Steve "Cerilus, Blacktiger" Pierce
My alter-ego: Tiger. Hanging on.
>Finding a secure place in fandom and society isn't easy; broaden your
>contacts in and out of fandom. If drinking, and more importantly,
>depression is a problem, seek professional help with a psychiatrist.
>Personal experience with depression has indicated that modern drug
>therapy DOES help, though by no means the entire answer.
I've recovered as much as I think I will. Things were hairy for a while
there, but I think the worst is over now (knock on wood). More importantly,
the situation has been resolved, so I'm not living in a limbo concerning
what's going on. It's hard to be irrational and afraid when you know what's
going on. <grin>
>Interestingly, furry fandom does seem to have a more noticable gay
>component. Darned if I know why, and it doesn't affect my enjoyment of
>that fandom. I'm rather fond of ladies of the feline purrsuation, and
>also mermaids; fantasy and furry fandom seem to have crossovers, as with
>anime fandom.
<Shrugs> I dunno either. Something else that struck me as odd (after the con)
was that most of the furries I met were male. Only a handful were female...
<Thoughtful pause>
>Can't help much with the romantic angle; I'm 43 and still have had no
>good luck at romance. About all I can suggest is work on being friends
>first, and don't hang onto a relationship that isn't going anywhere.
Yes, we are still friends (thank god!), and we've realized that we
just weren't going anywhere. I'm just sorry it took what it did for me to
recognize it! Next time, I'll be more perceptive. I promise <-:.
>And darn it, practice safe sex. Too many good people dying for no good
>reason. Though admittedly, I'm practicing safe sex simply because I'm
>not getting any... :/
<-: I can not say that I've ALWAYS practiced safe sex. Shame on me.
However, I've practiced it a good deal of the time, and I'm working on
my average. <-:
>--Damon
>
>(Coming through here at very irregular intervals)
I hope you see my post. Also, thanks for everyone's letters of encouragement.
I *am* answering them, now that I've got time. It's slow going, but I want
to spend as much time writing each response as you all did responding to me.
Fair's fair <-:
Steve
Denying that which you are is pointless. It does not change a thing, and
all you can do it realize that who and what you are does not determine
your capacity for right or wrong. Only you, as a sentient being, can do
that. Neither your skin color, nor your gender, nor your sexual
inclination has anything to do with your mores. Why be depressed or
suicidal over any of this?
: Loving is harder. Sharing of the things and people that you love is a big
: part of loving others like yourself. (Shit, that's in the bible! I'm athiest)
So what's that got to do with it? Agreeing that the Bible has some good
things to say doesn't mean you're a flunkie of Oral Roberts! I myself am
Christian, but a lot of other Christians deny that I am because I don't
go to church on Sundays or put a Christfish on my car or "give generously"
to the sleazeballs on Pay-Per-Salvation TV. It's all part of living in
this lovely lunatic nation of ours --- no matter who you are and what you
do, SOMEONE will be more than happy to give you flak. So I listen to what
they have to say, judge it on its merits, and usually stuff it in the
emotional dumpster when all's said and done, and then it's not my problem
anymore. -:)
: Then to make a very long story suddenly short, they violated my trust.
: The first furry was perhaps the most important person in my life. I have
: totally collapsed. Perhaps I will never recover from this, but I hope that I
: will have the courage to live again some day.
: I am posting this, half to vent my frustrations and revelations, part
: to hear from furries whom might have felt this way. Please, respond and
: tell me which way is up. I'm very confused.
That's always a difficult thing to recover from. The only thing I can
suggest to help you is to just say, "Recover". Period. Your period of
mourning will be determined by yourself...if you want it over with today,
or in ten years, that is your choice. Plot a course, set a goal, and TAKE
the day by the tiny hairs. There really is no other way out of it...and
trust me, as one who knows, death (or near-death) is a very painful
experience, without reward or solace. The only way up is the direction you
decide. Good luck.
---LCD
But that's just me. I'm Cynical.
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Rich Chandler, DoD #296
I think you didn't read the post. It was pretty obvious to me that he
was gay AND furry, which doubled his feelings of being an outcast. Yes, he was
pulling a chain. He was hoping to find compassion on the other end of it, but
he reeled in a brick. May you be so fortunate in your moments of weakness.
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