Sorry will never be enough
Heather
really,
really, really!!
> I've known you a long time, Joe. I know you can do this...
> {{{hugs}}}
I can certainly do *that*... {{{you}}}
--
Covenant
A Man With Far Too Much Time On His Hands
I don't matter then? Let's face it I never did.
Some interesting reads and I don't mean the complaints about Pizza
place nor some lovely photos.
What a surprise the sun doesn't shine from someone's .....a good cream
might help.
Yes some interesting reads from 2003 to 2004.Hypocrite.
Lilith Bee
"Heather" <Morwe...@hotmail.com> wrote
>
>
> I don't matter then? Let's face it I never did.
>
Heather, I'm SO sorry you're hurting.
It took every ounce of will power I have to NOT ask,
"sorry for *what* Joe?"
FWIW, I don't believe Joe is sincere in his apology. But then again, he is
nothing to me, or in my life.
I *have* lost all respect for him. I'm, truthfully, sort of curious as to
why he even bothered to apologize to me. <shrugs>
Perhaps he knows he can never apologize _enough_ to you?
LB~
Heather
> Heather, I'm SO sorry you're hurting.
> It took every ounce of will power I have to NOT ask,
> "sorry for *what* Joe?"
>
> FWIW, I don't believe Joe is sincere in his apology. But then again, he is
> nothing to me, or in my life.
> I *have* lost all respect for him. I'm, truthfully, sort of curious as to
> why he even bothered to apologize to me. <shrugs>
> Perhaps he knows he can never apologize _enough_ to you?
>
> LB~
Hi Lilith
My theory-
"alt.something" is more important than real interactions in the outside
world.
So he's got to build bridges here.
Oh he's said the words "I'm sorry" but without sincerity. Why be sorry
for something that he still doesn't believe was his fault?
He's not falling over himself to make it up to me anyway. Not in a
conventional sense. He was addressing me in Elfish and putting "x"s at
the end of text messages. ????????????
Yeah lke that helps. It's alright I'll just fall in line.
Hey it doesn't matter as long as he gets his own way, I'm just his
daughter's mother, just someone he wanted to marry, just someone who's
been in his life in some shape or form for 21 years in total,16 of
those in this strange relationship that's here for the world to read.
I'll never forgive him. Never. He probably knows that, well he does
now.
Sorry means nothing to me.
Lilith Bee
"Heather" <Morwe...@hotmail.com> wrote
> I'll never forgive him. Never. He probably knows that, well he does
> now.
>
> Sorry means nothing to me.
Sweetheart, while I know this may seem untrue right _now_, and possibly the
last thing you want to hear, you need to forgive him eventually. And
yourself. Oh, I know right _now_ you're hurt and angry. You'll have to get
through those first. When you realize how *unhealthy* he is for you, you
will begin to emotionally detach. Then, when he can no longer hurt you, it
will be easier to forgive him. The baggage of grudges, past hurts and
festering pain are heavy and weigh us down. Forgiveness gives us the
opportunity to toss that baggage away for good. You'll walk taller, happier
& prouder without the baggage named Joe on your back.
I _know_ how extremely hard this is when you have children. But when you let
the father be totally responsible for his actions, the children see and
learn for themselves. If daddy doesn't call for a visit, it's daddy's loss.
But you cannot make him be the daddy you want for your child. I wouldn't
make excuses for him, I wouldn't remind him of events. He will only be
involved as much as he wants. It's his choice, and up to him. Let him carry
his own baggage.
I've lived and learned this the hard way. I have 3 grown children. Two of
them barely speak to their father. It's sad and it breaks my heart for him,
but _now_ it is their choice. He wasn't there for them, they feel no
obligation now. I still stay out of it.
It is a sad world at times, Dearest, but we all do the best we can, with
what we have at the time. I believe you are doing the best you can for your
daughter, and she knows it. Don't let her dad weigh you down any more.
All My Very Best for you,
LB~
>
Heather
I've replied by email.I hope you don't mind.
Heather
Lilith Bee
"Heather" <Morwe...@hotmail.com> wrote
> Hi Lilith
> I've replied by email.I hope you don't mind.
I won't mind a bit, but try a valid email.. ;-)
lilith_bee at earthlink dot net (don't forget the little underscore thing
;-)
Be patient, please, my spam blocker doesn't like strangers, but I will watch
out for you!
LB~