JOHN HENRY DEJONG - Admitted Abuser of Women and Bullshit Straightener

[Davey Zimmerman #274]

The original post on Facebook was deleted but some enterprising soul
saved it off.

I know some of you don't like links but I'm supplying one to back up the
conversion of the text from the screen capture to text.

https://imgur.com/a/iCSmUhs

The text? Glad you asked!
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"John Henry Now JH, you ask, why the hell would anyone CHOOSE to not
have sex for a decade?

Well, because I'm not into paying for it for one thing. But I took
myself out of the pool.

I took myself out of the pool because I'd come to realize that my
relationships were following a consistent pattern of abuse, and by abuse
I mean I was abusing my girlfriends. I never broke anyone's bones or
anything so severe as that, but that's because I was a raging asshole
and I knew that's where the line was that kept me out of jail.

This isn't going to be an easy read. I hope you all understand it's not
an easy write either.

Through three, three-year relationships spanning a period of about a
dozen years, I was an abusive son of a bitch. While it's probably not a
coincidence that those were more or less the same dozen years I was
strung out on coke, that's also just a bullshit excuse. The reality is
that I was broke, fucked up, and wrong. There was a huge, huge gulf
between the person I was in my heart, and the person I acted as in my
day to day life. And yes, that includes the employment of corporal
punishment with my daughter, and hooboy don't we have a social approval
structure in place to rationalize THAT kind of abuse!

Those of you with perception may be catching on to why integrity is such
a big thing to me.

The reality is that I was an abusive boyfriend. I was a domestic
abuser. I was a "wife-beater." That's not who I was in my mind and
heart. That's not who I wanted to be. But every time it ended up there.

It took a fourth failed relationship that was long-distance for me to
start getting a clue, and ultimately it took my daughter moving away and
refusing to speak to me for over a year before whatever it was inside me
finally broke, and I finally got the balls to face myself and admit that
I was an abusive son of a bitch and needed my ass kicked.

I had to get my bullshit straight, and until I did that I could not,
absolutely could not, inflict myself on another human being.

Of course I was also a handsome son of a bitch, and a persuasive one, so
I "got away with it."

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I'm glad he's straightened out his bullshit as he's gotten uglier an
progressed to full time mooching.

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