The Human Condition (was: (What is broken and how to fix it !)

[Alan B. Mac Farlane]

Hi Guys.

My doctor asked me to write a book. He thinks this is good information
to put out.

What this is all about is the Human Condition.

The more heuristic multi-disciplinary knowledge you have at your
disposal the more you are going to get out of this.

The Human Condition is just as simple as when ducks come out of the
shell and will walk behind what ever is in front of them.

Humans do the same thing as ducks do in this bonding, imprinting and
mirroring .. however humans quack more about it and are a bit more
complicated.

Ducks just do it.

In the therapy setting, that is what is done with 'Therapeutic Touch'
where the therapists has permission for appropriate touch like putting a
hand on the shoulder in gentle assurance, or helping a spastic muscle
release ... just simple stuff to do that makes big results.

The scale that I am drawing on when people are born is from ZERO to NINE
... right now.

As 'we' .. err ... psychologist, psychiatrist, therapists, etc have
agreement on what we know; as this is a science, where fact meets truth.

Most of what I talk about here is self- evident, the more stuck in your
toddler tantrum the harder it will be to understand what is here.

So on with it ...

That Zero in birth .. is was is seen as Death. Failure to thrive is the
medical term, I think the Latin is 'marasmass' I dunno. This is where a
child is born, the mother will not touch or pick up the baby, there is
no bonding with hormones flowing like picking up a puppy and having
nuzzle kisses.

It FEELS GOOD ... all those hormones swimming in the new born brain ...
wakes it up, and start to make imprints and aliveness.

This Death was seen in the Blitz, London ... many orphans, had food and
diapers .. screaming babies .. no one to hold them except a few.

So the nurses and such .. looked about and picked the ones who would
live ... just willy nilly there were so many.

Then they stayed their with their charges and watch them die except for
the one in their arms ... that one lived.

So ... sudden infant death syndrome .. what ever you want to call it and
the like ... is this Duck imprinting starting right here with serotonin,
petosin and other hormones in the soup the brain nerves are swimming in.

That carriers on through the child's life .. this contact with the
parents, connection to the ancestors and being held while relexes take
place.

It is physical ... through touch .. and you MUST have another person
about to make this happen in the human body.

So what does a NINE look like, as we did Zero.

Nine is alive and connected to mom and dad ..

so that 90 percent of being off with Mom and an addict are fixed.

so that 90 percent of being off with Dad and having divorces, affairs
and dead children are fixed.

This is seen when a child is abused, raped, where ever horror done to
them .. and they make their way back from hospital to home.

Mom, or therapist from good fathers, and men who have good fathers ..
all have this skill set.

Mom just waits for the child to fall asleep, she spoons with pillows so
that a warm light hand is on the shoulder of the injured child ALL NIGHT.

Mom waits for it to be accepted, she stays there all night in contact,
and waits for the child to awaken, and later to break contact on their own.

When that happens .. the Nine is establish and that Post Traumatic
Stress disorder is 90 percent fixed.

More has to happen ... but we know what a 9 .. a nine looks like in healthy.

I have to leave 'we' talk behind now, as this is how I am putting things
together from what 'we' know.

In therapy sessions, using Applied Psycho physiology interventions, we
often go through the back door of the right address to make healthy happen.

It is rare that a 24 year old comes in, knows they have 'Duck Disease'
from poor imprinting and want therapy to fix it.

YOU SEE ... PEOPLE HAVE TO ASK FOR THIS SHIT in their life to get fixed
up ... there is no promotions just attractions.

Gentleness, and love is all that goes on here, and no pushing allowed as
it replicates the disease and sends it deeper into the Defense Structure.

So my usual client is age 40 or 50, in crisis .. before a Judge, having
a divorce, DUI with accident injury .. what ever crap has driven them to
realize that is 'them' that is the problem and they are "FED UP WITH IT'
.. want to change things.

She is about 4 on the zero to nine scale, unconscious, in her toddler
tantrum, educated, sophisticated, urban, like Maria Shriver or Wendy
Williams .. or any one you see on tee vee.

She is a lady who hates her husband, wants a divorce and can not make it
happen, she has sex with him and must be drunk in his presence.

The client admires me, there is 'transference' going on and all the
necessary therapeutic criteria for a good outcome are in place, we are
totally honest with each other and will fix anything that comes up ..

After about the 5th session, she comes like always and chats about the
previous week, boy scouts, church, etc.

Then she sums it up with a statement like 'I really feel my husband is
sick in the head".

I then ask ... 'Where do you feel that in your body'

She gets upset, angry, her toddler tantrum comes out.

'Gasp ... you are making it sound like I am crazy, you are mean, I just
want to punch you out'

I respond ... 'No, no .. nothing like that is going on, we are only
talking about feelings. Now that I brought up the subject of feelings.
How do you feel about that now" ... as I point my finger to the ground
in front of her to get her present (she is fragmented in her toddler
tantrum you know).

She then says "I feel angry and confused, I just want to hit you'.

I reply .. 'That anger you feel, where do you feel in your body'.

She responds with hesitation "I feel it in my arms."

I then say .. "Extend your arms and flick your fingers like you were
flicking water from the tips and says the words 'LET GO, LET GO' .. do
this twice."

"Lets see what happens .. maybe nothing will happen.

She does that ... and immediately starts to cry from her shoulders.

I reach over for a few minutes and hold her hand, and then her shoulder
until she is composed.

There are paper napkins and disposal bins available in all therapy
sessions of course.

I ask her how she is feeling .. and she responds "I am more confused
then ever, a moment ago I was angry and that is gone now. I don't
understand'.

I then ask .. as things are boiling away here and ripe for work.

"That confusion you feel .. where do you feel it in your body"

She responds "I feel it in my tummy, I feel like I want to throw up'.

I then ask her to stick her two fingers down her throat to elicit the
'gag reflex' as this requires the tummy to totally 100 percent relax.

Remember this is Post Traumatic Stress Disorder doing on here, her tummy
is trying to relax and heal and that is why she feels what she feels.

These are unusual requests that make sense, and she is brave, she does
child birth .. and makes it happen over the trash bin just in case.

She immediately starts to Belly Sob ... this is the first time in her
life she has ever done this at age 45 or what ever.

She never had that opportunity of a mom or dad holding her for hours if
necessary as she belly sob as a child.

So that part of her brain was never in use .. now it is kicking in with
the reflex making the PTSD go away and love burn through the hurt and pain.

She is quickly moving up to a Nine now right in front of me.

Snot is coming out of the brain, she is losing her illusions of childish
thinking as the brain connections are being made.

She magically starts to understand things that before would baffle her.

We have more work to do .. she is tired after this and her Defense
Structure wants her to shut down and sleep to make REM time so that the
brain can finish up its work.

When these reflexes and brain actions are allow to function .. then you
get a complete human being.

One client we had was found by some G.I.'s in Korea after removing some
newly disturbed earth with her throat cut. It was war, she likely lost
her mom. She was taken to a MASH unit, they patched her up, put her
into an American Orphanage. Later she became an American, came from
good parents who adopted her. No sex abuse, no child abuse vectors ..
and none came up in therapy.

When the reflex dropped on her, she went into a Fugue State for 9 hours
and relived the being buried alive with the therapist who kept a hand on
her shoulder the whole time. She awoke, and that 5 month old child who
was buried back there in Korea as it were .. was brought back to life at
age 50 or so ... she was in crisis, etc story going on.

People like Mitt Romney, or Rick Perry who just seem stupid or dumb ..
really are not.

They do not have all their brain function as these women in example, as
they did not have the parenting to make them a nine.

It is this warm hand on the shoulder, that gives strength to a person ..
to tell on them selves.

The strength to do the right thing.

To become a 10 .. a boy must stop masturbating and give him self to his
woman or partner.

Again this is a further mimic of what the parent/child dynamic of having
another person around to improve or grow, make brain changes.

Puppy nuzzle kisses again .. hormones ... brain imprinting going on and
we call it hot sweaty nasty sex.

A boy naturally becomes a man by giving him self to his woman.

He stops foxing around with everything .. he makes better .. Boys make a
mess.

She becomes a 10 just by picking a 10 .. and making the sex happen.

There is more after 10 .. there is an 11 or a 12, I see no peak to it in
super human performance.

As Jesus said .. you need God and one other or three together to make
it happen ... and he said ... everything I do you will do 10,000 times
better.

This human condition is what Jesus was talking about I respectfully
submit for your consideration.

Once a person has all their reflexes and PTSD out of the way, they just
naturally want healthy foods as they are not in First Gear with PTSD.

There is no Carrot or Stick mentality going on here .. as that is the
disease.

They have to want this ... like wanting to get married, wanting a baby,
family.

People stuck in their Toddler Tantrum .. well they do NOT want to hear
about it.

Nor do they want to do anything about it.

Does Mitt Romney have any clue that the garbage that comes out of his
mouth is cause he is a child in an adult body.

He is not a man .. he is a boy.

He is stuck in her Toddler Tantrum ... he is a 5 on a scale of zero to nine.

He is not a 10 by any means .. he foxs about on her.

He takes it up the ass for business reasons, they are buddies in crime.

Same for Obama or Clinton or Swartznegger .. Jimmy Carter is the only
Man in the group up there who is still alive.

He gives him self to his woman .. I hope you can see the difference in
what a man looks like with micro expressions and carriage.

Boys lies, cheats, steals .. boy stuff ... greedy and stingy, it is all
there is you have an eye and an ear for it.

He don't want to be a man, that would mean being generous and kind.

To get from his 5 to a 10 .. he would have to cry, imprint, change his
brain.

He thinks it is perfectly fine for his NASCAR friends to kick Detroit
car builders in the car nuts as who would care about that.

He is a numbskull .. a boy damaged psychotic.

The ones who think Romney is human, smart, great good news ..

well they have the same brain damage from not having a belly sob kick in
for example.

There are lots of reflexes and body actions that make the total brain
work, and all that has to be turned on with the help of another.

It is a requirement.

Again ducks would just do it.

Ducks would just drape their head across your back and keep you in a hug
of a love as your body was doing what it needed to do.

It is really that simple ...

They appear stupid because they have no emotions like any child molester.

At best, they have a Rolodex of appropriate responses in their head to
make it look like they are healthy.

The most you get out of them is pupil reaction and a white face as a
reaction to show fear ... otherwise it is flat affect of a monster.

The toddler tantrum is made by the Defense Structure for combat, for war.

So a 5 person just makes a mess as they are walking dead ... a 10 person
makes better as they are walking alive.

To get there .. it hurts some.

Adults take the pain .. children run from it.

C'est la vie nes pa !!!

sumbuddie wear blind sea