How Bob Dole Dumped His First Wife
Mark S. Bilk
Excerpts from "Valley of the Doles", by Gail Sheehy, in
_Vanity Fair_, Sept. 1996, p. 279.
Their breakup was bloodless. He had begun sleeping in
the basement office of their Kansas City home. "I had no
clue why," Phyllis [Holden, Dole's first wife] recently
told me. In the last year of their 23-year marriage,
Senator Dole had dinner with his wife and child only
twice--on Christmas and Easter. One day in December 1970
he walked upstairs and announced simply, "I want out."
It was all Phyllis could do to insist that she and their
daughter, Robin, then a senior in high school, be allowed
to stay on in the house until the 16-year-old got through
her Christmas holidays.
For the next year Phyllis held her breath--"I was trauma-
tized"--unable to take any action or ask any questions.
Meanwhile, a beautiful local model named Phyllis Wells
appeared one day in the senator's Kansas City office.
Swathed in a monkey-fur coat and black suede boots tipped
with gold, the new mystery employee completely upset the
equilibrium of the place, where the usual take-home pay
was around $450 a month.
"Damn!" says Ana Riojas, a staffer who used to bring her
two children to work with her on weekends. "This glamorous
creature shows up, tall and coiffed, and here are all us
working gals sitting there in polyester. This one couldn't
type. We never really knew what she did, but she had a
confidence about her that none of the rest of us had."
Mainly she took phone calls from her mysterious "friend,"
who was, they later learned, Bob Dole. "He would spend
the night at her house," says Riojas. "She was divorced
and had a son in high school."
A former stewardess who was referred to as "Sam" (to avoid
confusion with the other Phyllis), Wells was employed by
Senator Dole's office from August 1971 to April 1972,
according to the Senate employee-locator service, as a
press assistant. Her salary was about $500 a month.
"She was his girlfriend before he hired her," asserts
David Owen. "She was just absolutely gorgeous, and much
younger. There's no question that he was seeing her
prior to being divorced." In a recent interview, Dole's
first wife (now Phyllis Macey) said she knew nothing
about the other woman.
About 13 months following Bob Dole's walkout, the sena-
tor's Washington office manager, Jo-Anne Coe, called his
Kansas office to announce, "The boss is getting a divorce.
Tomorrow. An emergency divorce."
An "emergency divorce" was a convenience that a judge
chummy with a public figure could arrange at that time,
invoking stress and bad publicity as grounds for waiving
the usual minimum 60-day waiting period.
On January 11, 1972, Phyllis was summoned to the office
of Judge Adrian Allen. The deck was stacked against her.
Bob Dole's lawyer, Sam Crow, an old law-school friend,
dictated the terms laid out by his client. (Dole himself,
according to Owen, was down in Florida on vacation with
"Sam".) "It was like a snap of the finger," remembers
Phyllis Holden Dole. "I didn't know it could happen to
me." She says she cannot recall further discussions with
Bob Dole about the welfare of their daughter from that
day on. ("We'd run into each other, maybe on Kansas
Day," she recalls.) A spokesman for the Dole campaign,
however, says that the former senator was always "actively
involved" with Robin's mother in decisions regarding her
welfare.
Dole continued his romantic relationship with "Sam,"
escorting her to Nixon's second inaugural ball in January
1973. His first wife, having given up her career for
marriage, says, "I survived. I had to get a job and go
off and leave Robin and move to Topeka." She got no
child support, only minimal alimony and her furniture.
...
Dole's emotional register was set in boyhood to match his
dad's. Doran Dole, who prided himself on never giving in
to emotion, took over for a WWII Western Union man who
would go to pieces when he had to read the killed or
missing-in-action telegrams to families. Betraying no
feelings, Doran Dole appeared at people's doors like the
face of death.
Bob Dole can fire people or cut off friends of 20 years
as coolly as his father could read the war wires. He
usually goes through two or three teams in the course of
a campaign. David Owen spent 20 years, in Dole's words,
as "my White House liaison and all-around trouble-shooter"
and claims to have saved him from political death in his
'74 Senate re-election race. From the day in December
1987 when Owen left a message for Dole about Owen's being
charged with campaign-contribution violations, he never
got another phone call returned. "He made a snap decision
that I was excess baggage...and our friendship counted
for nothing."
Someone who is this cold and emotionally dead is not the kind
of person who should have his finger on the trigger of enough
nuclear weapons to end all life on Earth, especially since he
knows that his own life is nearly over in any case.
Kathleen Mulhern wrote:
> But then again, you have to ask yourself this simple question:
> who is a better role model for my kids, a guy who one day
> walks up to his wife, demands a quicky divorce and then refuses to
> acknowledge the existence of his daughter for 10 years, or a guy who
> publically admits to having marital problems but works on those problems
> for the sake of the woman he promised his life to and the daughter they
> pledged to raise together, and ends up staying married and actually making
> it work? Bob "Moral Highground" Dole falls a wee bit short in the area of
> family values and morals.
Jay
Sounds like Dole's first wife was a real nut. Good thing he unloaded that broad.
Zenoink
snip
>Sounds like Dole's first wife was a real nut. Good thing he unloaded
that broad.
This is certainly a book I will have to buy--it's a political act and
an entertainment all in one.
But if Dole's first wife was a real nut, Jay, what's his second one? A
cold and calculating politician?
Sounds like a perfect match.
Kay
Mary E Knadler
In <53kr6m$p...@sjx-ixn2.ix.netcom.com> zen...@ix.netcom.com(Zenoink)
writes:
After that long tirade about Dole, whether factual or not, I can only
answer with that great Democratic response, "SO
WHAT"!!!!!!!!!!!!!yasmin2
Wayne Mann
Jay <jay...@aol.com> wrote:
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From: John Hendricks <Nan...@POP3.concentric.net>
Phyllis seems to have a problem remembering how much she
hated Bob's
political career because she is by nature a very private
person and
wanted to live the simple life in kansas. Let me remind her
(and you).
She seems not to remember all those campaign rallies and
meetings she
didn't want to attend (took her time getting dressed just to
make Bob
late and create a confrontation) or refused to attend.
She surely remembers her horror at hosting any meetings or
parties at
their home, to the point of utterly refusing to do so and
allowing the
house to become a pig stye just so Bob wouldn't invite
guests over.
She may not remember refusing to be an effectonate wife and
lover,
subjecting Bob to live alone, in the basement of their home
for several
years. Can any man out there imagine the hurt and
humiliation, let alone
the despaire he must have felt? Can you imagine putting up
with this life
and woman for 23-1/2 years? He deserves another medal just
for that...
Bob comes home from a small Washington apartment to the
basement of his
house and is subjected to mental abuse from his estranged
wife who lives
upstairs, all because he will not succumb to her demands
that he quit
politics. He does this for a couple of years before finally
throwing in
the towel and capitulating to her demand for a divorce,
because he feels
a sence of loyalty to her, their marriage and Robin. Now she
pays him
back by saying she doesn't know why and was stunned, even
though she
asked for the divorce?
True, divorce is never a one way street in this country
where half of the
marriages end in divorce. I know it, you know it and so does
everyone
(man and woman) who reads this posting and has been through
a divorce.
Bob Dole is not innocent in all this, but he is not the
"Mean Spirited,"
man this article would make him out to be either.
Your vain attempt to paint Phyllis as a pillar of virtue
(cause the AP
reported it) and Bob Dole as the bad husband doesn't wash
any more than
Phyllis did in those last years of their marriage. If you
and she want to
drag this man down, you and she had better get your facts
straight.
You want the truth, ask the neighbors.
JohnHendricks
\\/ayne //\ann
"The President has kept all of the promises he
intended to keep."
- George Stephanopolous on "Larry King Live"
- 2/16/96
Mark S. Bilk
Thanks for giving us the Republican interpretation of this divorce.
>========
>From: John Hendricks <Nan...@POP3.concentric.net>
>
>Phyllis seems to have a problem remembering how much she
>hated Bob's
>political career because she is by nature a very private
>person and
>wanted to live the simple life in kansas. Let me remind her
>(and you).
[etc.]
Did Hendricks make this up himself, or did he have help?
Van
wdm...@ix.netcom.com (Wayne Mann) banged out:
>Jay <jay...@aol.com> wrote:
<much bullshit snipped>
>Your vain attempt to paint Phyllis as a pillar of virtue
>(cause the AP reported it) and Bob Dole as the bad husband doesn't wash
>any more than Phyllis did in those last years of their marriage. If you
>and she want to drag this man down, you and she had better get your facts
>straight.
>You want the truth, ask the neighbors.
>JohnHendricks
>\\/ayne //\ann
Well, Wayne, it's pretty damn bad when the best you can do
to refute an issue is to reference another bullshit poster.
How low can you go? Here's another post I pulled at random
from your John Hendricks <Nan...@POP3.concentric.net>
This guy sure wasn't any neighbor of Bob and Phyllis. Just
sounds like a stupid kid, to me. Real credible source.
Re: Black Helicopters
John Hendricks <Nan...@POP3.concentric.net>
Newsgroups: alt.politics.org.cia
Stephen Grossman wrote:
> Is it true that you are a disinformation officer with the United
> Nations?
Stephen,
Gosh, you found me out. I am a disinformation officer with
the NWO Army. I just hope your happy now that you've blown
my cover.
Man... It's getting so a disinformation provacateur can't
make an honest living these days. Oh well, maybe Slick Willy
can use my talents. After all, he has your file Stephen...
I'll be bock...
he,he,he,ha,ha,hA,hA,hA,HA,HA,HA,HA,HA,HA,HA,HA,HA
JohnHendricks, Special Agent United Nations Disinformation
Directorate of The New World Order
--
Van
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According to The Center for Public Integrity -
For each year but one between 1980 and 1986, Bob Dole was the leading
honoraria recipient.
Between 1981 and 1993 Bob Dole received $1,326,771.53 in honoraria
for speeches. From 1973 through 1994 Dole raised at least $47,612,125
for his Senate and presidential campaigns and his leadership PAC. Of
that total he received at least $5,445,595 in PAC money. ...
Those interests that have given most heavily to the Kansas senator have
reaped magnificent returns on their investments.
********************************************************************************************
"When the political action committees give money, they expect something
in return other than good government."
Bob Dole in a statement to the Wall Street Journal
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KWills Shill #3
>I'm watching Bob Dole on television accepting the highest honors one can get. Everyone singing his praises! I'm reading this story written in 1996 and we are now in 2018, some 22 years later. I don't like judging anyone as I will be judged. But don't we do that when we see someone driving like an idiot down the road or we see someone who has on an ugly dress or whatever...we all do it... and so I'm going to judge Bob Dole. I take marriage seriously. You say for better or worst and what do you do? You walk out. How can I respect Bob Dole for running out on his first marriage? Read what the Sacred Scriptures says...but you say, you don't believe what it says...okay. I can't change your mind. I will say this last thing...no matter how much good Bob Dole did, our Country can thank Him. I think it pales in what he did to his first family. He will come to know this on the day he takes his last breath.
--
Shill #3.
Strategic Writer, Psychotronic World Dominator and FEMA camp
counselor.
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All hail the taco! http://www.taconati.org/
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Then, to disrespect your marriage, your wife and child, by bringing the hooker into your home?! Everyone has seen this before; Bob was hoping it would humiliate his wife enough that she would just leave.
No was was Ms. Monkey Fur the first hooker Bob ran around with and I can assure you his wife wasn't being treated very kindly by her husband. A man that is controlling enough to bring his whore home with him and announce he wants a divorce and gets a quicky divorce, while his wife just sits there like a deer in head lights, has obviously been running roughshod over her long enough that he has her cowed down enough that she won't defend herself or even question him. I can just imagine the emotional abuse she went through if he was so abusive that he was bringing his whores home with him. Because I'm telling you, his career would have been over had I been his wife. After the smoke cleared, his hooker and her monkey fur got out of the hospital, and hopefully him, and I got out of jail, he would be in the papers for a long, LONG time for bad publicity LOL
And, I'm a republican and a southerner, and you can still sell stupid somewhere else!
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KWills Shill #3
wrote:
[...]
>> > But then again, you have to ask yourself this simple question:
>> > who is a better role model for my kids, a guy who one day
>> > walks up to his wife, demands a quicky divorce and then refuses to
>> > acknowledge the existence of his daughter for 10 years, or a guy who
>> > publically admits to having marital problems but works on those problems
>> > for the sake of the woman he promised his life to and the daughter they
>> > pledged to raise together, and ends up staying married and actually making
>> > it work? Bob "Moral Highground" Dole falls a wee bit short in the area of
>> > family values and morals.
>Bob was nothing more than a fake and a phony . If i were his daughter , i would have nothing to do with Bob the Prune face !
decade ago?
The post you replied to was sent in 1996. That's roughly 22 years
ago. The matter has long since been abandoned. I don't think anyone
who was a part of it is still here.
--
Shill #3.
Los Angeles Branch.
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2. I would guess that maybe one or two of those who did were not exactly Mr. Warmth, but none of them have launched nuclear weapons, yet*. Heck, the USSR, China, and a couple other nations with nuclear programs have had leaders who were far colder and nastier than any U.S. President - We have never had a Stalin, or a Mao, after all - and they have not launched nuclear bombs. Of course, a big part of their reasoning there was knowing that the United States had a bunch of nuclear bombs, too.
3. How is Donald Trump a warmonger? The Syria and Anti-ISIS actions were follow throughs on policies set in prior Administrations. Particularly Syria, where it was President Obama who famously set a "red line" on the use of poison gas. He has kept troops in Afghanistan, but so have the past two Administrations, and there is a major reason why U.S. troops were sent there in the first place. When it comes to Russia, Trump has urged the Europeans not to buy oil and gas from them, which would cripple the Russian economy, and buy them from us instead, which would boost ours. This would help us and cripple Russia's ability to spend money on their military without firing a shot.
*Well, President Truman did, but only two, and for one heck of a reason. No one had pickled one off, since.
