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Marie Lynne
Nov 30, 2007, 9:25:26 PM11/30/07
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WOMEN ARE STUPID
WHY?
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE...WHY DOES SHE STAY?
I WOULD LIKE TO ADDRESS THIS. ARE ALL WOMEN STUPID? WOMEN WRITE THESE
SITES. ARE WE REALLY THIS DUMB?
WHY DOES SHE STAY?
The question shows the misunderstanding of the dynamics of domestic
violence.....................I DO NOT AGREE. THE QUESTION STAYS THE
SAME. WHY DOES SHE STAY?
Instead, the question--"Why does she stay," --puts the responsibility
back on the victim, and is often followed with the statement, "She must
like it."................SHE DOES LIKE IT. TRUST ME, SHE LIKES IT.
Women stay in abusive relationships for many reasons. They do not stay
because they "want to be abused."..............SHE STAYS BECAUSE SHE
LOVES HIM. SHE NEEDS HIM. ROLL MY EYES
A battered woman may believe:
His violence is temporary........THAT IS BULL$HIT
With loyalty and love, she can make him change.;..............SHE IS SO
LOYAL SHE DOES NOT CARE IF HE CHANGES OR NOT.
His promises that it will "never happen again".......SHE DOES NOT CARE
IF IT DOES HAPPEN. SHE LOVES BEING THE VICTIM.
It's her responsibility to keep the family together...........THEN SHE
CAN GO TO JAIL WITH HIM WHEN HE ABUSES OR KILLS THE CHILDREN!!!!!!
There will be more good times........SHE DOES LOVE THE GIFTS AFTER THE
BEATING.
She may tell herself:
He's had a hard life.........NO THAT IS NOT IT. SHE NEEDS HER SEX
TONIGHT.
He needs me.............NO, SHE NEEDS HIM AND SEX.
All men are violent; it is to be expected.........THIS ONE REALLY MAKES
ALL WOMEN SOUND SO STUPID.
She may deny or minimize the violence.,,,,,,,,,,, SHE WILL
She may believe her abuser when he tells her that his abuse is "her
fault."..............SO, WOMEN ARE STUPID.
Many women do not want the relationship to end; they want the violence
to end...............SEE HOW STUPID WOMEN ARE.
Fear is a major factor............SHE IS JUST A LITTLE OLE VICTIM.
Many women believe their abusers' threats. She believes he will kill her
if she leaves him..........WELL SHE SHOULD STAY SO HE CAN KILL HER
ANYWAY.
She may fear:
More severe abuse...........SHE NEEDS TO THINK LIKE AN ADULT, NOT LIKE A
CHILD.
Retaliation if he finds her..........BUY A GUN. I AM SURE HE HAS ONE.
Destruction of her belongings or home.......OH MY, THAT IS A GOOD REASON
TO STAY WITH A CHILD ABUSER.
Harm to her job or reputation.........OH MY ANOTHER GOOD REASON TO STAY
AND BE BEATEN.
Harming children, pets, family or friends........ARE WOMEN REALLY THIS
STUPID..HE IS ALREADY DOING THESE THINGS.
His committing suicide...............THERE IS A BRIGHT SPOT:)))))
Court or police involvement......OH GOODNESS SHE WOULDN'T WANT HELP
WOULD SHE?
There are many other reasons women stay in relationships. Some include:
Economics
Few job skills........GET SOME
Limited education or work experience......GET SOME
Limited cash........MOST FAMILY WOULD HELP IF SHE HADN'T TRASHED THEM.
No access to bank account.........YOU ARE BREAKING MY HEART.
Fear of poverty..........IS POOR BETTER THAN DEAD?
Pressure from community of faith/family.........SCREW THEM.
Family denial of the violence..........BULL$HIT. THAT IS A GOOD EXCUSE.
WHO DREAMED THAT UP?
Religion may disapprove of divorce..
Religious leader may tell her to "stay and pray".............GOD DOES
NOT APPROVE OF MURDER.YOUR ABUSER WILL KILL YOU.
Loneliness......GET A LIFE.
Concern for Children......HE WILL ABUSE AND POSSIBLY KILL THE CHILDREN.
DON'T YOU CARE?
Questions whether she can care for and support children on her
own.........THE CHILDREN WOULD RATHER LIVE IN A TENT. THEY ARE TIRED OF
BEING HURT.
Fears losing custody of her children..........GROW UP AND FIGHT LIKE A
WOMEN. YOU ARE NOT A CHILD, EVEN THO YOU WANT TO BE A CHILD. YOUR WANT
TO BE A CHILD IS WHY YOU STAY AND REALLY DO LIKE THE ABUSE.
Believes children need a father......THERE IS NO TRUTH IN THIS
STATEMENT.
Lack of community support ............SHOULD SHE CARE? SHE NEEDS TO GROW
UP AND STAND ON HER OWN TWO FEET.
Lack of adequate child care..........SHE IS NOT WORRIED ABOUT CHILD CARE
OR SHE WOULD GET OUT.
Few jobs........ROLL MY EYES
Lack of affordable housing.
Isolated from community services.
No support from family and friends........HER FAMILY WOULD BE THERE FOR
HER BUT SHE TOLD THEM TO GO AWAY. SHE WANTS TO SHOW HIM/ABUSER HOW SMART
SHE IS.
Many women in abusive relationships ask these questions:
Will it get better?.........HAS A TRUCK GOT TO HIT HER?
Studies show that over time, without intervention, abuse in the home
gets more frequent and more violent. ..........WONDER IF SHE IS SMART
ENOUGH TO NOTICE.
Is it my fault?............YES, STUPID, IT IS.
LEAVE HIM!!!
There is no excuse for domestic violence.
Can I fix it?............NO NO NO
No. Only the abuser can stop his violent behavior. Qualified batterer
intervention programs may provide knowledge and skills to stop his
violent behavior, but only the abuser can decide whether he will use
them or not.........HE WILL NOT GO, BUT YOU WILL STAY WITH HIM, BECAUSE
YOU LOVE HIM YOU NEED HIM.
WHY?
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE...WHY DOES SHE STAY?
I WOULD LIKE TO ADDRESS THIS. ARE ALL WOMEN STUPID? WOMEN WRITE THESE
SITES. ARE WE REALLY THIS DUMB?
WHY DOES SHE STAY?
The question shows the misunderstanding of the dynamics of domestic
violence.....................I DO NOT AGREE. THE QUESTION STAYS THE
SAME. WHY DOES SHE STAY?
Instead, the question--"Why does she stay," --puts the responsibility
back on the victim, and is often followed with the statement, "She must
like it."................SHE DOES LIKE IT. TRUST ME, SHE LIKES IT.
Women stay in abusive relationships for many reasons. They do not stay
because they "want to be abused."..............SHE STAYS BECAUSE SHE
LOVES HIM. SHE NEEDS HIM. ROLL MY EYES
A battered woman may believe:
His violence is temporary........THAT IS BULL$HIT
With loyalty and love, she can make him change.;..............SHE IS SO
LOYAL SHE DOES NOT CARE IF HE CHANGES OR NOT.
His promises that it will "never happen again".......SHE DOES NOT CARE
IF IT DOES HAPPEN. SHE LOVES BEING THE VICTIM.
It's her responsibility to keep the family together...........THEN SHE
CAN GO TO JAIL WITH HIM WHEN HE ABUSES OR KILLS THE CHILDREN!!!!!!
There will be more good times........SHE DOES LOVE THE GIFTS AFTER THE
BEATING.
She may tell herself:
He's had a hard life.........NO THAT IS NOT IT. SHE NEEDS HER SEX
TONIGHT.
He needs me.............NO, SHE NEEDS HIM AND SEX.
All men are violent; it is to be expected.........THIS ONE REALLY MAKES
ALL WOMEN SOUND SO STUPID.
She may deny or minimize the violence.,,,,,,,,,,, SHE WILL
She may believe her abuser when he tells her that his abuse is "her
fault."..............SO, WOMEN ARE STUPID.
Many women do not want the relationship to end; they want the violence
to end...............SEE HOW STUPID WOMEN ARE.
Fear is a major factor............SHE IS JUST A LITTLE OLE VICTIM.
Many women believe their abusers' threats. She believes he will kill her
if she leaves him..........WELL SHE SHOULD STAY SO HE CAN KILL HER
ANYWAY.
She may fear:
More severe abuse...........SHE NEEDS TO THINK LIKE AN ADULT, NOT LIKE A
CHILD.
Retaliation if he finds her..........BUY A GUN. I AM SURE HE HAS ONE.
Destruction of her belongings or home.......OH MY, THAT IS A GOOD REASON
TO STAY WITH A CHILD ABUSER.
Harm to her job or reputation.........OH MY ANOTHER GOOD REASON TO STAY
AND BE BEATEN.
Harming children, pets, family or friends........ARE WOMEN REALLY THIS
STUPID..HE IS ALREADY DOING THESE THINGS.
His committing suicide...............THERE IS A BRIGHT SPOT:)))))
Court or police involvement......OH GOODNESS SHE WOULDN'T WANT HELP
WOULD SHE?
There are many other reasons women stay in relationships. Some include:
Economics
Few job skills........GET SOME
Limited education or work experience......GET SOME
Limited cash........MOST FAMILY WOULD HELP IF SHE HADN'T TRASHED THEM.
No access to bank account.........YOU ARE BREAKING MY HEART.
Fear of poverty..........IS POOR BETTER THAN DEAD?
Pressure from community of faith/family.........SCREW THEM.
Family denial of the violence..........BULL$HIT. THAT IS A GOOD EXCUSE.
WHO DREAMED THAT UP?
Religion may disapprove of divorce..
Religious leader may tell her to "stay and pray".............GOD DOES
NOT APPROVE OF MURDER.YOUR ABUSER WILL KILL YOU.
Loneliness......GET A LIFE.
Concern for Children......HE WILL ABUSE AND POSSIBLY KILL THE CHILDREN.
DON'T YOU CARE?
Questions whether she can care for and support children on her
own.........THE CHILDREN WOULD RATHER LIVE IN A TENT. THEY ARE TIRED OF
BEING HURT.
Fears losing custody of her children..........GROW UP AND FIGHT LIKE A
WOMEN. YOU ARE NOT A CHILD, EVEN THO YOU WANT TO BE A CHILD. YOUR WANT
TO BE A CHILD IS WHY YOU STAY AND REALLY DO LIKE THE ABUSE.
Believes children need a father......THERE IS NO TRUTH IN THIS
STATEMENT.
Lack of community support ............SHOULD SHE CARE? SHE NEEDS TO GROW
UP AND STAND ON HER OWN TWO FEET.
Lack of adequate child care..........SHE IS NOT WORRIED ABOUT CHILD CARE
OR SHE WOULD GET OUT.
Few jobs........ROLL MY EYES
Lack of affordable housing.
Isolated from community services.
No support from family and friends........HER FAMILY WOULD BE THERE FOR
HER BUT SHE TOLD THEM TO GO AWAY. SHE WANTS TO SHOW HIM/ABUSER HOW SMART
SHE IS.
Many women in abusive relationships ask these questions:
Will it get better?.........HAS A TRUCK GOT TO HIT HER?
Studies show that over time, without intervention, abuse in the home
gets more frequent and more violent. ..........WONDER IF SHE IS SMART
ENOUGH TO NOTICE.
Is it my fault?............YES, STUPID, IT IS.
LEAVE HIM!!!
There is no excuse for domestic violence.
Can I fix it?............NO NO NO
No. Only the abuser can stop his violent behavior. Qualified batterer
intervention programs may provide knowledge and skills to stop his
violent behavior, but only the abuser can decide whether he will use
them or not.........HE WILL NOT GO, BUT YOU WILL STAY WITH HIM, BECAUSE
YOU LOVE HIM YOU NEED HIM.
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