Taking back the wall
Mintee
on our living room wall, done by DH's mother.
It isn't truly ugly, but is a seascape that I've
never liked. Very bland. She didn't want to do
it at all, & made that very plain to DH at the time.
He supplied the materials & they had several arguments
about it.
She appeared to go out of her way to make the painting
uninteresting, & complained the entire time she painted it.
He had begged her for years to paint him a picture,
she never would. (She was very talented as a painter,
but never would give her children any of her paintings.)
She never sold any, though she certainly had real
talent & could have easily done so. She had contacts
in the art world where she lived.
Everytime I look at it I am reminded of her; we had
a terrible relationship. The painting has only negative
memories for me.
DH has insisted it had to be hung there.
I've made an "executive decision" to take it down,
wrap it carefully in a blanket, & stow it in a closet
where it will be safe (for his sake). In its place,
I plan to hang a beautiful portrait of our children,
done by an equally talented DF who loves us.
I will be curious to see DH's reaction when he sees
the change. I am willing to compromise if it means
a lot to him, but much prefer the other painting.
His dad is also a talented painter (is on a painting
trip to Italy currently) & I would be happy to have
a painting done by him. He's a gem.
Mintee, enjoying the portrait sitting on the fireplace mantle
rich
(Mintee) wrote:
>For many years, we've had a rather "blah" painting
>on our living room wall, done by DH's mother.
>It isn't truly ugly, but is a seascape that I've
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>DH has insisted it had to be hung there.
>I've made an "executive decision" to take it down,
>wrap it carefully in a blanket, & stow it in a closet
>where it will be safe (for his sake). In its place,
>I plan to hang a beautiful portrait of our children,
>done by an equally talented DF who loves us.
>
>I will be curious to see DH's reaction when he sees
>the change. I am willing to compromise if it means
>a lot to him, but much prefer the other painting.
I hope he understands and runs with your decision. I had to
do similar to rid us of a very ugly clock that DB's mum gave
him. I was less willing than you to put up with it, and I
insisted that it could not reside in a living room and had
him keep it in the spare bedroom for 10 years until I
persuaded him to part with it.
If your DH insists that the picture must be displayed, maybe
he will accept it in a room that you don't go in very often,
particularly since the picture brings back such unpleasant
memories for you
Rich
>His dad is also a talented painter (is on a painting
>trip to Italy currently) & I would be happy to have
>a painting done by him. He's a gem.
>
>Mintee, enjoying the portrait sitting on the fireplace mantle
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Linda M. Young
wrote:
> I will be curious to see DH's reaction when he sees
> the change.
I hope he's not too disturbed. I can't figure out why he would want a
picture his mom painted under duress on the wall.
Linda
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Mintee
> wrote:
>
> > I will be curious to see DH's reaction when he sees
> > the change.
>
> I hope he's not too disturbed. I can't figure out why he would want a
> picture his mom painted under duress on the wall.
>
> Linda
I think because it's the only one she painted
that she would let him have. He valued her
talent a lot more than she did.
Mintee
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"Mintee" <trusty...@hotmail.com> wrote in message
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I have a huge box of paintings my mother's mother painted after she moved to
assisted living. She took it up because she couldn't make friends with
anyone. My Dad had them shipped here (Mom wasn't well enough to make the
funeral--Dad went and did the funeral and wound up her business). As you
know, Mom's mother was abusive--so none of those paintings have ever been on
our walls--Mom wouldn't allow it. I don't know what to do with them. She was
my grandmother, after all--I haven't even had a chance to get a good look at
them. They're just in a big box in a closet--many are matted and framed.
Just thought I'd share my own painting dilemma.
Good for you for dealing with yours, Mintee.
Brenda
Barbara Mawdsley
Put one up on e-bay and see what happens. Otherwise, donate to the
Goodwill or Salvation Army or similar. No point in keeping them Let
someone else enjoy them.
Barbara in CT (giving you permission to toss them)
Linda M. Young
wrote:
> I think because it's the only one she painted
> that she would let him have. He valued her
> talent a lot more than she did.
Well, I guess I can't understand a mom who was a painter and who
wouldn't want to paint a nice picture for one of her children if
asked, either. But then you have mentioned that she was
rather...ahem...contentious. <wry grin>
Mintee
(Mintee)> wrote:
>
> > I think because it's the only one she painted
> > that she would let him have. He valued her
> > talent a lot more than she did.
>
> Well, I guess I can't understand a mom who was a painter and who
> wouldn't want to paint a nice picture for one of her children if
> asked, either. But then you have mentioned that she was
> rather...ahem...contentious. <wry grin>
>
> Linda
You are tactful. <equally wry grin>
I am *still* very relieved to have her gone,
& it has now been 3 1/2 years.
She was never anything to me but slow torture,
which began at our first meeting & never stopped
until her death. She was sick & twisted,
I experienced that first-hand for many years.
I keep working to eliminate items from our
home that remind me of her. Hence the removal
of the bland painting, provided DH will agree.
If I had the talent & skill to create beautiful art
& my children appreciated that & wanted a painting,
I'd be more than happy to supply it.
Mintee
Mintee
(Mintee)> wrote:
>
> > I think because it's the only one she painted
> > that she would let him have. He valued her
> > talent a lot more than she did.
>
> Well, I guess I can't understand a mom who was a painter and who
> wouldn't want to paint a nice picture for one of her children if
> asked, either. But then you have mentioned that she was
> rather...ahem...contentious. <wry grin>
>
> Linda
You are tactful. <equally wry grin>