the frequency of sex? How? I’ve brought this up to my husband a few times throughout our marriage, but he’s just so nonchalant about it all. I know he loves me (as I do him), and I know we don’t have to have physical/sexual experiences to know that. He is my best friend, and I feel so much comfort with him in my life. It just sucks because he is the only person I can gain sexual pleasure from (besides myself masturbating). It’s just so far and few between that I feel left out compared to my friends’ marital sex experiences.

[lindaw...@gmail.com]

On Monday, 17 February 2020 10:58:27 UTC+5:30, anvipat...@gmail.com wrote:

Help!
If you have a guy friend that you are overly nice to and you end up having a crush on him then you sleep with him and start getting clingy not even noticing and he pulls away, you confront him and he says he has mixed feelings but is still kind of talking to you. How do you back away and try to not seem so desperate and overly nice but not seem mean or uninterested?

[kiranp...@gmail.com]

On Monday, 17 February 2020 10:58:27 UTC+5:30, anvipat...@gmail.com wrote:

Can someone help me figure out what kind of aftercare I need?
I’m very new to my kinky sex life. I have a great partner who has introduced me to many things. He is aware of aftercare (he’s the one who told me about it) and he always pulls me close to him for cuddling after, but lately I have just been breaking down crying after sex while we are cuddling. I really enjoy the sex and our relationship is great, very loving. But the cuddles just don’t feel like all I need. I am not sure what I need though because this is all pretty new to me. I was hoping I could get some help figuring it out, so I can approach this with him with a solution in mind, and not put pressure on him to figure it out for me.

I’ve read about aftercare and suggestions like getting a snack or watching a movie and they aren’t appealing to me. I really want to feel deeply cared for and loved after, and still desired. I am a really insecure person and have body image issues which are easy to let go of during the sex itself, but then afterwards I get overwhelmed by what I just did and how vulnerable I was. I feel like if I ask for compliments or praise or whatever then it’s not genuinely coming from him and won’t “work” - which is a really unfair position to put him in. Maybe there’s a way I can phrase it correctly?

Any help would be really appreciated. I want to go back to our amazing sex life where I’m not having an emotional breakdown after. It’s exhausting for both of us, I think.

[wj4...@gmail.com]

On Monday, February 17, 2020 at 10:58:27 AM UTC+5:30, anvipat...@gmail.com wrote:

I have orgasms every time I have sex dreams.
Like mind blowing orgasm "holy shit I hope I didn't scream" while waking up. Anyone like this or am i just too sex hungry now?

Serious question. I'm a female in my late 20s.

[lindaq...@gmail.com]

On Monday, 17 February 2020 10:58:27 UTC+5:30, anvipat...@gmail.com wrote:

Need help with masturbation (F15)
So... this is awkward (throwaway for a reason)

I’m a F15 virgin who doesn’t really understand how to masturbate. I was always told off or hit by my parents whenever I even tried to. Even the slightest thought of putting something into my vagina makes me cry because my parents and schoolmates always push this thing about how no one will never love me and I shouldn’t do shit like that.

I’ve been trying tampons but they hurt like a mother fucker. I hate tampons with a passion because even if I apply it right, they’re just annoying and hard to pull off. Plus, due to my diet of just not eating, they last a day. Soo, really no point to them for me. My parents wouldn’t let me see a doctor to see what’s wrong with my vagina but let’s just assume I have a small, somewhat tight hole.

Recently, I have been getting somewhat horny and I thought about masturbating. I would follow porn but knowing how unrealistic it is, I prefer not to. I feel like a idiot and (ik this sounds weird) but I really want to try. I recently have been trying rubbing my clit and HOLY CRAP IT FEELS GREAT.

I want to try fingering myself but I’m kinda scared to. Is anything wrong with me about trying to finger but scared to? Also, how can I try to finger myself since I know that this will be important to me?

(Before you guys recommend toys, I will get found out and punished, my parents are muslims, they s e e a l l)

[sumd...@gmail.com]

On Monday, 17 February 2020 10:58:27 UTC+5:30, anvipat...@gmail.com wrote:

I (26M) have been dating a girl (24F) who's trans and the talk about sex revealed it's a bit "complicated". Need advice please?
Ok so last year I met an amazing girl that I really like. She's stunning, great body, hilarious and we get in so well. Initially we were just friends but we have grown to like each other a lot. She revealed early on she's Trans and admittedly it didn't bother me at all. I assumed she'd had surgery, or if not would one day so in my eyes that wasn't a big deal.

We've been on half a dozen dates, kissed, and we both talked about taking it to the next stage and hooking up soon. She said before we do she needed to be honest with me about herself. She said she's been on hormones for 4 years, but she's never had bottom surgery so still has her penis - and she doesn't plan on it any time soon.

I thought that wasn't a big deal, I mean we could still have sex - she's a woman as far as I see, I've done anal with exes before. But then she said she's a "top" and doesn't bottom. Now admittedly, I'd never heard of any of that before so asked her to explain which she did - basically she is the one who fucks, doesn't receive anal but gives it. Basically is the "pitcher" not the "catcher." I was like Is that possible - I didn't think that was possible for girls on hormones. She said it definitely is, she still gives herself erections and can have sex. Her dick definitely works.

[hardikpa...@gmail.com]

On Monday, February 17, 2020 at 10:58:27 AM UTC+5:30, anvipat...@gmail.com wrote:

Matchmaking dates back to as early as 1600 and single people's dating and relationship needs since then haven't changed much hundreds of years later. In the library of Cupid, we asked fellow professional cupids about their process, their most memorable matchmaking moments, and why matchmakers still matter. They also serve some really practical advice for those who are seeking eternal romantic bliss.

Last week, we featured Michele Fields.

Image courtesy of Julie Ferman20,000 clients. 1,100 marriages. 23 years. If these numbers are not enough, allow us to explain: Julie Ferman Associates have 20,000 Southern California clients, is responsible for 1,100 marriages, and has 23 years of matchmaking experience. This week we interview its founder, Los Angeles-based personal matchmaker and dating coach Julie Ferman.

Matchmaking seems like one of the most exciting professions there is. Have you always seen yourself as a professional cupid? What made you decide to become one?

I’ve always been obsessed with romance, dating and love. My earliest memory is sitting at the end of my driveway, on my little blue tricycle, all dolled up, waiting for…. The Prince. I found the search for my real prince not so easy, so I enlisted help. I joined the local video dating service in 1990 in St. Louis, my home town. It was a fun adventure, and as fate would have it I ended up marrying the guy who sold me that membership, the owner of the agency. I asked him out initially and the engagement was what he calls “a conversation that got out of control”.

Who are the best candidates for a matchmaking service? Why do you think certain people turn to matchmaking to find a partner?

The matchmaking clients we’ve been most successful with are those who are thoroughly desirable – nice looking, presentable, accomplished, but also open-minded and realistic, with a sense of humor and a joie de vivre. In fact, the people who are most likely to “do well” in dating, to begin with.

Is there a specific trait that prevents someone from being successfully paired? Do you have some requirements for your clients?

Whenever someone is overly picky or fussy, hypercritical by nature, tending to see what’s wrong versus what’s right or lovely in another person – this is usually a recipe for failure with matchmaking. This type of person’s relationships often fail too, as who wants to be picked apart every day? I ask my coaching and matchmaking clients to practice noticing what’s nice and lovely in other people and in circumstances in general. Being positive and open is something we can indeed learn.

For you, what type of man/woman is the hardest to match?

A woman who’s hypercritical or overly focused on superficial, less than critical elements, and who vetoes the very men who are indeed interested in her – the men she actually has “a shot at” – this is the type of woman I tend to avoid taking on as a matchmaking client, as her criteria is often not in line with reality. A man who shoots out of his league – targeting women who are typically not interested or attracted, or a man who insists on dating women who are more than 10 years his junior. Both are too tough a search and usually end up with disappointment. I don’t like to set my client up (or myself up) for disappointment, so I’m very selective and careful about who I invite to become a matchmaking client.

Julie Ferman with fellow dating coach Marni Battista (Image courtesy of Julie Ferman)

In what ways is professional matchmaking more effective than online dating?

I am very often able to get my Client out on Date Number One, Two and Three with the type of person who would likely “veto” him/her online or at a party. I’m able to “pitch” the client with my hearty recommendation. Great people “miss” each other all the time out there in the world. Matchmakers are here to make sure that doesn’t happen.

How have dating apps such as Tinder changed the matchmaking industry?

Occasionally I’ll hear of a relationship that started on Tinder, but mostly I’d say the applications have HURT dating, as it leads people to judge superficially, quickly, to dismiss lots and lots of people who might actually be a lovely fit, if looked at more closely. It furthers the tendency to objectify and categorize quickly based on looks. On the other hand, it might give some people who tend to shoot out of their league a dose of reality.

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On Monday, 17 February 2020 10:58:27 UTC+5:30, anvipat...@gmail.com wrote:

Life is hard....real life is hard, fantasy life is hard. But, sometimes, every so often, you get lucky. I am so very lucky to have the partner I have in this weird, bananas lifestyle. His support, his cheerleading, his love...it’s just more than I ever thought this could be when we first connected 2 years ago. The NRE fades, and I’ve learned that’s ok. What we have instead is a relationship full of the type of love that used to make me roll my eyes.

Sometimes, success stories are nice to see, and we just might be one. We met on this sub and continue on our own crazy path, even though it might not be a usual one.

I love you, babe, all the way to the moon.

[shailesh...@gmail.com]

On Monday, 17 February 2020 10:58:27 UTC+5:30, anvipat...@gmail.com wrote:

Where can I find a transgender woman to date?

Nashville Name Change (My Experience)
I was really nervous about the name change process and since it varies so much by county, I couldn't find much information. Keep in mind that I'm writing this in early 2020, if you're from the future reading this, things may have changed. This is a play-by-play of the whole experience because reading this would have helped calm my nerves. It's really not as scary as you think. I'm not a lawyer or anything so don't take this as legal advice. I'm just sharing my experience from one overly-nervous person to another. I'm writing about the steps as they happen so this is going to sit in my drafts for a bit. I might post about my experience changing all my documents over if I can't find other posts. I know this post only applies to a few people but I'd like to share my experience in case it can help.

Filing:

I went to the courthouse around 3pm on a Thursday and it wasn't very busy. Traffic was pretty good and there is a parking garage right next to the courthouse. I was in the wrong lane because I put in the courthouse address not the parking garage so I had to turn around but (John Mulaney voice) it's a grid system!

From the parking garage, you go up the stairs (or elevator but I was on the first level so I walked) which leads to the front of the courthouse.

You have to go through a metal detector to get in the building. The security guards were really friendly and asked if I knew where to go. I didn't so they told me. It's not tsa level security, just take things out of your pockets and walk through. They scan your items in the bin and give them back on the other side. They have a wand in case you set off the metal detector but I didn't set it off.

Then I went up to the third floor. The filing room is to the right. I went to the wrong place at first but the woman was really friendly and told me where to go.

I went into the filing room and the woman at the first desk greeted me. She looked over my form quickly and sent me to another woman. That woman took my form and made copies of my documents. I had originals and copies of my birth certificate, social security card, and license. She took the copy of my birth certificate and made her own copies of my license and ss card. My license counted as proof of residency in Davidson county so I didn't need the proof I had brought. If you don't have your license, you can use your passport as ID and a paystub or lease as proof of residency. I signed my form in front of her because you need someone there to be a witness.

The woman copied things, stamped things, and stuff like that. We talked while she did it. She was really nice. We talked about the city (we're both originally from somewhere else) and the traffic and all the people that come in for name changes. Real ID is new so there are apparently a lot of elderly people coming in to change their names because it turns out to be spelled differently on their birth certificate than how they've spelled it on everything else. I think that's pretty funny that they're finding out that they've been spelling their name wrong. But because of that, there are a lot of people filing for name changes so it might be a month or two before my hearing. They only do 10 people at a time.

I want to put this in here because it's something I was worried about. Keep in mind that as of filing, I am 7 months on T and don't really look like a 20-something man. She did not bat an eye at the fact that I'm changing from a very feminine name to a very masculine name. The only thing remotely similar was she said I look so young and then chuckled about how I'll be glad I look young when I'm her age. She was so friendly and never made me uncomfortable or said anything about me being trans. Under "reason for name change" I wrote "gender transition" and she didn't bat an eye. Nashville is a beautiful little blue dot in a red state.

Then she made a copy of my form for me to keep. It has my case number in case I need to call for more information. She said that I would get a call in the next few weeks to schedule my hearing. If I need a different date, I can ask for one when they call.

Then I took my copy of the form and went to another desk to pay. It was $159.50 and I paid in cash. I think they accept cashiers checks but I'm not sure. They don't accept personal checks.

Everyone that I met today was really friendly. The security guards were really helpful. The clerks (is that what they're called?) were nice and explained everything. Parking was $8 for the 45ish minutes I was there. You could probably find street parking if you want but I'm not a city guy so I just park in parking garages whenever I can. As long as my car is there when I come back for it, I really don't care how much parking is. lol

Scheduling my hearing:

They called to schedule my hearing at 9:30 on Friday, a week and a day after I filed. They started by saying who they were and asking for me by my deadname. Then they told me the date and asked if that would work. They told me that the courtroom is on the 4th floor and they would email me with all the details. My hearing is at 9:45 but I need to get there before 9:30 to sign some papers. I don't need to bring anything because they have everything they need from when I filed. My hearing is set for the beginning of March, almost a month after I filed.

A few days later, I got an email with a document attached that had the information about where to go and what time.

A few days after I got the email, I got a copy of the same document in the mail. It came addressed to my deadname and had a return address stating it's from the Chancery Court. If you're not out, you might want to be careful and watch the mail until you get it. Legally, they can't send anything to my actual name because he doesn't exist in the eyes of the court (yet).

Hearing:

I arrived at 9am and sat in the hall for a few minutes so I could calm down. The doors to the courtroom were open so after I saw someone else go in, I went in too. We sat and waited until 9:30 (when the email said to be there) and a woman came in and started checking paperwork.

I showed her my copy of the filed petition and then she had me double-check the spelling of both my old name and my new name. Then I signed with my old name.

A few minutes later, she called me up and we went into the area where the judge's chambers are (basically an office area). Then I sat in that hall for a few minutes and the judge came and got me.

The room looked like a conference room. I sat across from the judge and a third woman. I'm not sure the third woman's title, probably a clerk or something, I'm going to keep calling her the third woman.

The third woman swore me in (raise your right hand, swear to tell the truth, whole truth, nothing but the truth. Like on TV). Then the judge went over what I wrote on the petition. She asked if [dead name] was who I am legally, is that my correct date of birth, I was born in [city], I want to change my name to [new name], I live at [my address]. Then she asked why. I panicked a little. I ended up saying "I'm transgender and [name] fits me better". She said ok and we moved on. We looked at my documents I submitted with the petition. She asked if that was a copy of my social security card, I said yes. She asked if that was a copy of my license, I said yes. She asked if that was a copy of my birth certificate, I said yes.

(Here's where I sound like a moron, brace yourself) Then she asked if I filed the petition "in good faith".

*record scratch* *dumbass mode activated*

I looked at her for a second and thought about it. What could that mean? Well there's the word "good" I filed the petition for good reasons. Then "faith" faith is a good thing. Like belief. So I said yes. (In my defense, my hearing sucks. When I'm nervous it's worse. I often hear words wrong so when I hear uncommon phrases, I assume I heard wrong. It takes a minute to filter through. And I'm a moron so that doesn't help lmao)

Then, I don't know if it's because I hesitated or if that's her next question, she asked if I filed the petition for fraudulent purposes. I said no.

Then she said okay and signed my form. Now my name is changed!

We went into the hall and waited for the first woman. While we waited, we talked. The judge was really nice. Then the first woman came back and the judge wished me good luck.

The first woman and I walked down to the third floor where the filing room is. She gave the paperwork to a woman at a desk and I waited in a chair. Then the woman at the desk called me (by my new name!) and gave me my certified copies. I ended up getting 3. Two copies are included in the price and additional copies are $5.50 each. I got an extra because I figured for $5 I'd rather not need it than have to go back downtown, pay for parking, and get another.

I paid for the extra copy and left.

I ended up paying $12 for parking. I was there for about 2 hours.



I wore a suit. I was the only one dressed up really. One woman was there in jeans. Some of the guys wore polos or other button-downs. But hey, I never got misgendered. I'd rather be overdressed than underdressed. If you're changing your name, just wear something nice. A polo and khakis or something would be fine, you don't have to wear a suit. But it felt good to lol.



It was a little scary but it went well. Don't worry about it too much. It's a few semi-awkward moments to get your name right for the rest of your life.

[liyanw...@gmail.com]

On Monday, February 17, 2020 at 10:58:27 AM UTC+5:30, anvipat...@gmail.com wrote:

Reasons Why (trigger warning: rape, self harm, sexual assault)
Chronic pain from TMJ (I can’t even eat, eat mushy or liquid foods), can’t talk or sing much anymore, just lay in bed and sleep to escape pain

Chronic sinus infections (I can’t breathe, always feel like I’m about to sneeze, eyes swollen shut half the day)

I try to be a kind person the best I can. I’ve never yelled at a stranger or friend or boyfriend. I’ve never cheated. I’m not clingy. I support everyone with everything they do, and I give people hundreds of chances to change. I make food for people. If someone has a problem, even a random person who hasn’t been the nicest, I will talk to them and try to give them solutions. I try to put out good karma into this world. I know I won’t be here much longer, so might as well make a positive impact. I try to not be stepped on either though.

Chronic inflammation and skin conditions (acne, eczema, every pore on my leg is purple and inflamed, eyelids are always inflamed and crusty and often swollen completely shut, family thinks I exaggerate these symptoms and that I just naturally look swollen and red or whatever)

Zero friends. Not exaggerating. Not one friend. Never had a close friend before. I’ve had depression ever since I’m 10. I text some people occasionally but no one I’m close to who I can share my feelings or hang out with.

Was raped. No one acknowledged, and when they did realize, told me to be more picky with my sexual partners. I couldn’t have been more picky. I was passed out.

Not in school (even though I had a 4.2 GPA and 1550 SAT). Was homeschooled 10-12th grade high school. Went to liberal arts college in another state has manic/psychotic episodes had to go back home. Started community college but parents pulled me out during my depressive episode.

No trust in men. I can never have a normal relationship. Besides being raped, I had men bombard me with videos of porn stars and detail why I wasn’t as hot as them, inspect me for flaws, take advantage of my past trauma as part of their kink, lie to me about being married, tell me that the only reason they like me is because I’m psycho or dumb, etc. I shouldn’t have been dating during this bad time. During my Klonopin withdrawal period, I had a panic attack and a guy just drove away.

OCD thoughts nonstop. I’m scared of even thinking certain thoughts. I’m convinced certain thoughts or not having certainty thoughts will jinx my future. I’m scared I’m a sexual deviant (even though I have no libido and am a straight vanilla female with only 2 sexual partners ever 3 including rape). I’m convinced I’m becoming a hermaphrodite, or that I’m actually transgender. Weird thoughts.

Eating disorder. Scared of being fat, also scared of being skinny. I just want to look ill. I don’t want to look like a girl that men fetishize. Look small and thin and pedophiles will want to rape me. Look curvy and I’ll be objectified. I can’t stop bingeing and purging. I was underweight then a guy was checking me out now I want to become fat.

Mom harassed me for my nude photos. She imitated how I took the photos, this is what drove me to attempt suicide. She showed them to my dad and sister and now everyone thinks I’m a slut and my sister tells my cousin about how I sleep with many men on the first date.

Blatant preferential treatment for my sister. She gets her laptop fixed, I don’t. She gets haircuts, I don’t. While I was getting a seizure from Klonopin withdrawals, my mom was shopping for a custom coat for my sister for hours and when I told my mom what happened she said something like “oh that’s not nice.”

Hundreds of people know my diagnosis and think I’m crazy. My sister had a fundraiser for mental illness to help her get into a good college and to make it more inspirational she shared my health information with many people who now treat me weird.

Everyone outside our family like extended family and family friends also are super patronizing and treat me as this person you want to be cordial with but also not get close to and are super patronizing

I need someone to talk to so badly. I’ve felt this way for so so so long. No one cares. I feel invisible. I swear I can tell aloud that I want to kill my self and no one would care. I wish someone could ask me if I’m ok. I’ve asked other people so many times if they’re ok can’t remember the last time I’ve been asked that. I’m so selfish I hate it

[jiyas...@gmail.com]

On Monday, 17 February 2020 10:58:27 UTC+5:30, anvipat...@gmail.com wrote:

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On Monday, February 17, 2020 at 10:58:27 AM UTC+5:30, anvipat...@gmail.com wrote:

I want a man who will love me for who I am.... I mean I want to be in a long time relationship and not just flirting

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On Monday, 17 February 2020 10:58:27 UTC+5:30, anvipat...@gmail.com wrote:
> I answered a question similar to this one, but it was more about trans women in particular, so here we go again.
>
>
> Meet transgender woman to date here - https://tsdates.com/go/g1431112-pmoc
>
> A lot of people here are looking too much with the notion of dating a trans person. See, I get it, we are so amazing, but seeing this makes me a little worried. I'll tell you why.
>
> Before you worry about looking, I think it is important to understand what you are actually seeing. Is this a small, soft, feminine boy? Thanks to our good friend testosterone, many trans men will not. If it's a big, broad woman, or a woman you can see being masculine ... well ... something like this can happen (certainly not all), but more often than not it's just It will be sad and sensitive for him. And God forbid you want to see the sexy experience of a sexy ladywoman as a big strong woman with "secret" ready for you just for you or your "card".
>
> Yes. I really hope that is not the case. It's called stalking, and it's really ... really uncomfortable for trans people. (I don't speak for everyone here, certainly. Different people do.)
>
> So my advice? Ask yourself what it is specifically that you want, and keep in mind that trans men are men, and trans women are women. They are diverse and personal in every way in their personality, preferences and body types. Many of them you may meet for some time or may not even know that they are not CIS. If that disappoints you… then maybe he is not the trans person you are after. This is a fantasy.
>
>
> I think if you are involved in the LGBTQ community, then you are bound to come across them eventually. We are not as rare as some might think, but this is not to say that we are normal outside of certain areas as well.
>
> However
>
> First ask yourself why you want to meet someone.
>
> Are you specifically looking for a transgender girlfriend or hook up? Then what you call a "chaser" is someone who makes trans women a fetish, and I promise you will not be well received.
>
> Are you just curious? Then see my first point or find trans women online, but be careful. Different women have different limitations when it comes to answering questions, and some things you might think are harmless can be extremely uncomfortable for us. Just like anyone would respect you.
>
> Do you want to know different people and their experiences? Then see my first point in particular.

Hi how are u sexxy i am looking for sexx

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Although I am attracted to women, I mostly want this for him. When I brought it up, he told me he doesn’t really think about anyone that way but me, but again, he thinks it’s for me and i’m not sure if his reaction would be different if I told him the truth.

[ekupat...@gmail.com]

On Monday, 17 February 2020 10:58:27 UTC+5:30, anvipat...@gmail.com wrote:
> I answered a question similar to this one, but it was more about trans women in particular, so here we go again.
>
>
> Meet transgender woman to date here - https://tsdates.com/go/g1431112-pmoc
>
> A lot of people here are looking too much with the notion of dating a trans person. See, I get it, we are so amazing, but seeing this makes me a little worried. I'll tell you why.
>
> Before you worry about looking, I think it is important to understand what you are actually seeing. Is this a small, soft, feminine boy? Thanks to our good friend testosterone, many trans men will not. If it's a big, broad woman, or a woman you can see being masculine ... well ... something like this can happen (certainly not all), but more often than not it's just It will be sad and sensitive for him. And God forbid you want to see the sexy experience of a sexy ladywoman as a big strong woman with "secret" ready for you just for you or your "card".
>
> Yes. I really hope that is not the case. It's called stalking, and it's really ... really uncomfortable for trans people. (I don't speak for everyone here, certainly. Different people do.)
>
> So my advice? Ask yourself what it is specifically that you want, and keep in mind that trans men are men, and trans women are women. They are diverse and personal in every way in their personality, preferences and body types. Many of them you may meet for some time or may not even know that they are not CIS. If that disappoints you… then maybe he is not the trans person you are after. This is a fantasy.
>
>
> I think if you are involved in the LGBTQ community, then you are bound to come across them eventually. We are not as rare as some might think, but this is not to say that we are normal outside of certain areas as well.
>
> However
>
> First ask yourself why you want to meet someone.
>
> Are you specifically looking for a transgender girlfriend or hook up? Then what you call a "chaser" is someone who makes trans women a fetish, and I promise you will not be well received.
>
> Are you just curious? Then see my first point or find trans women online, but be careful. Different women have different limitations when it comes to answering questions, and some things you might think are harmless can be extremely uncomfortable for us. Just like anyone would respect you.
>
> Do you want to know different people and their experiences? Then see my first point in particular.

sex

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What about you? Is getting undressed and enjoying each other in your underwear part of the fun? Or do you just want your partner naked from the start?