need help with custody question - joint vs. every other weekends
Bob Hirschfeld, JD
attorney, and about 70 percent of my 700 AZ divorce/custody
cases ended up as some form of joint custody. My own
grandchildren (ages 8,10) are thriving in a 50/50,
one-week on, one-week off
joint custody, with both parents living in the same
school district, and actively trying to make it work.
For some useful information and helpful legal arguments
regarding joint custody, see
http://com.primenet.com/ncfc/jtcustody.html
Bob Hirschfeld, JD NOLAWYER Legal Educator
http://www.nolawyer.com/nolawyer
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Lauri <la...@nospam--crcwnet.com> wrote in article
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> On Sat, 26 Sep 1998 10:47:07 GMT, asm...@yahoo.com (Alan) wrote:
>
> >I am nearing the end of a divorce, with everything settled except
custody.
> >
> >We have been seperated about a year, and the first 8 months I had our
son
> >(now two) every other week. It was great to spend so much meaningful
daily
> >time with him.
>
> Because your son is so young at age 2, I would tend to think that
> shared custody might be a little more difficult. This is not to say
> that he should live with Mom, though...only the two of you can make
> that decision.
>
> I also think that for the non-custodial parent, every other weekend is
> not nearly enough for any child (or parent!). How about this: What
> is your work schedule? How close to you and your ex live to one
> another? Would it be possible for you two to work on a "staggered"
> schedule so that whoever is the NCP could take him each afternoon?
>
> This is confusing to write. For example: Let's say that you're the
> custodial parent. Mom could work from 6 am till 2 or 3 PM, and spend
> several hours with your son untill you get off work (you would work
> something like 9 am to 6 pm). This way, your son sleeps in his own
> bed each night, has his own routines and familiar belongings, but
> still sees Mom each and every day. You could also do overnighters
> every other weekend or something.
>
> Lots of details would have to be worked out, but you sound like a
> reasonable guy and it would sure be worth it for your son to see each
> of you every day, without a lot of bouncing around. One drawback of
> shared custody is the "back-pack" syndrome, where kids are always
> having to move their stuff back and forth. My kids are lots older
> than yours, but this part of it still bothers me.
>
> Lauri in WA
>
> reply to la...@crcwnet.com
>