http://www.lifesitenews.com/news/im-going-to-kill-our-baby-a-fathers-worst-nightmare
BY KRISTI BURTON BROWN
March 20, 2012 (LiveActionNews.org) - I can’t recall if I first heard
about him through an e-mail or a phone call. But I know that when I
spoke to him on the phone, he was desperate. A normal working father who
already had three other children, he wanted to know if there was
something he could do to stop his wife from killing one of their children.
Now, if I stopped here with the details of my story and let you ponder
the paragraph above, you would understandably be horrified. Why would a
mother want to kill her youngest child? Why would the father have to
call for outside help to stop her? Do nightmares like this actually happen?
In the abortion issue, men are often treated as faceless, voiceless
individuals.
Yes. They do. All the time. But the detail I left out is that this
father’s youngest child was unborn. Although he and his wife had agreed
to have this child – had both wanted this child – she changed her mind
one day. And there was nothing he could do about it. Until a baby is
born, a father has exactly no say and no rights in whether that child
lives or dies.
Though I did what I could to help this father (I had a wonderful
counselor talk to his wife and got a great attorney to help him), in the
end, his baby was killed anyway. In a heartbreaking turn of events, the
mother canceled her first abortion appointment only to schedule another
one later on. The baby never had a chance. This situation remains one of
the most horrible and discouraging things I have ever been involved with
in my life.
As a mere outsider, I experienced such a feeling of helplessness. I
can’t imagine what the father experienced. When I heard that the baby
had been aborted, I felt responsible. Clearly, I hadn’t said the right
thing. Clearly, I hadn’t done enough. What must the father have been
going through when his wife broke the news to him? Though it’s been a
few years since this occurred, I’m sure the father will never get over
the intentional death of his child, caused by the child’s own mother and
his own wife. Can a more horrible thing happen to a loving father?
This father would never hold his tiny baby in his strong arms for the
very first time. He would never watch her – if she was a daughter –
dance in the grass with flowery shoes and a flowing dress. He would
never cheer him on – if he was a son – in the final football game of his
high school career. This father’s only memory of his child would be how
hard he had fought to save its precious life.
I share this story (with changed and omitted details to protect the
parties involved) as an illustration of the cruel silencing of men that
is taking place in our society. Laura Peredo and Nancy Flanders have
already written about why men should have a right to speak out for the
lives of children, just as women do. How can the pro-choice side command
men to shut their mouths when it comes to saving babies, but demand that
they pay for the methods women use to kill those same babies?
In a cruel twist of fate caused by an attempt to elevate women to an
“equal” place in society, the baldfaced lies of “it’s my body” and “it’s
my choice” have silenced men. Legally speaking, men have zero rights.
Fathers who want to protect their children have had their hands tied by
the law.
A judge heard the case of the father who was trying to stop his wife
from killing their child. And though I am told the judge wanted to rule
for the father – you could see it in his eyes – he found no legal basis
for doing so. The child’s mother was free to take this precious new
life, at her whim and pleasure. (Now, I do think that a judge could find
otherwise. In fact, different fathers bringing cases may be one of the
ways to change the law concerning fathers’ rights.)
Please, fathers, don’t give up. While I can’t make specific
recommendations on individual cases that I’m not familiar with, as an
attorney, I would say that fathers in general should consider
challenging the law if their wife/girlfriend/child’s mother wants to
have an abortion. Her “right” to kill your child can be challenged in
court. Speak out for your child. We can never be sure when a father will
get in front of the right judge who is willing to change the horrible
state of the law when it comes to fathers’ rights.
The baby is not the mother’s body. He or she is a unique individual. The
baby’s life should not hang in the balance of the mother’s “choice.” If
a father wants to stand up for the right of his child to live, his voice
should be welcomed and listened to. He should be given the right to care
for that child himself, if he is willing.
Reprinted with permission from LiveActionNews.org
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J Young
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