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LIVING LOVE
Have you ever heard someone, or have you yourself ever used the
statement. '' If you really love me, you'd ......''
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The use of this has NOTHING to do with love. It however, has everything
to do with manipulative behavior, possibly even learned behavior, in
order to get something your way, and immediate gratification.
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This behavior can only get empowered by the person it is amined at, and
whether they cave in, compromise, feel threatened or suspect of not
loving. It REQUIRES their agreement.
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There is another view of this same thing. When a peer or friend or
perfect stranger ) suggests it to you as an answer ...'' If your (
husband, father, boy friend, mother, etc.'' ) really loved you, they
would understand, ..... let you do it ...... get it for you .... and so
on.
Many today's adults DO USE this manipulation because, they learned it,
got what they wanted and got it their way all because someone, at
sometime caved in and granted what was WANTED. And there it is:
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Many times, exactly what is WANTED, is a far cry from what is NEEDED.
Any grandparent, parent, spouse, co-worker, friend, can be the culprit
or the victim of this manipulative learned behavior.
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Whenever and wherever it IS used on another human being for any whim or
want .... love takes a back seat to self-interest on the part of all
persons concerned.
Nothing drives this home better than if your own child has ever used it
......on you.
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ADDITIONS / ATTACHMENTS
Our whole life is an addiction. In a hundred ways that we do not
notice, our whole life depends upon addictions! What we might think are
just natural parts of living and surviving, are addictions, and we even
believe we are entitled to them. We even go to length and extremes to
justify that they sustain life in a reasonalbe way.
We are also addicted to our view of reality. We are addicted to
religious beliefs, customs or rituals, exercise routines or diets, our
roles, position, ideals, philosophy, judgement, opinion, choice of
dress, and down to how we prefer our eggs or steak.
Having our own way is an addiction and attempting to impose
your ideas, views, opinions and belief upon any other individual, is an
addition: it is in some manner filling a need of your own and which
you're convinced that you need to "exchange" or "make a deal" of some
trade-off with another in order to satisfy that need.
Addition begins in YOU. Not one individual is FREE of
ADDICTION. And the first sign of addiction, is the lie to yourself, that
you yourself are not.
There's no convincing others that your addition is any
better than another: none is worse nor better than another. Some attact
the body, while others attact the mind, the emotions, the soul or the
spirit.
While some are addicted to nicotine, sugar and who knows what chemical,
others are addicted to morning meditation, whole food meals, or mowing
the lawn only on Fridays.
Life is filled with good intentioned advice givers, from
ministers, motivators, managers, teachers, therapists, implying they
know best what is best, is one of the deepest ingrained, hard core
addictions of the society in which we live. This is the
"parental part" of ourself, wanting to guide others, expecially the
child part in others, adults included that they might avoid dangerous or
distructive pit falls. When we ourself can attain
total freedom of "roles" in our relationshiip with others, then we will
have freed ourself and in trust leave others to be free equally. We will
then be able to freely let others learn, just as we have, from insight,
from hindsight, from knockdowns drag-outs, and from the pick-me-ups and
surviving, just as we all have.
It is HOW we find out who we are, what we are and why we are
all in this classroom together. And when we finally do GET IT, there'll
be nothing to prove to anyone. Meanwhile, we are all muddling through,
something,at some level ---- learning.
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RIGHT RELATIONSHIP
You and I are in a relationship which I value and want to
keep. Yet each of us is a separate person with unique needs and the
right to meet those needs.
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When you are having problems meeting your needs I will
listen with genuine acceptance so as to facilitate your finding your own
solutions instead of depending on mine. I also will respect your right
to choose your own beliefs and develp yourr own values, different though
they may be from mine.
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However, when your behavior interferes with what I must
do to get my own needs met, I will tell you openly and honestly how your
behavior affects me, trusting that you respect my needs and feelings
enough to try to change the behavior that is unacceptable to me. Also,
whenever some behavior of mine is unacceptable to you, I hope you will
tell me openly and honestly so I can cnage my behavior.
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At those times when one of us cannot change to meet the
other's needs, let us acknowledge that we have a conflict and commit
ourselves to resolve each such conflict without either of us resorting
to the use of power to win at the expense of the other's losing. I
respect your needs, but I also must respect my own. So let us always
strive to search for a solution that will be acceptable to both of us.
Your needs will be met, and so will mine --- neither will lose, both
will win.
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In this way, you can continue to develop as a person
through satisfying your needs, and so can I. Thus ours can be a healthy
relationship in which both of us can strive to become what we are
capable of being. And we can continue to relate to each other with
mutual respect, love and peace.
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MENTAL MAKEOVER
It is remarkable what can be accomplished with ordinary abilities when
right desire is coupled with determination and diligence. Out of where
we are comes growth and advancement. The measure of knowing yourself, in
small ways and in small things becomes also your measure of confidence
to handle the larger challenges as they come along.
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Day by day you are creating your openess and "yes-ness" to the good in
life and the portion of which you are ready with willingness to
..receive and to experience as yours.
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greatest victories have been due to inexhaustible patience, resolution
and tireless effort, rather than to extroadinary talent.
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Our personal victories, shared, are beacons for others when times or
conditions appear darkest.
It's a matter of choice, attitude and approach that brings us through.
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YOU CANNOT SERVE TWO
Your mind is the
greatest tool you have.
It responds to whatever
you place in it.
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That is its nature: that is what it does.
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Conflict occurs when you
focus upon and fill
the mind with
problems, misery, confusion,
despair, etc.
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And, with what you desire, or
hope for, your ideal of what you want.
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The mind cannot serve two different
or opposing Ideals.
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The mind cannot make manifest
both your heavenly ideals,
and your hellish nightmares.
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So, pick your battle.
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Whatsoever you say, is true ...
IS your Truth.
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You live and you experience life
in either the Light or the Shadow of your mind.
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My Happiness
My happiness is very important to me.
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No one can know what lies behind my happiness..
It is treasured deeply and not to be wasted.
I don't expect the world or anyone to either care about it or to provide
it.
I do what I need to do, when I need to, to retain my happiness.
I am eternally grateful to those who have assisted; as it added to mine
it increased theirs.
My happiness is unconditional and hard won.
Other people's behavior and opinions have nothing to do with my
happiness.
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I live ...within it, ... and because I do, no one but myself is in
any way responsible for my being or not being happy.
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My Happiness is totally an "Inside Job" and is not reliant upon any
exterior or outside person, place, condition, situation or circumstance.
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I alone, choose what I AM and AM not.
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I alone, choose what I do and do not abide with.
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I alone, choose what I have and have not. .
I alone, am responsible for my thoughts, feelings, expression,
understanding, knowing and not knowing.
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I am responsible for life given me and for all I choose to do with it
and to make of it.
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UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
Unconditional Love is a message of liberation.
You can be whoever you are,express all your thoughts and feelings with
absolute confidence.
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Love is a given ...the nature of Spirit,
and cannot be taken away.
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It is when we "personalize" love,
that it then becomes conditional and used and is doubted.
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This creates question and doubt as to our "pleasing" or worthiness of
being loved. .
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Unconditional Love ...
is impersonal
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It IS, ....what it IS,..... of ITSELF.
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Understanding
Comprehending what someone else is trying to convey.
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Awareness
Using the mind as a link with our inner being and our Spirit.
Knowing
When we use Creative MInd to change our thinking; then experience
changes in our outer forms and experience by Universal Law.
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It is in the heart of a human
that the life is carried
and through the heart
that the finest ideals come
and from the heart
are expressed the truest words and deeds.
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There is a place within the heart
of each individual into which
no other may enter.
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This inner sacturary is where
you and your Creator are
known, accepted, and understood
by one another completely.
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The need to be better
is the entry.
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The need to share more
is the exit.
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Success
Success is found through having enthusiasm about whaterver you are
doing. Nothing kills success more quickly than indifference or boredom.
Success is achieved by consistent devotion to your goal, with steady
efforts to do better.
Success is found through hard work. The willingness to work is more
important than creative ability. Through this attitude anyone can
acquire skills and knowledge in whatever field they choose and thus
advance.
Success comes from not being content with one's achievements, There's
always more to learn and accomplish.
Success is found through viewing a failure as a stimulus to succeed,
and a success as a stimulus to achieve more.
Success comes by moulding your own destiny and not looking to some
outward source to do it for you. Opportunities come in life because you
earned them.
Success is found through realizing that there is no task that cannot
be accomplished. If you feel that you cannot do soething, you are under
a delusion. You have inner strength, will and courage to master the
task.
Success lies in living a balanced life physically, mentally, and
spiritually.
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F E E L I N G S
* We all have them.
* Feelings change.
* Feelings are NOT who we are.
* We choose feelings.
* Feelings are NOT right or wrong.
It is the ego ( small self ) that needs to be "right."
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Ego choses sides in order to see ( identify ) itself.
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Ego only has the power you give it.
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Ego reacts and acts to things
or to people it likes or dislikes:
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AS YOU THINK === YOU ARE
As you think you travel:
as you love, you attract.
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You are today where
your thought brought you.
You will be tomorrow
where your thoughts take you.
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You cannot escape the results
of your thoughts.
But you can endure, accept, and be glad.
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You will reallize the vision ( not the idle wish ) of your heart, be it
base or beautiful, or a mixture of both,
for you will always gravitate
toward that which you secretly love.
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Into your hands will be placed the
exact results of your thoughts.
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You will receive that which you earned, no more, no less.
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Whatever your present environment may be, you will fail, remain, or rise
with your thoughts, your vision, your ideals.
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You will become as great as your dominant aspirations.
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We find ourselves to be alone
by the very nature of our society.
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Yet, if we meet a person
who is not envious, who
believes is other than himself,
then to this rare person
offer a lifetime of friendship.
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In the quiet hours
we can hear the music
within the human soul
and for a moment
we are one emotion
together ...in a tear.
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RETIRE or ASPIRE
Retirement does not mean that you are all through. Retire means to move
back, retreat, withdraw. Aspire means to move forward, to seek the best.
Aspire to make the most of each day.
Aspire to widen your horizon.
Aspire to serve; lend a hand to worthy organizations and movements.
Aspire to grow and learn.
Aspire to discover the greatness within yourself that you've not had the
time to before.
Aspire to maintain a youthful attitude toward life. Aspire to be an
inspiration to others: let your light shine. Aspire to attain the joy of
living.
Aspire to reach out to life to help life to grow, to express itself and
fulfilll its destiny.
Aspire to live affirmatively by looking for the good and glorifying it.
Seek the quietness and solitude for which you have longed, and where
best than within the embrace of nature, to experience serenity and inner
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We cannot have two standards,
one for ourselves
and one for others.
To do so places power
in that which divides
and conquers.
Peace establishes one standard
by all, for all.
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Some seek to escape pain.
Others seek to achieve happiness.
Some exist to avoid punishment.
Others exist for earning reward.
Some wish to avoid death.
Others wish to live to the fullest.
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Joy: is not
the absence of pain.
Intelligene: is not
the absence of stupidity.
Light: is not
the absence of darkness.
Building: is not
the absence of demolition.
Existence: is not
a negation of negatives.
Evil, not value, is an absence and
a negation.
It is impotent and has no power
but that which we
let it extort from us.
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