Found another one.
One thing I don't get is why many parents seem to believe that
kids have to be ENTERTAINED.
That parental belief is teaching kids to be passive. (Not to
mention what it does to their attention span.)
Whatever happened to MAKING them do chores every
day, with or without the parents' guidance...and then
telling them to go play even if no playmates are available?
(Reading exists too, of course.)
Don't they WANT their kid to exercise both mind and body?
Btw, some of the stories below come from the old thread as well.
https://www.reddit.com/r/childfree/comments/1arf5tb/i_just_found_out_ipad_kids_are_not_a_meme_yet_a/?sort=old
(the thread is sorted from oldest to newest - there are 131 comments so far)
lonelyronin1:
"I have the the ultimate ipad/phone story -
"I have a booth at one of the busiest farmer's markets in Canada -
8-10k people on a Saturday, so it is busy to say the least. In order
to walk through the aisles, you have to weave and stop and start
because of the amount of people.
"There was a kid - around 12 - with his face buried in his phone
and he never looked up while walking through this crowd. Why?
His mother was shuffling behind him with her hands on his
shoulders steering him around the people.
"He couldn't/wouldn't stop long enough to watch where he was
going. And by the looks of it, this wasn't something new.
"This is the generation that has no idea how to live without their
electronics - and they will be raising the next generation. You
think we have problems now."
AzoreanEve:
"I've seen this exact thing at the mall too!!! Like holy fuck are
they raising a zombie? At that point they might as well put the kid in a wheelchair."
onofreoye:
"Just watched a documentary yesterday about children’s addiction
to screens, and how they develop certain behaviors that lead to the
misconception that they may be in the autistic spectrum, but then
you take away the iPads for 3 months and they act completely
different, they start talking, sleeping better, socializing, etc. It is a
somehow old documentary (from around 2016-2017), but the thing
that was more disturbing for me was 1. The parents were completely
unaware of the correlation between the long exposure to screen time
of their kids and the behavior they developed 2. The adults were
addicts themselves 3. They thought it was normal. Then I see my
bf’s nephew who’s 5 years old and still can’t talk but is watching
youtube videos ALL DAY LONG, not even kids stuff, mostly some
weird gameplays that weren’t obviously planned to be seen by kids
(lots of bullshit being said in those), that fucking toilet man, stuff like that.
"The kid gets really angry if you try to take the phone away from him or
if you refuse to let him grab yours, to the point he starts screaming and
crying like crazy. Several members of the family have tried to bring the
issue to their parents, (and they have another son who is autistic and
on meds and therapy, which could make you think they’d know better).
They refuse to acknowledge the problem and, even worse, they happily
claim they’re good parents..."
newforestroadwarrior:
"I wonder if this is a named medical condition.
"I worked with someone who spent an unreal amount
of time on his computer (we didn't have tablets or
smartphones back then). Most days he literally did
nothing else, usually shoving pdf after pdf onto the
c:/ drive and once he'd buggered that computer up,
he'd waddle off around the plant to find another one.
"I still marvel it took two and a half years to get that bloke fired."
No_Computer_3432
"This happened to me, but it’s hard to blame my parents
because I was the first gen with tech from childhood.
I’m still battling to reduce my screen time but I can’t
help but think of the anhedonia it’s caused me in the
long term. It’s hard to enjoy or engage in anything that’s not a screen."
PartyPorpoise:
"I try not to get too judgmental to parents when it comes
to screentime. Kids quietly playing on their phone at a
restaurant, whatever. But I find it kind of disturbing
when a young kid is at a place designed to be fun and
engaging for kids (think museums, zoos, and parks)
and they're on a phone/tablet the whole time.
"I used to work at a shitty high school and some of these
TEENAGERS would throw full-on temper tantrums if they
couldn't be on their phones. Get angry, cry. That can't
possibly be healthy. And many of them were completely
unable to engage with or focus on anything for more than
thirty seconds because they had to look at their phones.
Is that a product of iPad parenting?"
anxious_pokemon119:
"My little brother started becoming like this when he was
an adolescent. I was an older teen. Constantly on his tablet
and my parents at the time didn’t care. I was the only one
who really observed how it was negatively affecting his
development. I begged and pleaded with my parents to set
limits on his screen time, but surprise surprise, they didn’t
listen to me. They finally listened once he started having
severe tantrums and breakdowns from screen addiction.
It took him a solid 3 years of deprogramming, but I’m happy
to say now that he’s developed into a good, level-headed
young man now. I fear for this entire emerging generation
that doesn’t have limits on their screen time; we have an
entire generation raised by screens and totally detached,
their mental development totally stunted. Just go over to
the teachers subreddit to read what our teachers have to deal with nowadays."