Seeking parenting advice/book recommendations
Tauni Sandy
cranky 3.5 year old daughter. I felt she needed more control and
choices, since she was refusing to get dressed, sit on the potty, or get
her diaper changed. I started giving her choices about what to wear
(these pants or those, etc.) and it's made getting dressed and out of
the house in the morning much easier. She started getting along better
at preschool/daycare (all day, since DH and I both work full time).
Then we had a couple long weekends (Thanksgiving and a science fiction
convention 2 weeks before that). It seems that yesterday and today she
REALLY didn't want to go to school. Today was especially hard, as she
screamed and refused to go in, but finally went in when I held her hand
(wriggled too much when I tried to carry her). Then she wanted me to sit
on the floor so she could sit on my lap. Next thing I knew, she wanted
to nurse. It's really unusual for a 3.5 year old to nurse, so I was
nervous about doing it at her school. It seemed to be the only thing
that calmed her down.
The teacher and other moms looked at me funny. You know, they look but
don't look. I'm afraid that now her teacher will try to link all
Delenn's behavior issues (difficulty with transitions, currently) to her
nursing or the parenting style that goes along with it.
So what I'm looking for is advice and some good book recommendations for
parenting a demon-possessed child who feels reality isn't living up to
her expectations (whatever those happen to be at the moment). I also
need the emotional support to stay positive and in control of my own
emotions, since this girl can really get to me. I know it makes her
worse when I start crying out of frustration.
Help...
Thanks
Tauni
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demetria
whisper)
Be Strong.
More than likely her behavior is normal.
Most kids act a lot differently weith their parents where they are safe and
loved.
Nursing at school, well if it caused a problem, educate. Don't worry. Relax.
Wake up and tell yourself how great you are.
When dd wakes up tell her how amazing she is.
Read a book, or play for a few minutes, maybe while getting her dressed.
Encourage her to make desicions about her day. "What are planning on doing
today at preschool?" things like that.
Relax and remeber how special the two of you are and how great a morning
your going to have.
You can also make sure she gets at least 12 hours of sleep. A lot of
preschool aged kiddos are cronically overtired.
When you pick her up, do something special with her. Then have DH do a
special project every night. More then likely she just misses you two.
Good Luck.
Demetria
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Tauni Sandy
improvement in our little girl. We changed her to another preschool that
had a much more relaxed attitude while provding more options for
activities. She really fluorished there. We just took her out, however,
since my DH got laid off work and is going to be a stay at home dad.
That was our eventual plan anyway, and we can afford him to stay home
now. He and our daughter are really connecting too. He used to ignore
her a lot, but now I see them really engaging. It's neat.
Her whole attitude has improved greatly in the past few months. And she
hardly ever nurses. Once a week or so, I think. I really can't remember
the last time but I think it was last weekend when she bonked her head
on something.
We've also been trying to make sure she gets more sleep, even though she
doesn't nap. It's kind of hard to get her to bed early, since I get home
from school around 5 PM and want to have a few hours with her. She
sleeps about 10 hours a night right now.
And she's going to be 4 in 5 weeks, which she is really excited about
:-)
Tauni
demetria <deme...@demetria.com> wrote:
> (I am typing fast so I am not trying to be overly curt, read it like a slow
> whisper)
> Be Strong.
> More than likely her behavior is normal.
> Most kids act a lot differently weith their parents where they are safe and
> loved.
> Nursing at school, well if it caused a problem, educate. Don't worry. Relax.
> Wake up and tell yourself how great you are.
> When dd wakes up tell her how amazing she is.
> Read a book, or play for a few minutes, maybe while getting her dressed.
> Encourage her to make desicions about her day. "What are planning on doing
> today at preschool?" things like that.
> Relax and remeber how special the two of you are and how great a morning
> your going to have.
> You can also make sure she gets at least 12 hours of sleep. A lot of
> preschool aged kiddos are cronically overtired.
> When you pick her up, do something special with her. Then have DH do a
> special project every night. More then likely she just misses you two.
> Good Luck.
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