Teens and phone threats
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and night asking for my daughter. When my daughter does answer the phone, the
girl says she is the new girlfriend of a boy my daughter liked a few months
ago. She then calls her names and threatens to come to the house and beat her
up. I tell my daughter not to argue with her, just hang up. Soon, hopefully,
she will give up the calls. It does scare me to think this girl could wait
for my daughter to be home alone (both my husband and I work during the day)
and come to the house. Some kids today are very violent. How do you know if
she is willing to make good these threats? Does anyone know if the police
can do anything? All we know is she says her name is Vanessa. My daughter has
called the boy and asked if he knows her. He denies he does. What do we do
next? Any thoughts or suggestions would be greatly welcome.
Donna
B.J. Donnelly
There are answering machines that with the push of a button will record
both sides of a conversation. In New York state, it is legal to record
these conversations as long as one party of the conversation is aware of
the recording. This may make the police more willing to pay attention if
you feel the situation warrants it.
The Great Grendel-Khan
>Donna
I'm not a lawyer, nor do I play one on Tv, so the most qualified thing I can
say to do is consult one to find out the laws about this. One thing you can
do is document the calls. This will help when prosecuting. The laws depend
on what state you live in. If the calls become too graphic, or threatening,
the caller can be arrested for breaking several laws. Try to get an
answereing machine that can record and tape this girl making these threats.
This will help the cops and your lawyer.
Grendel "seems to have an opinion on everything" Khan
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The Great Grendel-Khan
didn't add this to my last post, but I forgot. But I would advise talking to
the police or to a lawyer before taking this step.
Robbie Felix
When I was a teenager ( in a small farm town in Northern Calif.) I got
a bunch of calls like this,too. I know it was very difficult for
myself and my parents. Eventually we found out who it was. My parents
called the police.
Interesting how they handled it: They picked her up in a squad car,
then they picked me up in a squad car. They put us in a room together
in the police station and basically said " We don't care what you work
out, but you work this thing out so that it doesn't happen anymore.
Knock on the door and let us know when you have reached an agreement
and then you can go home".
I don't remember us saying much of anything, but after about ten
minutes she knocked on the door. They took us home and she never
called again.
I thought it worked pretty well. It might be useful to try something
like this if you can find out who the other person is( the phone
company ought to be able to help you identify the calling party).
Best wishes,
rf
JENNIFER L. PETERS
Have her screen call with the answering machine, if you have one. If
not, consider getting one.
If this keeps up, you should contact the phone company. They will know
the legal options in your area.
As for Vanessa coming to your house, go over standard "home alone" rules
with your daughter. >Don't answer the door to strangers. >In an
emergency, call ____.
Has your daughter had any self-defence training in school? (Some
schools do a unit in P.E.) There are videos out on this.
Just a few thoughts.
Rich Antcliff
Have you tried contacting the girls parents and exerting some pressure?
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Subject: Re: Teens and phone threats
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**I'd love to contact the parents but, we don't know any Vanessa. Were are
**not sure that is really her name. The old boyfriend is not helping and says
**he doesn't know anyone named Vanessa. I called the phone company last night
**and was advised to change my phone number or try acting like we have a "trap"
**on the phone by clicking the reciever and saying "operator this is the call
**we want traced." This sometimes will fool the person into thinking the
**phone company is tapping in on the calls. I have had a lot of good
**suggestions from people on the network. Some of them are: Use the answering
**machine to screen calls and record the caller, get a device that shows the
**last number called in to your phone (I would love to call her back and say
**"now I have YOUR number"). I will try to call the police tonight and see
**what they suggest. Thanks to all who have responded. It has helped me a
**great deal.
**Donna
The Great Grendel-Khan
>Have you tried contacting the girls parents and exerting some pressure?
I don't think the original poster knows for sure who the girl is, but this
brings up a good point, you must find out! Get caller id so you can log who's
calling, then do a reverse information. Call information, give them the
number, and ask who is listed for it. then go ahead and call and notify the
parents of this child. I still advocate getting an answering machine that
records. Imagine dropping off a tape full of this girl's threats to her
parents. Man this would give me so much satisfaction!
I realize caller id and an answering machine will cost money, but I think it
would be worth it to end such a situation.
Erik Lode
I assumed lots of others would mention this, so I didn't respond when
your first note came out. Here in Colorado, if I get such a call, I can
just hang up, dial "# 5 7", and the caller will be logged at the phone
company. However, it only works for local callers.
Is there something like that for your area?
Erik