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Lizzy
Feb 18, 2007, 10:40:51 PM2/18/07
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I just recently was dating asex offender who was on probation and I
wanted to give him a chance. I tried to support him and love him the
best I could. He became abusive and started to use drugs again and
thought I was cheating so her basically threw me out of his life and
wants nothing to do with me. He revoked himself and chose to go back
to prison. I feel really psychologically traumatized by this person
and yet I still care for him but he and his whole family believe that
I am the reason he is back in prison. We have a no contact order for
the next 5 years but he has been in my life for awhile. I never knew
the truth about the severity of his illness. Do these people ever get
better? Part of me wishes I could talk to him I keep having dreams and
feel really sad about the whole situation. What is this persons
prognosis? Are there some who never recover? People think he will try
to write from prison but I think he is completely done with me. That
is a god thing now that I know the truth about him but I also feel sad
because he does have some good. The thing is now I feel that I have
been a victim and I am not sure that I will ever get better
emotionally I cry a lot. I wanted to be a part of his recovery but I
cannot because of the choices he made. Can I request restorative
justice? Also Peter can I have your e-mail I would like to chat with
you about some deeper sex offender issue questions. Thanks
Lizzy
wanted to give him a chance. I tried to support him and love him the
best I could. He became abusive and started to use drugs again and
thought I was cheating so her basically threw me out of his life and
wants nothing to do with me. He revoked himself and chose to go back
to prison. I feel really psychologically traumatized by this person
and yet I still care for him but he and his whole family believe that
I am the reason he is back in prison. We have a no contact order for
the next 5 years but he has been in my life for awhile. I never knew
the truth about the severity of his illness. Do these people ever get
better? Part of me wishes I could talk to him I keep having dreams and
feel really sad about the whole situation. What is this persons
prognosis? Are there some who never recover? People think he will try
to write from prison but I think he is completely done with me. That
is a god thing now that I know the truth about him but I also feel sad
because he does have some good. The thing is now I feel that I have
been a victim and I am not sure that I will ever get better
emotionally I cry a lot. I wanted to be a part of his recovery but I
cannot because of the choices he made. Can I request restorative
justice? Also Peter can I have your e-mail I would like to chat with
you about some deeper sex offender issue questions. Thanks
Lizzy
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Egalitarian
Feb 21, 2007, 1:46:55 AM2/21/07
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On Feb 19, 12:32�pm, positivesexfi...@hotmail.com (Positive Sex Fiend)
wrote:> Lizzy, I think that it is great that you took a chance on being in a
> relationship with a sex offender. Sex offenders are human beings that need
> love, just like everyone else.
>
> Yes, sex offenders can definitely change, but that means that they need to
> be the ones to take the steps to make those changes. The first thing that
> they must do (and it is obvious that he has not taken the first step, yet)
> is that they must take responsibility for their actions and the
> consequences of their actions. So if he violated his parole and ended up
> back in jail. If he believes that you are the reason he is back in jail
> then he hasn't taken even the first step.
>
> As far as his prognosis, it isn't good. While I believe that ANY sex
> offender can change and recover, I think that most never do because they
> never take that first step. It is so easy (and much more comfortable) to
> believe that others cause your problems and "make" you do the things you
> do. He hasn't taken that first step and so I think that you are better off
> without him. I understand your desire to want to be a part of his recovery
> (and of course he has good in him; ALL people do), but he needs to take
> responsibility for his own recovery and that will probably mean being away
> from those he has hurt.
wrote:
> relationship with a sex offender. Sex offenders are human beings that need
> love, just like everyone else.
>
> Yes, sex offenders can definitely change, but that means that they need to
> be the ones to take the steps to make those changes. The first thing that
> they must do (and it is obvious that he has not taken the first step, yet)
> is that they must take responsibility for their actions and the
> consequences of their actions. So if he violated his parole and ended up
> back in jail. If he believes that you are the reason he is back in jail
> then he hasn't taken even the first step.
>
> As far as his prognosis, it isn't good. While I believe that ANY sex
> offender can change and recover, I think that most never do because they
> never take that first step. It is so easy (and much more comfortable) to
> believe that others cause your problems and "make" you do the things you
> do. He hasn't taken that first step and so I think that you are better off
> without him. I understand your desire to want to be a part of his recovery
> (and of course he has good in him; ALL people do), but he needs to take
> responsibility for his own recovery and that will probably mean being away
> from those he has hurt.
Are you the same Paedophile that believes in fucking children and
posts in alt.support.girl-lovers and alt.support.boy-lovers under the
nym "Positive Sex Fiend'? Your email address is the same
Positive Sex Fiend
Feb 21, 2007, 1:33:39 PM2/21/07
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"Egalitarian" <xan...@ifrance.com> wrote:
> On Feb 19, 12:32=EF=BF=BDpm, positivesexfi...@hotmail.com (Positive Sex
> Fie= nd)
> wrote:
> > "Lizzy" <elizabeth.will...@gmail.com> wrote:
> > > I just recently was dating asex offender who was on probation and I
> > > wanted to give him a chance. I tried to support him and love him the
> > > best I could. He became abusive and started to use drugs again and
> > > thought I was cheating so her basically threw me out of his life and
> > > wants nothing to do with me. He revoked himself and chose to go back
> > > to prison. I feel really psychologically traumatized by this person
> > > and yet I still care for him but he and his whole family believe that
> > > I am the reason he is back in prison. We have a no contact order for
> > > the next 5 years but he has been in my life for awhile. I never knew
> > > the =A0truth about the severity of his illness. Do these people ever
> > > get better? Part of me wishes I could talk to him I keep having
> > > dreams and feel really sad about the whole situation. What is this
> > > persons prognosis? Are there some who never recover? People think he
> > > will try to write from prison but I think he is completely done with
> > > me. That is a god thing now that I know the truth about him but I
> > > also feel sad because he does have some good. The thing is now I feel
> > > that I have been a victim and I am not sure that I will ever get
> > > better emotionally I cry a lot. I wanted to be a part of his recovery
> > > but I cannot because of the choices he made. Can I request
> > > restorative justice? Also Peter can I have your e-mail I would like
> > > to chat with you about some deeper sex offender issue questions.
> > > Thanks Lizzy
> >
> > Lizzy, I think that it is great that you took a chance on being in a
> > relationship with a sex offender. =A0Sex offenders are human beings
> > that =
> need
> > love, just like everyone else.
> >
> > Yes, sex offenders can definitely change, but that means that they need
> > to be the ones to take the steps to make those changes. =A0The first
> > thing t=
> hat
> > they must do (and it is obvious that he has not taken the first step,
> > yet) is that they must take responsibility for their actions and the
> > consequences of their actions. =A0So if he violated his parole and
> > ended =
> up
> > back in jail. =A0If he believes that you are the reason he is back in
> > jail then he hasn't taken even the first step.
> >
> > As far as his prognosis, it isn't good. =A0While I believe that ANY sex
> > offender can change and recover, I think that most never do because
> > they never take that first step. =A0It is so easy (and much more
> > comfortable) =
> to
> > believe that others cause your problems and "make" you do the things
> > you do. =A0He hasn't taken that first step and so I think that you are
> > better=
> off
> > without him. =A0I understand your desire to want to be a part of his
> > reco=
> very
> > (and of course he has good in him; ALL people do), but he needs to take
> > responsibility for his own recovery and that will probably mean being
> > away from those he has hurt.
>
> Are you the same Paedophile that believes in fucking children and
> posts in alt.support.girl-lovers and alt.support.boy-lovers under the
> nym "Positive Sex Fiend'? Your email address is the same
> On Feb 19, 12:32=EF=BF=BDpm, positivesexfi...@hotmail.com (Positive Sex
> Fie= nd)
> wrote:
> > "Lizzy" <elizabeth.will...@gmail.com> wrote:
> > > I just recently was dating asex offender who was on probation and I
> > > wanted to give him a chance. I tried to support him and love him the
> > > best I could. He became abusive and started to use drugs again and
> > > thought I was cheating so her basically threw me out of his life and
> > > wants nothing to do with me. He revoked himself and chose to go back
> > > to prison. I feel really psychologically traumatized by this person
> > > and yet I still care for him but he and his whole family believe that
> > > I am the reason he is back in prison. We have a no contact order for
> > > the next 5 years but he has been in my life for awhile. I never knew
> > > get better? Part of me wishes I could talk to him I keep having
> > > dreams and feel really sad about the whole situation. What is this
> > > persons prognosis? Are there some who never recover? People think he
> > > will try to write from prison but I think he is completely done with
> > > me. That is a god thing now that I know the truth about him but I
> > > also feel sad because he does have some good. The thing is now I feel
> > > that I have been a victim and I am not sure that I will ever get
> > > better emotionally I cry a lot. I wanted to be a part of his recovery
> > > but I cannot because of the choices he made. Can I request
> > > restorative justice? Also Peter can I have your e-mail I would like
> > > to chat with you about some deeper sex offender issue questions.
> > > Thanks Lizzy
> >
> > Lizzy, I think that it is great that you took a chance on being in a
> > that =
> need
> > love, just like everyone else.
> >
> > Yes, sex offenders can definitely change, but that means that they need
> > thing t=
> hat
> > they must do (and it is obvious that he has not taken the first step,
> > yet) is that they must take responsibility for their actions and the
> > ended =
> up
> > back in jail. =A0If he believes that you are the reason he is back in
> > jail then he hasn't taken even the first step.
> >
> > offender can change and recover, I think that most never do because
> > comfortable) =
> to
> > believe that others cause your problems and "make" you do the things
> > better=
> off
> > without him. =A0I understand your desire to want to be a part of his
> > reco=
> very
> > (and of course he has good in him; ALL people do), but he needs to take
> > responsibility for his own recovery and that will probably mean being
> > away from those he has hurt.
>
> Are you the same Paedophile that believes in fucking children and
> posts in alt.support.girl-lovers and alt.support.boy-lovers under the
> nym "Positive Sex Fiend'? Your email address is the same
You tell me.
Delvia Logan
Mar 10, 2008, 5:53:40 PM3/10/08
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In article <1171856451....@k78g2000cwa.googlegroups.com>,
elizabet...@gmail.com says...
>
Lady, KICK this dude out of your life. Pedophiles don't change and they are
experts at BS. Grow up and don't buy his stories. Protect yourself and your
family!
elizabet...@gmail.com says...
>
Lady, KICK this dude out of your life. Pedophiles don't change and they are
experts at BS. Grow up and don't buy his stories. Protect yourself and your
family!
Delvia Logan
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